Question about frequency (I did search first)

[Mums]

I have g/b/g

My boy was the only one convened with preseed and bd'd a lot. I want to say it took 2/3 cycles for him

My girls were first try

My last girl was a OHW after O (2/3 days after my ewcm left)

Should we do the same this time? One try a couple days after ewcm has left?

Thank you!

[foxtrotmama]

What seems to be working here is one attempt during your fertile period. I wouldn't go off of just CM, especially since other things we do to sway can mess with that. I would probably go with OPKS and have one attempt when it's positive. I would definitely skip the preseed though, at least to begin with. I think it sways blue.

[atomic sagebrush]

Don't worry about searching, I'm happy to answer and I know it's a challenge to find things sometimes.

EWCM patterns are really not useful for TTC in general or for a certain gender because they not only do not predict what day of the cycle you are on but they also can change from month to month. Many people, many months, will already have ovulated 2-3 days after their EWCM dries up and you have literally zero chance of conceiving with anything longer than 1 day after ovulation.

The important thing for TTC a girl is the one attempt. For reasons we don't know, having one round of unprotected sex in your fertile window seems to sway pretty strongly pink. Not a guarantee but it's been one of our most consistent tactics.

What I'd do is have you do OPK strips and have attempt at first positive if you don't care about timing, OR if you do care about timing, try to have that one attempt 2-3 days before you expect to ovulate. If you have regular cycles this is easy to do, if you don't, you may want to get a fertility monitor (I don't necessarily recommend this, but that's the only way to do timing with irregular cycles)

[Mums]

Thank you!

I'm very regular. Even after a round of meds to delay my period I went right back to a regular cycle immediately after. (I was recovering from surgery and unable to handle a period lol)

I'm a 34 day cycle. Ewcm is always right around CD20 like clockwork.
Period lasts 6 days

I conceived my last daughter several days after ewcm, one attempt

I never have any cm outside of ovulation.

[atomic sagebrush]

So if you want to try timing you'd have your attempt CD 18 but the problem is that you could O sooner or later and then miss your window.

Even if you got your daughter several days after EWCM I can assure you, you did NOT get her several days after O occured! This is 100% proven, no one has ever gotten pregnant that long after O. I say that because trying to have an attempt days after you last saw EWCM will be a very good way NOT to get pregnant. it's even used as a birth control method.