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September 23rd, 2017, 06:54 AM
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2 Gorgeous Boys & just TTC a Girl - Do you think we have a chance?
Hi everyone,
I'm a Mum to two amazing little boys (4 & 2 years old) and we've recently decided to bite the bullet and try for a 3rd baby. With both boys, I fell pregnant very quickly and only DTD (do the deed) once or twice due to my husband working away on rotation at the time. Probably very close to ovulation.
I would really love for the boys to have a sister so I read up on some natural sway theories. Here's what I ended up doing: This month I took calcium, folic acid and cranberry supplements. We DTD (do the deed) every day up to a 1.5 possibly 2.5 day cut off... Apologies for TMI (too much information) but I think I ovulated on Day 15 as CM on Day 16 went to sticky and then cloudy, which I think signals that ovulation has occurred? We last DTD (do the deed) on Day 13 night.
My cycle mostly varies between 27 and 28 days (though a couple months ago stretched all the way to 30!! Was sure I was pregnant, but false alarm) making it really hard to do the Shettles Method, which I know is widely disputed anyway.
Does this sound similar to anyone else's attempt at TTC (trying to conceive) a girl? Did you have any luck?
Please note I'll be thrilled to have another boy and have a name picked out for him already, we really do just want a 3rd child. I guess it's just natural to hope for a girl if you have a good relationship with your own mother and hope to have the same with a daughter of your own.
Thank you for reading xx
Last edited by StephieLC; October 7th, 2017 at 03:27 PM.
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September 24th, 2017, 12:39 PM
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Swaying Advice Coach
Hi Stephie.
I really really cannot recommend having sex several times in a row up to a cutoff. Not only does cutoff timing not even work for swaying, but we have found that having more than one attempt sways blue for reasons we can only guess at. We have gotten between 70-75% success with one attempt so in future months I would stop that frequent BD.
Cranberry has not been effective for us at all and the risks and side effects turned out to be so great that I can't in good conscience recommend it. Many of us on here, myself included, got boys while taking calcium and gave it up to get girls, so while I leave that up to you, I do want to stress that it's important to take just calcium without Vit. D as the Vitamin D may sway blue, and NOT do the massive amount of dairy that some sites recommend since dairy does have lots of other nutrients in it that may sway blue.
Let me know how I can help!! Trust me, we all understand what that feeling is like to want a mother-daughter relationship with a daughter of our own.
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October 7th, 2017, 06:18 AM
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Hello
Thank you so much for the reply! I really appreciate it. So I got my time of the month today, however, after reading your advice I'm glad I have a few new things to learn and try differently this next attempt.
I've just ordered some OPK tests to help me have a better understanding of when I actually ovulate as last month my CM was a bit confusing... I've tracked my cycle for the last 5 months and unfortunately it's not helpful at all: 28, 27, 30, 28, 30.
Can you recommened what we should aim for with DTD and how to use OPK best? So far this month I know to up the calcium (no vit d) and ditch the cranberry!
Thank you xx
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October 7th, 2017, 06:24 AM
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Oh hold on - just re-read your comment. So I should also ditch the calcium? Happy to do that! I'll also watch my coffee this month as I do love a couple of cups in the day.
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October 7th, 2017, 07:11 AM
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October 7th, 2017, 07:15 AM
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Calcium is a bit of an old school method and on this site it's not as widely used.
Coffee is an excellent sway tactic so keep that up! Just be aware of what you put in it, if you just have it with a dash of milk that's great. If you have sugar in it you would be better to have that with a meal as snacking (i.e. Raising your blood sugar levels often in between meals) is not recommended.
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October 7th, 2017, 12:05 PM
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Thanks so much for your replies! Great about coffee too (especially as I have 2 little ones already!!)
I picked up the Clearblue Ovulation Kits that give you the smiley faces - I thought the simpler the better.
I've just been reading up on the Girl Diet - know I'm late to start it but figured I'll throw that in now too. I'm quite a small size naturally, so don't need to worry about losing weight, but I could def do with lowering my blood sugar as I'm prone to snacking throughout the day etc.
So BD/ DTD - I'm still a bit confused about what would be the best pattern sway wise? For example should we BD every 2 - 4 days (using a condom) and then one attempt when I get a solid smiley face on the OPK? Or should husband and I abstain entirley, is it 7 days, before positive OPK? We're early 30's and I'd say my DH has a strong sperm count etc. as we got pregnant very quickly with our boys. Basically, what would be 'ideal' BD wise this month (taking all the romance out of it I know haha - lucky I have an understanding husband here!)
Keeping fingers crossed for this month - feel a lot more prepared than before! This is an amazing site, thank you for the support. If there's any other links that might be useful in regards to diet please do let me know
Last edited by StephieLC; October 7th, 2017 at 03:19 PM.
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October 7th, 2017, 12:41 PM
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P.S Here's a rough girl diet menu I've made - does it look ok? I've turned to Deliciously Ella's vegan recipes for dinner inspiration to add a bit more flavour.
Breakfast
Coffee or Tea
Lunch
hummus/cucumber wraps
salad and pitta with hummus
Salad with roasted sweet potato, topped with fresh baby spinach & goat cheese, with balsamic vinegar drizzled on top.
Corn tortilla with dairylea light spread, lettuce, cucumber and a couple of cherry tomatoes
Snacks
Unsalted rice cakes with sugar free jam/apple
Peppermint Tea with ricecake & unsalted butter & sprinkling of cinammon
Rice Dream
Dinner
Veg Rice
Fajitas (tiny bit of chicken, no guacamole)
Deliciously Ella Vegan Thai Curry - https://deliciouslyella.com/2017/09/...
Roasted
Veg & Chickpea Stew - https://deliciouslyella.com/2017/10/...chickpea-stew/
Mushroom & Herb Pasta - https://deliciouslyella.com/2017/08/...om-herb-pasta/
Creamy Spinach Pasta - https://deliciouslyella.com/2017/06/...0-minute-meal/
Tomato & Mushroom Pasta - https://deliciouslyella.com/2015/11/...ushroom-pasta/
Last edited by StephieLC; October 7th, 2017 at 01:32 PM.
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October 8th, 2017, 01:46 PM
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That's how tracking cycles goes. It's not just you, it's everyone. Keep that in mind when u read about all the people who say "timing totaly worked for me" because they have no idea when they ovulated and how long their cycle may have been that month.
Most of us go for one attempt at positive OPK but it's fine if you want to try at a cutoff, just don't DTD a bunch of times.
The calcium is up to you. It was easy for me to give up on it after I got boys doing that (and I did get my girl) but some people want to continue. Your call. Just avoid the vit. D and the big dairy intake.
We are getting great results with coffee for a sway tactic so please don't give that up for a sway!!!
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October 9th, 2017, 05:36 AM
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Thank you again for getting back to me! So, just to clarify about how abstaining works, is it not to DTD at all in the lead up to ovulation that helps better the odds? Or is it OK to still DTD every 3-4 days (using protection) and then one attempt at positive OPK
I got my DS2 by a one off attempt close to ovulation, which is why I guess I'm a bit hung up on whether we need to be doing it more frequently to lower DH's sperm count a bit. Know it's probably silly, but hard to shake it out my head. Then again, I'm pretty sure there was a bit more frequent BD with DS1 so... really one of them should have been a girl haha.
Also, am I ok to have peppermint tea and green tea with lemon in the evenings? Or does even tea affect blood sugar? I'm late to the diet, so don't know if it'll even be effective, but feel like it's probs still worth doing anyway?
Last edited by StephieLC; October 9th, 2017 at 04:23 PM.
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