Am i being too picky and/or selfish

[stephk]

I think he could argue that this is not a suitable alternative given that he has a family to support and therefore his personal circumstances do not give way to a drop in income of £250 per month. It does depend on the actual role too, please do ask him how similar the 2 roles are, whether they are the same grade/corporate title/level and whether the work tasks are the same/similar.

[eleena2014]

stephk this is what my dh said
''No I received a letter notifying of redundancy and offering this "suitable alternative employment" and asked to confirm acceptance. I was not made aware declining would forfeit redundancy payment''

[eleena2014]

he also said
'Fairly similar except for one main difference which I have no previous experience of... Volunteer recruitment and management, but they would get round that saying they will offer training '

[stephk]

was he offered a trial period?

[stephk]

also, what reason has he been given for the redundancy situation in the first place?

[eleena2014]

he said the letter he got doesnt say anything about a trial.i have to go out now is it ok if we come back to this later please.x

[eleena2014]

reason was because they have had funding cuts

[stephk]

yes of course. I am going in 30 mins to a training course for the rest of the day so once DS is in bed tonight i will log onto my laptop.

[angielorna]

I'm sorry to hear about the tough times ahead. I agree, you need to TTC with a clear mind and be willing and able to accept a pregnancy when you are blessed with one. So no, you are not being selfish when you consider timing of pregnancy/birth etc. It's your body and your family!

As for your husband, I don't know, but in Canada it's called constructive dismissal if he's offered a job with less money instead of being let go. Currently our agency is being restructured so that is a reality for me too if I get pregnant. I was told if my job becomes redundant I would get a severence package but others were told that if they were offered a pay cut, it would be considered constructive dismissal and they could lawyer up, haha.

I'm sorry things are so stressful right now

Angie

[WantingPink]

I don't think you are being selfish at all. You are the one who has to go though the MS and panic attacks. It isn't like you are delaying for 5 years, you are delaying a couple of months. No big deal. Seems you might want to try and get to the bottom of the reason why you have panic attacks while pregnant.