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July 28th, 2015, 05:20 PM
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To have a D and C or wait it out.
So my loss was confirmed on Friday. Besides from some on and off spotting not much is happening. The cramping is getting very bad though. Very painful especially today. Do I just keep waiting? I know some losses can take weeks and weeks to miscarry. It is just hard not knowing if I will be waiting one week or 4 weeks. Would love to hear the pros and cons.
Last edited by mommymachine; July 29th, 2015 at 12:35 PM.
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July 29th, 2015, 04:11 AM
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I am in the same situation at the moment Had my scan toady and growth was not good and very slow heartbeat. My FS said that because it was so small that is will most likely come away by itself and there would be no need for surgery. She also said I have the option of getting a tablet that will make it happen faster (once I have another scan to make sure heartbeat is no longer seen etc).
I had a friend who opted for the tablet, but then after going home and thinking about it, changed her mind to the D & C as she couldn't just wait around for it to happen. So I guess it is what you are feeling at the time?
I am hoping that this all happens naturally and that I don't need a D & C.
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July 29th, 2015, 05:45 AM
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July 29th, 2015, 06:22 AM
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July 29th, 2015, 06:49 AM
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So sorry girls I've had 3 miscarriages and 3 d&cs. I waited for several weeks the second time but nothing happened. The third time I was so desperate to avoid another d&c I tried misoprostol twice but it didn't work. I think my body loves to hold onto pregnancies but everyone is different. I was so scared of the d&c causing me future problems ttc but the method is very gentle now and I was able to get pregnant quickly soon after. Physically recovery was quick and easy. I wouldn't hesitate to have a d&c if I needed it but I understand waiting if you can stand not knowing when/where it might happen. X
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July 29th, 2015, 12:39 PM
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Originally Posted by
ImmiNAddi
I am in the same situation at the moment Had my scan toady and growth was not good and very slow heartbeat. My FS said that because it was so small that is will most likely come away by itself and there would be no need for surgery. She also said I have the option of getting a tablet that will make it happen faster (once I have another scan to make sure heartbeat is no longer seen etc).
I had a friend who opted for the tablet, but then after going home and thinking about it, changed her mind to the D & C as she couldn't just wait around for it to happen. So I guess it is what you are feeling at the time?
I am hoping that this all happens naturally and that I don't need a D & C.
Hugs to you
Oh no Immi I am so sorry to hear that you are going through the same thing. It is just awful knowing that the baby most likely won't live. I am so so sorry. Big hugs to you.
Big hugs to everyone who replied to me and who has also gone through a miscarriage. I asked this question one day too soon it seems...my miscarriage began last night. I am relieved and yet sad all over again. But it is the closure that I need.
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July 29th, 2015, 03:14 PM
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July 29th, 2015, 07:55 PM
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JMO but with kids to care for I'd have the D and C. My two losses were very early but bled a ton and looked like a crime scene (sorry for TMI) and I would not have wanted to be dealing with it with kids old enough to be asking q's. Hugest hugs and prayers that this goes as easily as is possible.
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July 29th, 2015, 08:12 PM
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Mommymachine, if you don't mind telling me (you can private message me if you prefer), were you able to 'hide' it from your children - if they were around at the time? And is it an on-going thing, or over and done with quickly. Sorry if that sounds bad, I just have no idea - and I know that everyone will be different etc....
Atomic - I am wondering if I should do the D & C too now, as I know I couldn't have it happen whilst the boys are around and hubby at work (if it's a big mess/painful etc). I was hoping it may just be a matter of 'feeling' it come and head to the loo/shower and be done in a few mins? I have no idea what it is like, or how long it takes etc.....
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July 29th, 2015, 09:52 PM
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Immi I don't mind
Thankfully, DHs work is seasonally and he isn't working right now. So yes because of that I am able to hide it. My oldest knows I lost the baby (he overheard me talking about an ultrasound so I came clean to him) but I still wouldn't want them knowing what my body is now having to go through. It is painful and I am having contractions. It's an on going thing but it was with my other miscarriages as well, and they were earlier than this one. I do think everyone is different.
I am relieved that my body is handling it, but if DH was working it would be a completely different thing.
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