Swayed Blue but Got Pink??

[Nann3r]

I have one beautiful DD with no swaying involved and i love her to the moon and back.. However i have dealt with and STILL deal with GD... :( i feel awful that i STILL struggle!!! It doesn't help that both my sister-in-laws are pregnant with boys :( i want to be happy for them.. and i really am! A baby is a blessing regardless of gender.. But the jealousy and bitterness hurt SO BAD!! I even had to unfollow one of my sister in laws on facebook (secretly) because i would cry every time she posted about her little boy due later this year..

All that being said, I have yet to find a family that swayed for blue and got pink. or a Gender Dreaming member who posted about it. Im sure there is a feed buried in here somewhere, but as most of you can tell, most people who deal with GD were hoping for a girl. It's not very often you see a mom who wanted a boy and got a girl instead.

I'd really love to hear from people who swayed blue and got pink. If there are any out there! :/ I'm TTC Blue in November and I'm beyond anxious about in.. and VERY nervous.. I just wanna prepare myself as best possible for the idea of getting another girl. I can't keep hurting like this.. What did you all do? Where do you think your sway went wrong if at all??? Or if it was just sheer chance that you got a girl instead having done the boy sway nearly perfect. How do you cope with girls and no boys? Would love to hear your thoughts and feelings with your own personal experiences! Where my wanna be or wished to be blue mommies at? :) :bigboy: <3

[Claire33]

There are a few ladies in my due date group who swayed for boy and had another girl. So they do exist. Any chance you can go HT for a boy (IVF with PGD)?

[Nann3r]

I figured they did exits. They're just hard to find since most people on the Gender disappointment board swayed pink. at least from what I could tell. Maybe I'm wrong

I would love love love to to go HT.. But My husband and we'll both sides of my family don't approve /: and it's just too pricey.. I'm open to adoption though! I would love to take my somewhat selfish need for a boy and turn it into a blessing for a child in need! But obviously a little boy of my own flesh and blood is my first desire.


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[Claire33]

I'm sorry you are going through this. I guess most people on this board want a girl, but it doesn't make your wish for a boy any less worth. I mean I have 3 of them, so I understand that you want one :) I'm sorry your DH is against HT. Your family doesn't need to know, so you only need to convince your DH, not the rest of the family :D

I do hope you will be able to have your boy!

Maybe someone on the TTC boy forum will be able to answer more:

http://genderdreaming.com/forum/trying-to-conceive-a-boy/

[srg09cag11]

I swayed blue but am expecting pink. I'm still so angry and disappointed that I don't really know what to say about it, I guess, although I've known for three months. I felt with every fiber of my being that this would be a boy, and I STILL find myself looking at boy items and believing it will come out a boy despite two girl ultrasound IDs. I guess I'm in full-scale denial. LOL

[Nann3r]

I was the same way.. My girl is almost four months old and she wears boy clothes.. Obviously I avoid the shirts that say awesome dude and daddy's little man haha:) but she's in tshirts hoodys and jeans all the time. I think she has ONE dress that I let DH buy for her for Easter lol.. It's hard. And my pregnancy was hard. I hated it.. It was all fun till I found out it was a girl.. That's why with my next baby I'm going to wait till D-day lol. So I can just be happy and excited the whole pregnancy.


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[Mulberry Smurf]

The sway stats for blue on this forum are super good, so fingers crossed your sway will work out! Good luck hun xx

[Nann3r]

Thanks so much! I'm pretty much assuming I'm destined to have all girl.. But I would kick myself if I never tried to sway ya know? I'm sure that's how most of us feel too on this site.


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[atomic sagebrush]

There are def. several members who swayed blue and got a girl. Some went on to get a boy, others went on to get another girl or to move on with their family as it is.

I think it is best to leave people who got opposites to share their experiences in their own way. Going over others' sways doesn't tell you why they did not have a successful sway - not even I can go through and pick out what made a sway produce an opposite. It sometimes can create some hard feelings to ask people "what did you do wrong so I can do better than you did" (not saying you're saying that, but as someone who did have a failed sway, that is how it FEELS). We try not to pick apart others' sways on this thread and instead to use the overall stats as a whole to be our guideline. :)

I have a thorough thread on what to do to come back from a failed sway here http://genderdreaming.com/forum/gender-swaying-general-discussion/18466-when-sways-attack.html#post290292

[Nann3r]

I def did not mean it this way. But I understand how it come across so I'm sorry to anyone who was offended by my post


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[Mulberry Smurf]

I read this as how does it feel to get an opposite from a sway so you can reassure yourself that life goes on and you can still be happy even if your sway does not work. I can see what atomic is saying though, I maybe read it differently as I haven't tried to sway (yet) xx

[friendlyboot]

I have two beautiful DDs. The second i cheekily swayed. I'm in two mindframes whether i have/had GD or not. I convinced myself i was having a boy because i was sick of the dreams. And 2DD came out a girl. Up and down. but very happy i have two healthy children of the same gender, they can *share* more things in common. I would be completely out of depth if I had a boy because i know girls too well. We are considering going for number 3. Maybe i'll do a little sway, but at the end of the day i truly believe it's 50/50. It's completely out of your control, unless you have medical intervention.

good luck.

i love flying the pink flag. girl power :)

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[Nelly0712]

I was the same way.. My girl is almost four months old and she wears boy clothes.. Obviously I avoid the shirts that say awesome dude and daddy's little man haha:) but she's in tshirts hoodys and jeans all the time. I think she has ONE dress that I let DH buy for her for Easter lol.. It's hard. And my pregnancy was hard. I hated it.. It was all fun till I found out it was a girl.. That's why with my next baby I'm going to wait till D-day lol. So I can just be happy and excited the whole pregnancy.


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I swayed for a boy for my third baby. I didn't find out the gender until birth. I was afraid that I would disrupt my happy pregnancy by finding out it was another girl, so I waited. I tried to convince myself that it was the son I had been dreaming of by going by all of the old wives tales. I used the drano test, the way I was carrying, and the wedding band on a string. All said boy. I knew better, but I was so hopeful. I was also afraid that it was our last baby, because DH said no more after this one, so I felt like this was my last chance. Birth day came, and I had another sweet baby girl. I was initially excited and in love with my baby daughter, but the next two days on, I started feeling the GD. She is now 7 weeks old and I am still crying over it sometimes and sad more than not. I hope my GD goes away or eases up at some point. I don't know if I should have found out at the ultrasound or not. I think it may have been easier for me to have found out though. Since then, my hubby has possibly reconsidered one more, and I think that is what has helped me the most with my GD. Hopefully, I'll be back on here in another 2-3 years and be a successful sway. If there is a next time, I may have the tech write it in an envelope and I may or may not open in private later on. You may feel differently, but it may be more helpful to find out the gender ahead of time to avoid GD hitting you right after birth. At least you will have time to come to terms with it before your baby gets here. Good luck and I hope you get your dream gender one day.