When to DTD so confused

[Jta]

My cycles are not regular. I haven't been tracking but want to fall pregnant this cycle.
I'm 27 my partner is 29.
I'm taking vitex.
It it best for partner to abstain until i get a solid smiley or frequent release everyday and DTD when i get a positive?
Any help would be great, thanks

[Jta]

Or with frequent release do i dtd everyday in fertile window?
My first child wasn't planned so i have no idea what we did, just unprotected sex on holiday multiple times haha

[foxtrotmama]

I don't think that either abstain or frequent release has been getting great results. I know a lot of pink swayers have been just letting their DH "Do what he does", and then TTC on whichever pattern works for their situation. If you're having sex more often than you plan to attempt, I would use protection.

One attempt at positive OPK seems to sway pink quite a lot, but if your cycle isn't regular it can be difficult to catch the egg that way. BDing every 4 days should usually land you with one attempt in your fertile period. E4D plus one attempt when you get a +OPK can increase the odds of conceiving in that cycle, but you might end up with a second attempt.

Are you doing any other sway tactics? Supplements? Things like 12 weeks on the LE diet sway pink more than one attempt, and taking tons of vitamin supplements (outside of folic acid, which is needed no matter your DG) can increase the odds of blue even with just one attempt.

[Jta]

I don't think that either abstain or frequent release has been getting great results. I know a lot of pink swayers have been just letting their DH "Do what he does", and then TTC on whichever pattern works for their situation. If you're having sex more often than you plan to attempt, I would use protection.

One attempt at positive OPK seems to sway pink quite a lot, but if your cycle isn't regular it can be difficult to catch the egg that way. BDing every 4 days should usually land you with one attempt in your fertile period. E4D plus one attempt when you get a +OPK can increase the odds of conceiving in that cycle, but you might end up with a second attempt.

Are you doing any other sway tactics? Supplements? Things like 12 weeks on the LE diet sway pink more than one attempt, and taking tons of vitamin supplements (outside of folic acid, which is needed no matter your DG) can increase the odds of blue even with just one attempt.

Thanks so much taking the time to reply.
I'll definitely try every 4 days. I'll buy a digital ovulation kit this month just so i can see when i ovulate.

Haven't been on diet but I'm only 50kg anyway. I will try and skip breakfast from now on but i am on cd5 already.
I'm taking cranberry. What else will help sway girl?
I hust finished by 5 week boot camp with a week break but will resume exercise tomorrow.

Thank you 😊

[atomic sagebrush]

If you want to get pregnant this cycle (hopefully, please understand that even under ideal circumstances only about 20% of people conceive in any given month) then I would have you have sex every 4 days starting after AF ends and continuing through until you're SURE you have ovulated (even if that means going all the way till your next AF begins)!

I would also have you have ONE additional attempt whenever you get a positive OPK. Just one. keep going with the e4d before and after this one attempt.

[atomic sagebrush]

Or with frequent release do i dtd everyday in fertile window?
My first child wasn't planned so i have no idea what we did, just unprotected sex on holiday multiple times haha

Neither abstain nor FR has gotten stellar results and both really cut odds of conception, so I tend to leave those out for anyone in a rush to conceive.

[atomic sagebrush]

Thanks so much taking the time to reply.
I'll definitely try every 4 days. I'll buy a digital ovulation kit this month just so i can see when i ovulate.

Haven't been on diet but I'm only 50kg anyway. I will try and skip breakfast from now on but i am on cd5 already.
I'm taking cranberry. What else will help sway girl?
I hust finished by 5 week boot camp with a week break but will resume exercise tomorrow.

Thank you ��

Even if you could just go vegetarian between now and then it may really help.

[Jta]

If you want to get pregnant this cycle (hopefully, please understand that even under ideal circumstances only about 20% of people conceive in any given month) then I would have you have sex every 4 days starting after AF ends and continuing through until you're SURE you have ovulated (even if that means going all the way till your next AF begins)

I would also have you have ONE additional attempt whenever you get a positive OPK. Just one. keep going with the e4d before and after this one attempt.

Thanks for the reply!
This is a very useful forum.
I feel like I'm talking to a celebrity. You come up so much when i google gender swaying tips haha

[atomic sagebrush]

Haha no not at all, just a mom like you who really likes helping other people hopefully achieve their dreams.

[Girl]

Hi everyone!

I'm new here and ttc a girl!
In my DH family, there are nothing but boys!
My first is a son, almost two! And we're planning to only have one more, so we would LOVE to have a baby girl!

My DH is taking cranberry sups.
I am taking baby aspirine sinds my AF stopped. And folavit sinds 2months everyday.
We DTD yesterday on cd5 and my O is expected around cd15.
Is it best to abstain and have one attempt 1 or 2 days prior to O-day?
Maybe with positive OPK?

I also have clearblue active balance gel, with a ph of 3,8.
When do i best start using and stop using this?