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February 9th, 2013, 04:35 PM
#41
Last edited by harleyquinn; February 10th, 2013 at 12:15 AM.
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February 9th, 2013, 05:14 PM
#42
Any loss is hard. I lost my identical twins early but I saw them on an ultrasound three times. It's heartbreaking. I never completely understood what it was to lose a baby, let alone two. We are here to support each other.
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February 9th, 2013, 05:31 PM
#43
Dream Vet
I'm sorry harleyquinn, I actually understand why this comment 'if i were you' upset you i'm sure she didn't mean to hurt you, but I get that she did unintentionally. I'm also sorry your receiving hatefull pm's here, that's just evil, sick and insane from the people who are sending you this!
Back ontopic: I didn't sway with my boy's and even though I'm happy I didn't, I still have a desire for a girl. It just won't stop and only gets worse as time without my daughter passes... I get it hun, I do. I really hope you get a healthy baby and a girl would be a bonus! I also hope you still feel safe enough to share your story and feelings here and I hope the hatefull people will stay away or keep their comments to theirselves.
Mummy to a
girl, born sleeping
& two gorgeous & loud little boys
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February 9th, 2013, 05:49 PM
#44
Dream Vet
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February 9th, 2013, 05:54 PM
#45
Dream Vet
So sorry emmyroo, it is so hard It's not replacing your baby, it's needing another reason to go on. At least that's what it was like for me...
Mummy to a
girl, born sleeping
& two gorgeous & loud little boys
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February 9th, 2013, 06:50 PM
#46
Moderator
I was honestly quite surprised at the depth of my feelings at only a little less than 5 weeks. But no matter how much I wanted to treat it like just another late period, it just wasn't. And I didn't even have to go through having seen the bub on a u/s or heard the heartbeat and having it feel so much more realized as a person.
I do believe it's a biological instinct, that the moment your body and mind knows you're pregnant, no matter if it's just a tiny wee bunch of cells......it's a person with a lifetime of hopes and dreams. It's Mother Nature's way of ensuring the survival of our species, this strong protective urge.
I like what I've read on other forums, about this little angel bean being the protective angel guardian for your future babies. Or if you at all believe in reincarnation, that the soul of your baby is not bound in this earthly form, but its spirit is waiting to come to you. And the mortal 'vessel' if you will, that was lost in the m/c was simply a physical body that wasn't healthy and well for that spirit to embody. I kind of like that, that my baby is still waiting to come to me.
But I do feel like I'm a wiser and better person for having had to go through this. More mature and with a 'richer' soul for having had pain as well as joy. I hope that makes sense!
Me (38) and DH (38)
SAHM military momma to
DS1 (2004),
DS2 (who's all boy but loves to dance, though not in a tutu!) (2006),
DS3 (2009), and our rainbow baby girl DD1 (2017)
early m/c Jan 2013
Cycle #1 @ HRC (Oct 2014) - 6 retrieved, 4 mature, 3 fertilized and biopsied. 1XX and 1XY abnormal. 1XX no DNA found, rebiopsied and found normal, frozen.
FET attempt #1 (Nov 2014) - cancelled due to functional cyst. FET attempt #2 (Jan 30, 2015) - NT. Remaining embie failed to thaw.
May 2015 - started infertility treatments at OFC. Femara 2.5mg
July 2015 - BFP after second round of Femara. Aug 4 2015 -
6w4d
Dec 21 2015 -
mmc 7w1d
Apr 2016 - IVF Cycle #2. Converted to IUI because of uneven response and leading follicles.
Apr 19, 2016 - IUI with 3 mature follicles (2 right, 1 left), post wash: 17mil, 94% motility and 89% rapid motility. BFN.
June 3, 2016 -
5mg Femara cycle. 5w.
Sep 1, 2016 -
5mg Femara cycle. 8w.
Our rainbow baby girl arrived on Mon Aug 28, 2017 - "After every storm comes a rainbow". We are so thankful and grateful for every moment.
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February 10th, 2013, 12:19 AM
#47
Should of been deleted. NOBODY should ever be made to feel that way.
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February 10th, 2013, 12:30 PM
#48
Swaying Advice Coach
Here is the thing tho. (and I'm going to explain this ONE time and not reply to any arguments about it or even read this thread again so no one needs bother to try and engage me here or via PM because it will fly on forever into cyberspace with no response.) On IG the "delete this, delete that" jazz was way out of hand and it turned people into hypersensitive tattletails, and also encouraged people to be overly harsh because they knew they could say stuff intended to hurt feelings and enrage people, then it would be deleted.
We have made the decision on this site, to not be delete-happy. Only spam has been deleted, hardly anything has ever been locked even, and we are relying on the honor system for both sides - people are expected to be sensitive to others' feelings but at the same time are also expected to give people the benefit of the doubt and not immediately jump to the worst case scenario and read negative implications that were not intended.
It takes two to tango and so I really really hope that everyone will walk away from this and go peaceably about their business and keep this site being a very friendly and supportive place to be.
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February 11th, 2013, 12:20 AM
#49
Last edited by harleyquinn; March 27th, 2013 at 05:28 PM.
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February 11th, 2013, 10:59 AM
#50
I'm really sad and sorry that this thread has turned out this way--I don't like to see anyone feeling hurt on here, and especially those of us who have had losses. I really appreciate the fact that I'm not the only one who has gone through this, and I really want to keep that sense of community--and support--if at all possible.
our perfect family:
(8)
(5)
(almost one)
6
thank you to atomic for helping make my dreams come true
So happy for you Treens, congratulations Sent from my SM-A225F using Tapatalk
Healthy baby girl :)