Atomic frequency and abstaining ttc boy

[atomic sagebrush]

Thanks for a great thread, ladies! I've officially added this one to the complete index for benefit of other blue swayers.

[gojulieogo]

Okay, so Atomic, just to make sure I'm understanding, does this sound like a good plan?

About a month before TTC, start cutting back from daily release to every other day. Then when I get a positive OPK, BD that night, twice the next day, and once a day for the next couple days after that. Then go back to every other day-ish. This wouldn't be an issue for DH; he'd go 2-3 times a day if I was game for it.

Anything there I need to change?

Okay, so slight change in plan because I got a fertility monitor to use instead of OPKs. Do I just switch "positive OPK" in my plan for "Peak" on my monitor?

[atomic sagebrush]

Yes exactly!! first positive = peak.

[gojulieogo]

Thank you! This is so exciting (slash terrifying)!!!

[gojulieogo]

Okay, DH wants to clarify, now that I'm cutting release to every other day: can he release more than once on the "on" days, and if not, why not?

(It's been less than a week and he's already cranky ��)

[atomic sagebrush]

Exciting news Julie!!

Releasing more than one time in a day is a pink sway tactic. It may lower sperm count and possibly sway pink. Now that having been said I can tell you that my husband could do that level of release and father a small blue army, but the standard dogma is not to.

[gojulieogo]

Okay, re-read and want to make sure I'm understanding; when should we stop using condoms? People are talking about O-3, O-2 etc... if it's 2 or 3 days before I'm expecting to hit "peak," should we be having unprotected sex that day too?

So, for example, if I'm expecting "peak" day on November 10, with our current every other day schedule, we'd be having sex on the 7th and 9th before starting official attempts on the 10th. Do we use protection on those days or not? And would it be better to adjust my schedule so we're having sex on the 8th and then have the 9th as a rest day before starting official attempts on the 10th?

[atomic sagebrush]

It's up to you and how much you believe in timing. If you DO believe in timing, you'd want to keep the condom on till 1 day before O and then have 3 attempts. If you don't believe in it (and it never worked for me!!) then I would have attempt on what you THINK will be O-3 or O-2, then see what happens the next day. If you don't get a peak, then possibly skip a day (or not at your discretion) and then DTD again (assuming you did not get a peak), take a day off, DTD etc etc etc. Then once you get a peak, hit it with 2-3 attempts if you can.

It's kind of hard to explain the reasoning for this but I'll explain the reasoning for NOT this LOL it's because we don't want to start up with every day attempts if you actually aren't about to O - like let's say you have a delayed ovulation, which does happen sometimes, then if you're attempting daily, you may end up with several attempts in a row, most of which are before the fertile window opens up. So it's better to stick to every other day if you're getting possibly close (like O-3, O-2) and then wait for the peak to hit it with the attempts.

[atomic sagebrush]

It's up to you and how much you believe in timing. If you DO believe in timing, you'd want to keep the condom on till 1 day before O and then have 3 attempts. If you don't believe in it (and it never worked for me!!) then I would have attempt on what you THINK will be O-3 or O-2, then see what happens the next day. If you don't get a peak, then possibly skip a day (or not at your discretion) and then DTD again (assuming you did not get a peak), take a day off, DTD etc etc etc. Then once you get a peak, hit it with 2-3 attempts if you can.

It's kind of hard to explain the reasoning for this but I'll explain the reasoning for NOT this LOL it's because we don't want to start up with every day attempts if you actually aren't about to O - like let's say you have a delayed ovulation, which does happen sometimes, then if you're attempting daily, you may end up with several attempts in a row, most of which are before the fertile window opens up. So it's better to stick to every other day if you're getting possibly close (like O-3, O-2) and then wait for the peak to hit it with the attempts.