Thread: D & C or wait it out?
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November 3rd, 2014, 03:55 PM #1
D & C or wait it out?
Hi Ladies, I went in for my first appointment after a pos HPT last week. i was 8w5d (waiting that long for an appointment was torture!) and the baby was about the right size but there was no heartbeat. It was a huge shock because my first pregnancy was so easy and this one was going the same way. Now I am trying to decide whether to have D&C or wait it out for possibly 4 weeks for a natural miscarriage. I had my first daughter naturally with no drugs and am not a fan of medical intervention....but the idea of carrying around this baby just waiting for the emotional and physical hell that is to come doesn't sound much better. I'm torn..Any advice/stories are appreciated! We were swaying boy and I'd like to tray again asap.
Thank you
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November 3rd, 2014, 04:10 PM #2
I'm in the same situation.I'm further gone though.went for our first 12 week scan and they told us baby had died at 8 weeks.i have decided to wait it out.it has now been almost 6 days since we found out.i have been bleeding on and off with a few small clots since friday.also had a few cramps and back pain.im getting a fed up with waiting now as im too scared to go out anywhere.i think if nothing more has happened by fri i will ask for the tablet by mouth.hugs to u x
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November 3rd, 2014, 04:26 PM #3
Thank you Eleena, hugs to you as well. Hopefully you're close. Mine was about 8 weeks as well, but it's only been less than a week so I fear I have a while to wait. No symptoms yet, but my bloating has gone down You're right, it's really scary not knowing when or where it will happen. Good luck girl.
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November 3rd, 2014, 04:34 PM #4
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November 3rd, 2014, 04:43 PM #5Dream Vet
All the best girls so sorry this is happening.
Artie have you had a second scan/opinion? Seeing as bubs was measuring the right size stranger things have happened than someone missing the heartbeat.Very blessed with
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November 3rd, 2014, 05:38 PM #6
I would wait and have a natural miscarriage. I have had two miscarriages and they were natural and it was emotionally draining but at the same time, I knew my body was doing just what it needed to. I am so so sorry for your loss.
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November 3rd, 2014, 05:54 PM #7
I agree with mommymachine...while it did take a few weeks start to finish, I wanted my body to do its job (or at least let it try) before I opted to do anything further medically. I guess I felt it was "easier" on my body that way. Hugs to you all!
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I'm so sorry Artie!
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November 5th, 2014, 02:11 PM #9
Oh no I'm so sorry. I waited and went natural but I only had a couple of days to wait. You have to do whatever it is that will let you sleep at night. HUGS
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November 5th, 2014, 03:48 PM #10
Thank you so much ladies. It's been a week and I am having no cramping/spotting. We're ready to move on and after reading it usually takes 4-6 weeks after the fetus passes I've decided to go ahead with the D&C.
I appreciate all of your kind words, and will hopefully have good news in another few months
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