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cosmosis
February 26th, 2017, 07:15 AM
Good morning ladies :)

My temps are still up today and no bloodflow actually developed at any point yesterday. If I had not done internal checks, I would have had a little brownish discharge on a liner I'm sure. So far I didn't even stain a liner so I'm a bit relieved. I still feel crampy and I'm worried about what all this could be.

I do wonder how BD could affect me the next day. Most stories I read about women bleeding after sex say the bleeding happens RIGHT after or during sex. Mine didn't start until the next day in the evening.

Things are definitely tender down there though, when I took my temp this morning, my cervix started to hurt again and the thermometer doesn't even reach it (I think!).

So that's my update :) How is everyone else doing today?

XXforhubby
February 26th, 2017, 09:11 AM
That's great news Cosmosis! I hope all continues to stay well with you and your bean!

AFM- the fatigue has set in finally. I just woke up and could easily go back to bed! This week is another growth spurt for the baby, and I imagine that is why I'm getting so sleepy. The nausea was a bit better yesterday but is creeping back up now.

I can't believe I only have 3 more weeks left in the first trimester! I'm 9 weeks 1 day today [emoji4]!



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Roedinga1
February 26th, 2017, 09:49 AM
Cosmo, so happy to read your report this morning! I've been thinking about you a lot!
XX, time flies! I hope you can rest some today.
AFM, my sore throat has turned into a full blow head cold I guess. Congestion, cough, raspy voice, extreme fatigue (guessing that's a combination of pregnancy and virus). I get very mild waves of nausea but nothing crazy and it's normally when I've gone too long without eating something.
I've been doing daily wondfos and to my surprise they are still progressively darkening. I did my last frer yesterday morning and it was blazing which was so nice to see. I'm saving my last CBDWE for maybe Wednesday and hoping I may be able to get a 3+ weeks reading. I tried to do a little math according to my beta of 587 on Friday.


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cosmosis
February 26th, 2017, 09:56 AM
Cosmo, so happy to read your report this morning! I've been thinking about you a lot!
XX, time flies! I hope you can rest some today.
AFM, my sore throat has turned into a full blow head cold I guess. Congestion, cough, raspy voice, extreme fatigue (guessing that's a combination of pregnancy and virus). I get very mild waves of nausea but nothing crazy and it's normally when I've gone too long without eating something.
I've been doing daily wondfos and to my surprise they are still progressively darkening. I did my last frer yesterday morning and it was blazing which was so nice to see. I'm saving my last CBDWE for maybe Wednesday and hoping I may be able to get a 3+ weeks reading. I tried to do a little math according to my beta of 587 on Friday.


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Thank you dear, means alot <3

The thickened mucous can cause complications and infections for sure. Hope your cold subsides soon :) I wish I had more wondfos lol. I'll be taking my CBD on Thursday, God willing. I hope to see the 3+ as well. I'll be contacting a midwife on Thursday also. :D

1pinkplease.
February 26th, 2017, 11:09 AM
Glad to hear that you have no further cause for concern Cosmosis...great news.
I had awful cramps that lasted for most of last night and with each visit to the bathroom I suspected I may see that I've began to miscarry. Thankfully I didn't have any bleeding but the cramps actually kept me awake which was quite worrying. Anyway...hopefully that will be the end of that...but it just reminded me of how this is how it is now for the next good few months! Constant worry!!!
I pray that we all enjoy our pregnancies as much as able and that our little ones grow healthy and strong no matter what they put us through!

Wantanother2017
February 26th, 2017, 11:15 AM
Awesome cosmo! I would refrain from sticking anything in there for a bit. [emoji16]
For the first day yet, I felt like garbage yesterday. On and off nauseated but still eating lots of food through it, making it worse. Super exhausted as well.
Today I will try and eat better. So far so good.


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DesiG
February 26th, 2017, 02:57 PM
Good morning ladies :)

My temps are still up today and no bloodflow actually developed at any point yesterday. If I had not done internal checks, I would have had a little brownish discharge on a liner I'm sure. So far I didn't even stain a liner so I'm a bit relieved. I still feel crampy and I'm worried about what all this could be.

I do wonder how BD could affect me the next day. Most stories I read about women bleeding after sex say the bleeding happens RIGHT after or during sex. Mine didn't start until the next day in the evening.

Things are definitely tender down there though, when I took my temp this morning, my cervix started to hurt again and the thermometer doesn't even reach it (I think!).

So that's my update :) How is everyone else doing today?

Yay so happy to hear that! My sister in law had bleeding when she was pregnant we thought she was having a miscarriage, but nope my nephew is now 3 and a half. I think a bleeding sometimes can happen.

Roedinga1
February 27th, 2017, 09:24 AM
How are you this morning, Cosmo?


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Jconger
February 27th, 2017, 10:26 AM
Any early pregnancies making you nauseas? With my two girls it was just if I didn't eat and I don't remember being this early. Perhaps it is the stress of having two kids and my husband is busy in residency with our family all far away... almost 6 weeks. Just curious when all of you started feeling icky.

Roedinga1
February 27th, 2017, 10:30 AM
I'm 6 weeks on Wednesday and I haven't felt much nausea at all. I'm trying to be thankful but it's kinda making me nervous. I guess it's still pretty early. I don't remember being miserably nauseous with DS1, I was pretty sick with DS2 and I was miserable with my most recent pregnancy which is weird because that was my "unhealthy" pregnancy. I never vomited with any of them just nausea.


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XXforhubby
February 27th, 2017, 10:34 AM
My severe nausea/vomiting didn't kick in until I was 6w3d. I hope some of you get spared! It's getting a bit better for me but it's still hanging around. I'm 9w2d today.

How are you doing Cosmosis? Any updates?



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Butterflies buttercups
February 27th, 2017, 10:58 AM
I'm 7 weeks tommroow and my nausea kicked in just over a week ago and I've been feeling terrible ever since - feel sick all night, banging head aches, freezing cold all the time and generally tired - complete food aversions I cannot even think or smell some foods without heaving I've been living off bread and butter and ginger biscuits - I saw my dr today she said I have low blood pressure and a water infection so am Now on antibiotics for that Aswell - this is so far my roughest pregnancy :(



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amelia10
February 27th, 2017, 10:59 AM
I'm 8 weeks and it hit me around week 6, some really bad days where I can barely move ... On the couch all day Friday, dh had to come home from work, good day Sat and Sun and now bad again today! I'm hoping it will ease up slightly, so great to get a little relief at the wknd ... Hate feeling like crap all the time, takes so much out of you

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amelia10
February 27th, 2017, 11:01 AM
Oh no bb just read your post you poor poor thing it's so hard on you, just keep telling yourself this will pass and its a sign of a healthy pregnancy! You'll get through it hun xxx

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Wantanother2017
February 27th, 2017, 01:57 PM
Sorry BB!


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cosmosis
February 27th, 2017, 02:00 PM
How are you this morning, Cosmo?


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I'm doing good :) Thank you for asking. How are YOU feeling? Still POAS?

I couldn't get out of bed this morning and it isn't like me. I'm such an early bird that I start my day at around 4:00AM. Today, I was having my tea at 11:00AM. My breasts are super heavy and very sore, so I suppose this is all good?

No more spotting, just some very faint brownish tinge when I wipe. Still some cramping but I guess that's normal for pregnancy. I feel like such a noob LOL.

What I found very interesting was that I started spotting right on the 22nd day past conception (assuming sperm met egg right at O) and that when the heartbeat is said to begin. Perhaps it was extra circulation? Who knows.

You all are making me nervous with this 6 weeks business :worry:

gymone1
February 27th, 2017, 02:01 PM
My hands are shaking so much I can barely write this post - but my OB just texted that the chromosome test was normal....and we are having our dream girl! Thank you gender dreaming and everyone so much for all the tips and advice! Now I just need to finish work so I can go buy Carter's out of all the pink "Daddy's Girl" onsies to surprise my husband!

cosmosis
February 27th, 2017, 02:03 PM
My hands are shaking so much I can barely write this post - but my OB just texted that the chromosome test was normal....and we are having our dream girl! Thank you gender dreaming and everyone so much for all the tips and advice! Now I just need to finish work so I can go buy Carter's out of all the pink "Daddy's Girl" onsies to surprise my husband!

Congratulations!! <3 <3 So happy for you :)

Butterflies buttercups
February 27th, 2017, 02:05 PM
Can u have an early scan for peice of mind Cosmo?

Yes trying to remind myself it doesn't last long but it's hard isn't it - I had to pullover earlier in the car as I had all the gushing saliva and through it was gonna puke in the car !!

Amelia sounds like u have been suffering too I definately think we forgot how hard this first trimester is
I told my in laws yesterday and they weren't very happy didn't say much just looked a bit miserable and started talking about something else! So rude !



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Butterflies buttercups
February 27th, 2017, 02:26 PM
Amazing !! This group has so much pink I hope theres enough left for the rest of us swayers :)))
Congratulations u must be over the moon xxx


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XXforhubby
February 27th, 2017, 03:11 PM
My hands are shaking so much I can barely write this post - but my OB just texted that the chromosome test was normal....and we are having our dream girl! Thank you gender dreaming and everyone so much for all the tips and advice! Now I just need to finish work so I can go buy Carter's out of all the pink "Daddy's Girl" onsies to surprise my husband!

Huge congrats! That is awesome news! If you haven't done so already, please post your sway!

Yay [emoji175]! Now all you ladies that have heard pink, please share your pink dust with us who are waiting [emoji6]🤞🏻!!



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amelia10
February 27th, 2017, 03:28 PM
Congrats gymone wonderful news, let's hope the trend continues!!!! Good to hear your doing allot better cosmosis ... This pregnancy thingy ain't easy 😜

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XXforhubby
February 27th, 2017, 05:24 PM
Cosmosis- I'm glad things are looking good!

AFM- I'm so sick 🤢. It's really starting to take a toll on me [emoji20]. I know I should be relieved to know my bean is doing well, but I can't help but wonder if my other bean is to. I know I shouldn't let my mind go there, but when I'm so intensely sick it is hard not to. My scan at 12w6d can't come soon enough!



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cosmosis
February 27th, 2017, 08:08 PM
XX, so sorry you are having such a hard time :( I hope it lets up for you soon hun.

BB, I Hope you feel better soon.

Sorry to hear about everyone's MS.

My head is pounding, that's something I had with DD when I was around this stage too :( My fatigue is through the roof. I slept most of the day and cannot imagine going through this with toddlers in the house. I feel for all of you <3

Jconger
February 28th, 2017, 01:02 AM
Congrats gymone! Let's continue with getting all positive sways!! Xx are you expecting twins?! I think I missed that somehow.

XXforhubby
February 28th, 2017, 08:05 AM
They found another sac with a fetal pole but no heart beat measuring 16 days behind my other bean. They said it could be a vanishing twin or a tad too early for the other one. Either way, they said they want another scan in 4 weeks. Even if it's a vanishing twin, they said due to the increase in hormones my symptoms would be stronger. Boy are they right about that!



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Butterflies buttercups
February 28th, 2017, 12:20 PM
Bless u xx sounds like you're really suffering too ! I bet u r looking forward to the next scan though

I've had no symptoms today which is suddenly worrying :-/


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XXforhubby
February 28th, 2017, 12:43 PM
I'm sure everything is ok Butterfly, hopefully you're just getting a little break!

I would love a break, haha! I can't wait for a reprieve!



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Wantanother2017
February 28th, 2017, 12:53 PM
That's happens for me too BB, one day I'm just a little tired, the next the nausea is horrible and I'm tired, etc...


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Butterflies buttercups
February 28th, 2017, 01:03 PM
Ok that's reassuring thank u! I always think the worst !
Not that I'm wishing for nausea to come back as yesterday was just awful but it's reassuring all the time u feel terrible haha!

I'm actually attempting to eat spag bowl tonight I've not had it in 4 months can't wait !!



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cosmosis
February 28th, 2017, 01:20 PM
Good morning :) or afternoon lol.

I got a break from the fatigue today and I'm SO GLAD. I feel alot more alert today :) So alert that I posted my sway before I don't feel like it! haha.

Here it is: http://genderdreaming.com/forum/add-your-boy-sway-/58283-cosmosis-ttc-boy-sway-attempt.html#post890573

1pinkplease.
February 28th, 2017, 03:49 PM
Hi all...glad to hear some of you are feeling better, and to those that aren't...feel better soon!

sigrid86
March 1st, 2017, 06:52 AM
Hi everyone,

I've been away for a while because I just didn't want to be focusing too much on the pregnancy and the baby's gender, which is difficult around here.
But yesterday we found out the results of the blood test and it turns out we'll be having a boy. I was trembling because I didn't want to believe it. I'm really disappointed because I think I had a really good sway and we conceived a girl last year without swaying (I even did lots of things that can be seen as a boy sway). For me it's also hard because it feels a girl isn't in the cards for us anymore and we had only one chance last year.
I feel like we had to face the unimaginable last year and therefore believe we 'deserve' to have a little luck now, but of course life doesn't work that way. It's just really hard...I always imagined myself having 2 girls, and at least one. But now I only have 1 chance left and looking at the fact that swaying doesn't do anything for me, I don't know what to do anymore. I feel bad that I think like this about this little being that grows inside of me, because he deserves as much love as if it was a girl. I hope that when I'll feel him, it will get better...
I hope this little boy will be amazing, sweet and kind because I think I'll need it. So please, if you have a son and have great stories about having a son, please shoot. I really need it!

Roedinga1
March 1st, 2017, 07:35 AM
Hi Sigrid, I'm new here so I'm not entirely sure of your situation and if you have any children yet or not. However, I have 2 beautiful, sweet, hilarious, smart little boys who absolutely adore their momma. My oldest is almost 6 and my youngest is almost 3. The first one was not entirely planned but the second I tried the old "timing" sway without really even having a clue when I ovulated and it failed (clearly). At my 20 week anatomy scan when the tech told me it was a boy, it took everything in me not to burst into tears. I was able to hold it together until we got home and then I laid on my DH and had a really good cry. Part of me wished he was a girl for my entire pregnancy. I really think the thing that got me excited about another boy was that I had a name that I really loved for him. Anyway, when he was born and I saw his sweet little face and got to hold him, I never looked back. I had this beautiful, healthy piece of me and my DH and he was meant to be a part of our family. Both of our boys bring so much joy to our lives every single day and I wouldn't trade either of them for a little girl. There is something to be said about the love a little boy has for his momma. It's special and a true honor.
I'm currently 6 weeks pregnant with our 3rd and final little bean. I didn't really sway as I found this site 5 days before my attempt. What will be will be. But I can honestly say, I would love a little girl but would be proud to be a "boy mom!" Little boys are awesome!
I hope this helps you a little. I'm happy to have you join our little group!


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sigrid86
March 1st, 2017, 07:52 AM
Hi Roedinga, my situation in short is as follows: I got pregnant last year in December of a girl. I was over the moon because I always had a small preference for a girl; I also see myself more as a girl mom...Everything was good, the NIPT test was fine at 12w and I was feeling great. Until they found some abnormalities on the 24w US. It felt like the world stood still. We did an amnio afterwards which was also good. So eventually, I went to the best specialists of the country every week since that 24w US, but no one knew what it was but it wasn't good. The uncertainty made us crazy. Eventually our sweet little girl Liv died in my womb at 30w pregnancy and I had to give labor to a dead child (which is really traumatic).
So maybe you understand a bit better? I always had a small preference but if it would have been a boy last year, I maybe would have liked a boy right now. The GD is sooo much more present now. And it hurts that life disappoints me again.
Thank you for sharing your great experience with your sons. It really makes me feel so good to hear these stories, I really need it. And I really wish that I'll feel this overwhelming love as soon as he's born.
I hear a lot of stories now from boy moms who are over the moon with their boys and saying me that they have a special bond with their mom. I really hope so :)
Again, thank you so much for making me feel a bit better :kiss:

XXforhubby
March 1st, 2017, 08:48 AM
Oh Sigrid, I cannot imagine going through what you have! My heart just breaks for you [emoji174]!

I swayed for a girl back in 2014 for my DH. It took us 9 cycles and 8 month to conceive him. I too had an NIPT done. TBH, I didn't have a gender preference but swaying back then gave me a sense of confidence. When I heard boy, I was crushed for a bit so I can only imagine how those that have a strong gender preference would feel.

Fast forward to now: he is 15mo and it would be an understatement to say that he is the light of all of our lives [emoji4]! I love all of my boys, but my DS3 is so special! He is so curious about how things work and is SUPER snuggly with me! He is MY baby through and through- we are best buds! I know he is little still, but he loves doing everything with me no matter what it is. It's like he just wants to be with me [emoji4]. I didn't have that with my other boys, although we too are very close. I hope and pray as you continue your relationship with your DS, your bond will grow into something so special that you cannot ever imagine it any differently!

(((Huge Hugs)))



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BabsNMK
March 1st, 2017, 09:13 AM
Sigrid I just wanted to crash to tell you a little about my boys. I am definitely NOT a boy mom. I hate cars, trucks, spaceships...pretty much everything that is stereotypically boy. I have really severe GD after finding out I'm having boy #3. All that being said, I wouldn't trade my boys for any girl. My 4yr old is sweet, super smart, inquisitive, and in general a very easy child. He loves nothing more than to cuddle up in bed and talk about the planets of our solar system or explain to me why he wants to travel to which country.

My 20 month old is super silly, loves to dance to literally music only he hears. He does stuff to make himself laugh...and he does laugh all the time. He hated cuddling as a baby but now he always is hugging and kissing. He flirts with everyone he meets always waving bye-bye and blowing kisses.

The reason I relay these stories is that sure they are not what I envisioned for my children initially. I always pictured myself raising little girls, and I truly don't like doing the boy things, but it doesn't matter to me their gender because of how amazing they are as individuals. The pain of knowing I'll never have a little girl is pretty immense (although there's a possibility for you) but I'm so glad I have these two boys to show me how awesome little boys can be. They are not (at this age) super hyper or rowdy or dirty, but they are sweet and loving and more than I could've hoped for. We just don't like to play with the same things :)

ETA-and if you truly are set for #2 and still want a girl, you can always go HT if you believe in that. I have a failed sway too and wouldn't risk swaying again.

Dreamsister
March 1st, 2017, 09:19 AM
Dear Sigrid. Just want to pop by and say I am sorry your sway did not work. I hope you will feel better soon and come to acceptance. I am the proud mother of 3 sons. All 3 are lovely, caring and very different in personalities. I have a very strong and special bond with all of them, specially my youngest. I feel so gratefull to have these 3 children in my life. I am sure you will fall in love with your son as soon as he is born. Try to think of him as a unique human being/child and not only as a he. Of course gender matters, but the most important about the child is it's personality. A girl is no garantee of a stronger bond betweeen mother and child. That being said I also completely understand your desire of a girl. But Hey maybe you will get her one day. Is PGD and option for you in the future?


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sigrid86
March 1st, 2017, 09:19 AM
Thanks a lot XX!

I can relate with your sway in 2014 then. 8 months is a long time! Do you have a feeling of what it could be now or totally not? When will you know??

It's really comforting to hear stories like yours with DS3. It's like this baby was really meant to be and is showing it even more :) I hope this baby boy will be just like yours!
It's just strange for me because I even can't imagine the bond between a mom and child since I don't have any living children yet. I just hope it'll be as strong as I hear from most people.

Is this baby your last btw?

:bighug:

sigrid86
March 1st, 2017, 09:30 AM
Sigrid I just wanted to crash to tell you a little about my boys. I am definitely NOT a boy mom. I hate cars, trucks, spaceships...pretty much everything that is stereotypically boy. I have really severe GD after finding out I'm having boy #3. All that being said, I wouldn't trade my boys for any girl. My 4yr old is sweet, super smart, inquisitive, and in general a very easy child. He loves nothing more than to cuddle up in bed and talk about the planets of our solar system or explain to me why he wants to travel to which country.

My 20 month old is super silly, loves to dance to literally music only he hears. He does stuff to make himself laugh...and he does laugh all the time. He hated cuddling as a baby but now he always is hugging and kissing. He flirts with everyone he meets always waving bye-bye and blowing kisses.

The reason I relay these stories is that sure they are not what I envisioned for my children initially. I always pictured myself raising little girls, and I truly don't like doing the boy things, but it doesn't matter to me their gender because of how amazing they are as individuals. The pain of knowing I'll never have a little girl is pretty immense (although there's a possibility for you) but I'm so glad I have these two boys to show me how awesome little boys can be. They are not (at this age) super hyper or rowdy or dirty, but they are sweet and loving and more than I could've hoped for. We just don't like to play with the same things :)

ETA-and if you truly are set for #2 and still want a girl, you can always go HT if you believe in that. I have a failed sway too and wouldn't risk swaying again.

Hi BabsNMK,

I'm really sorry that you didn't get your girl either. I can imagine the pain is pretty immense! Are you all the time feeling jealous of girl moms? I just hate that I'm so jealous of girl moms and that this may never go away...
I also hate the boy toys, just like you! I have 2 little nephews who I adore (and they adore me), but I really don't like the cars, the trucks, etc. I would just love to have a little girl to watch Frozen with.

It's really great hearing how amazing your sons are. Just like the other stories, it's so nice to hear! And maybe we're just making the idea of having a girl so much better than it is, don't you think?
Since when do you know you'll be having another boy? And how do you cope with that? Does your DH understands your feelings or not?

I was indeed thinking of maybe going HT, but I live in Europe and hear that the US is really more expensive (and it's already a LOT of money) and I hear that centers in Europe are not doing it anymore because it's illegal :s

Thanks a lot for the comforting words! I'm wishing you all the best in your pregnancy and hope you'll get another amazing son X

WelcomeBaby
March 1st, 2017, 09:33 AM
Sigrid, I kind of stumbled upon your postings and wanted to let you know that for me it was similar - I had bad, bad gender disappointment from when I learned I was expecting a boy up until his 1st birthday or so. So it took me really, really long to overcome it. And you know what, now I wholeheartedly agree with the ladies here who shared these beautiful details about their little sons!! My boy is the funniest, cutest, most humorous child, very affectionate (hugs and kisses all other kids every morning when we arrive at his daycare center :bigsmile:), sensitive, entertaining, curious and literally 293742093 more awesome things that I never expected!! So I'm sure that when your baby is here you will soon discover a multitude of adorable characteristics and traits that make him totally lovable, and totally your son. :heart:
And who knows, he might get a little sister in the not too distant future! :happy:

sigrid86
March 1st, 2017, 09:37 AM
Dear Sigrid. Just want to pop by and say I am sorry your sway did not work. I hope you will feel better soon and come to acceptance. I am the proud mother of 3 sons. All 3 are lovely, caring and very different in personalities. I have a very strong and special bond with all of them, specially my youngest. I feel so gratefull to have these 3 children in my life. I am sure you will fall in love with your son as soon as he is born. Try to think of him as a unique human being/child and not only as a he. Of course gender matters, but the most important about the child is it's personality. A girl is no garantee of a stronger bond betweeen mother and child. That being said I also completely understand your desire of a girl. But Hey maybe you will get her one day. Is PGD and option for you in the future?


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Hi Dreamsister,
Thanks a lot for the support! And congratulations on your baby girl! I hope I'll feel better soon too...with what we've been through last year I'm also aware that I need this child a chance and try to enjoy this pregnancy because he deserves it as much as if it was a girl. So I hope the feelings will go away soon. Maybe when I'll feel him?
It's so nice to hear that you have a strong bond with all 3 of your sons. I know I should look at him as a personality. Sometimes I think that my girl would maybe be a real bitch :) And your right, a girl isn't a guarantee for a better bond. I just need to remind myself a lot of that!
Did you go HT for your DD now?
PGD is really an option now! If you have more info about it, please let me know (I see you're from Europe too).

Thanks a lot :kiss:

sigrid86
March 1st, 2017, 09:42 AM
Sigrid, I kind of stumbled upon your postings and wanted to let you know that for me it was similar - I had bad, bad gender disappointment from when I learned I was expecting a boy up until his 1st birthday or so. So it took me really, really long to overcome it. And you know what, now I wholeheartedly agree with the ladies here who shared these beautiful details about their little sons!! My boy is the funniest, cutest, most humorous child, very affectionate (hugs and kisses all other kids every morning when we arrive at his daycare center :bigsmile:), sensitive, entertaining, curious and literally 293742093 more awesome things that I never expected!! So I'm sure that when your baby is here you will soon discover a multitude of adorable characteristics and traits that make him totally lovable, and totally your son. :heart:
And who knows, he might get a little sister in the not too distant future! :happy:

Oh WelcomeBaby, that's really so nice of you!! It scares me a bit that it lasted until his 1st birthday :) I'm afraid that I won't feel a lot of love when he'll be born.
But it's great to know you overcame it and that you're so fond of your son. I can really feel your love for him, that's beautiful! I so hope that I'll be just like you (or maybe feel it a little bit sooner even ;)). It's nice to hear these stories, so really thanks a lot to make me feel a little better :kiss:

gymone1
March 1st, 2017, 10:14 AM
Hi Sigrid,
I just wanted to add to what everyone is saying. I had a little boy in 2015 - when I found out that it was a boy I cried for days. It just didn't feel real because I felt like a girl mom. It takes a few weeks for it to sink in but just remember that every baby is perfect and for a reason. Once I started to accept we were having and boy and picked out some cute boy clothes it got so much easier. Now our little boy just turned 20 months and is the light of our life! He is so sweet, smart, and funny! He LOVES his mommy and I get so many hugs and kisses. All the girls at daycare push and bite him but he just goes about his day being the nicest baby around! We swayed for a girl this time because I had always hoped for a boy and girl but now I am really nervous about having a girl because being a "boy" mom is so easy and fun. While I was thrilled to hear we are having a girl, I know if the answer was boy this time there would be no tears. Having a little boy is the greatest gift a mom can have! I feel your pain but I hope in a few weeks you will realize what a wonderful "boy" mom you will be and I KNOW when you see him you will be totally in LOVE forever.

sigrid86
March 1st, 2017, 10:29 AM
Hi Sigrid,
I just wanted to add to what everyone is saying. I had a little boy in 2015 - when I found out that it was a boy I cried for days. It just didn't feel real because I felt like a girl mom. It takes a few weeks for it to sink in but just remember that every baby is perfect and for a reason. Once I started to accept we were having and boy and picked out some cute boy clothes it got so much easier. Now our little boy just turned 20 months and is the light of our life! He is so sweet, smart, and funny! He LOVES his mommy and I get so many hugs and kisses. All the girls at daycare push and bite him but he just goes about his day being the nicest baby around! We swayed for a girl this time because I had always hoped for a boy and girl but now I am really nervous about having a girl because being a "boy" mom is so easy and fun. While I was thrilled to hear we are having a girl, I know if the answer was boy this time there would be no tears. Having a little boy is the greatest gift a mom can have! I feel your pain but I hope in a few weeks you will realize what a wonderful "boy" mom you will be and I KNOW when you see him you will be totally in LOVE forever.

Hi gymone, I really get the shivers hearing all these beautiful stories. And it's great to know I'm not alone with these feelings. So many others feel just the same. It gives me hope that all of you found the strength to overcome these thoughts. It's a good tip to pick out some baby clothes, hopefully that'll make it better.
That's funny, I also have friends who first wanted a girl and after their boy they didn't care anymore. Some even wanted another boy :) It's amazing how a little human being can change your life and make you feel so loved. I really hope I'll be feeling it too.
Thanks a lot for the amazing support! :kiss:

Butterflies buttercups
March 1st, 2017, 10:37 AM
Sigrid I think u have been given some fantastic feed back from the boy mums on here so I don't have much else to add but I have two boys and it is lovely - they are caring smart and so funny - my two are the best of friends Aswell it is awesome having boys so don't fear u will fall in love with him I'm sure when u see him!!

I have swayed for a girl after my two boys and praying it's worked but I honestly think il be in the same boat as u as I just feel it's a boy and my sway is more similar to some failed sways than successful ones :(
I've prepared my self already hat I'm prob having three boys and I don't think we will ever got HT now due to having three kids already but at least that is an option for u in the future :)
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Throwaway_panther
March 1st, 2017, 11:01 AM
Oh WelcomeBaby, that's really so nice of you!! It scares me a bit that it lasted until his 1st birthday :) I'm afraid that I won't feel a lot of love when he'll be born.
But it's great to know you overcame it and that you're so fond of your son. I can really feel your love for him, that's beautiful! I so hope that I'll be just like you (or maybe feel it a little bit sooner even ;)). It's nice to hear these stories, so really thanks a lot to make me feel a little better :kiss:

I just wanted to say -- don't be scared of that, either. It could happen, and I was convinced I'd have horrible bonding and poatpartum depression with my daughter, and I bonded completely at birth. It's truly amazing how quickly my whole world changed once she was born, and I think that could really happen with you, especially since you'll be getting a healthy baby ♡

BabsNMK
March 1st, 2017, 11:04 AM
Hi BabsNMK,

I'm really sorry that you didn't get your girl either. I can imagine the pain is pretty immense! Are you all the time feeling jealous of girl moms? I just hate that I'm so jealous of girl moms and that this may never go away...
I also hate the boy toys, just like you! I have 2 little nephews who I adore (and they adore me), but I really don't like the cars, the trucks, etc. I would just love to have a little girl to watch Frozen with.

It's really great hearing how amazing your sons are. Just like the other stories, it's so nice to hear! And maybe we're just making the idea of having a girl so much better than it is, don't you think?
Since when do you know you'll be having another boy? And how do you cope with that? Does your DH understands your feelings or not?

I was indeed thinking of maybe going HT, but I live in Europe and hear that the US is really more expensive (and it's already a LOT of money) and I hear that centers in Europe are not doing it anymore because it's illegal :s

Thanks a lot for the comforting words! I'm wishing you all the best in your pregnancy and hope you'll get another amazing son X

My boy does watch Frozen (for about 15 minutes) but he loves Despicable Me lately and I can get on board with that too. Maybe one day I. An convince him to watch Beauty and the Beast.

Yes I'm extremely jealous of friends with girls but in all honesty, a lot of them are jealous about my boys. I think part of it stems from the grass is always greener. For me it's always been about a girl but I imagine I'd probably want a boy too if I didn't have one, just maybe not with such intensity.

We found out at 12 weeks. It was very obvious he was a boy which was confirmed at 14 weeks via bloodwork. Coping has been a process. A lot of tears, a lot of anger. I'm actually in therapy because I battle with prenatal depression too. It's not going away but it is lessening. I thankfully have a very understanding and compassionate DH but it's also painful for him too. He had some mild disappointment but his pain stems more from the fact that he can't make it better for me. But I know it will get better. I have never regretted my children at birth despite having some form of GD with each of them. I love them more than I ever thought possible.

Shannshaff
March 1st, 2017, 11:17 AM
Sigrid, I am crashing to share my story with you. I love all of my boys and they are all wonderful, but my last pregnancy was really rough for a few months. I swayed with DS3 (albeit lame) and I was crushed when he was a boy. I was so so happy to have him, but knew we would have at least another child to try for my girl again. So with my last pregnancy, we swayed again. I was following the LE diet and doing everything right. When we found out we were having triplets, my world went spinning. Just as we were accepting having 3 babies and starting to make plans, we found out we lost the 2 identical twins. To top it off, they were girls and my survivor was a boy. I was crushed to say the least. Not only did I loose 2 babies, but they were my girls as well. It is still tough on me some days. Buy I have to tell you, DS4 is an AMAZING person. He is the sweetest little one and the most mellow of all of my crazy boys. He is silly and loves to laugh and dance. And surprisingly, as much as I love him, he has a strong bond with my DH the most (at least right now). I work out of the home and my DH stays home all day with him. (My DH is disabled, so only watched the youngest.) So honestly, you never know what will happen, but I can tell you this, you WILL love him with all of your heart. He will be yours and you will be a protective Momma Bear instantly. HUGE HUGS to you and all you have been through. You will survive and wonder what all the fuss was about some day. :)

foxtrotmama
March 1st, 2017, 12:22 PM
Sigrid, I'm sorry to hear that your sway didn't work.

I am/was very happy to be a boy mom. My boys are sweet and cuddly and just generally they are light of my life. As an upside, we have watched Frozen, Cinderella, and the Little Mermaid multiple times each. DS1 is counting down the days until Moana comes out on DVD. :) Can't for the life of me get them to sit through Tangled though. Admittedly we have seen all the Cars and Planes movies dozens of times each, lol.

1pinkplease.
March 1st, 2017, 12:29 PM
Hi Sigrid...the other ladies that have already posted have really summed up being a 'boy' mom beautifully, there really isn't anything I can add. I would just like to assure you though that regardless of gender you will love your child fiercely...that's a promise! I have 5 boys and if i'm being honest I think I want a daughter just because I don't already have one. Not because there is anything deficient with my boys...I wouldn't trade anyone of them for anyone else on this planet!! It's very possible I have number 6 on board at the moment and that's fine too...I just realise then that i'll never experience having a daughter but that isn't the end of the world. A healthy baby trumps everything so get ready to love your baby with everything you have...it's very surprising how intensely protective you feel of your children once they're here and you'll probably shock yourself at how irrelevant his gender is once he's here!!!

Inforthree
March 1st, 2017, 01:18 PM
Hi Sigrid I'm sorry you went through such a difficult loss. My heart goes out to you. I was pretty devastated with DS2 and he is the sweetest darling and truly a joy to me. I think everyone has really captured how Mama's boys have a very special relationship.
But I can imagine hearing boy really compounded your sense of loss. If it is any solace at least you know you can conceive a girl, many here, never have and so maybe that can give you some hope. I think it is very likely you could end up with your DD on the next go around. I don't want to minimize your loss at all, just to say we never know what life has in store for us. Hugs to you!

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Roedinga1
March 1st, 2017, 02:53 PM
Sigrid, Your story brought me to tears. Gosh, I can't even imagine. I was pregnant last fall for 12 weeks, saw the heartbeat at 6 and 9 weeks and then it was gone. I had a d&c and it was devastating. My situation is not even comparable to yours. I'm so so sorry for your loss. I hope you can embrace being a boy mom in your own way. We all do it differently ☺ Little boys really are amazing.
I apologize for my delayed response. I was in the shower about 7 am and our power went out. We had some severe weather overnight but apparently I had no clue just how severe it was! Our less one year old anchored, wooden playset was lifted out of the ground and destroyed, our front porch furniture was in the empty lot next door, a few of our shutters are in our front yard, trees down, blocking the street and we are still without power at 2pm. They are reporting that tornados touched down...I'd say so! I think I'm done with this day.
Hope everyone is feeling as well as can be expected today!


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foxtrotmama
March 1st, 2017, 03:53 PM
Wow, Roe! Sounds really intense.

Shannshaff
March 2nd, 2017, 01:01 AM
Roe - glad you are ok!!!

cosmosis
March 2nd, 2017, 05:52 AM
Sigrid, I'm sorry for your loss <3 that must have been so painful and I know there's nothing I can say to make it better. I hope that with time you heal and I hope the baby boy you carry will greatly help that :) I'm not exactly a boy mom, I have a step son and he is so different from DD. He is quite silly and such a light in our home.

Roe, I'm glad you are okay!

AFM, I took my last CBD today and it said I was 2-3 weeks along, like I need something to worry about gha! I regret taking it. Although today I'm 2.85 weeks or 20 days from implantation if I did implant on the day I suspect, which is quite clear at this point.

I suppose it is correct and I should have waited until next week to test lol. I didn't even think of IMPLANTATION, I was just thinking of Ovulation and hCG doesn't begin to multiply until after implantation.

Burakoam
March 2nd, 2017, 09:49 AM
Cosmo the threshold for 3+ weeks is huge. It frustrated me too with this pregnancy. I got a 2-3 week in the morning one day and then later that same night got a 3+ :).. I had probably implanted in the afternoon or evening so that's when my numbers were changing :) hopenthis helps you get the memory result you want!

Oh sigrid. SO much I could say and want to say but for now all I can do is send you the biggest hugs. Remember what we talked about when you were still TTC.. your beautiful baby girl will still be there in your son and liv will truly live on through her little brother. Talk with him about his sister, even now while he is snug in your belly and you are unsure of how to get past the gender disappointment.. tell him you aren't sure how to be a boy mom, it wasn't something you saw in your cards, but you will do the best you can and you hope that it's enough.

Sigrid I promise just from the conversations you and I or you and panther have had that I know when he is in your arms, soft and warm making tiny baby noises at you as he cuddles into you or you feed him wether from breast or bottle that you will adore him just as much as liv or any daughter. It's different, nobody will lie and say it's not.. it is different the bond you can have with a son vs the bond you have with a daughter.. but that doesn't make it less. You and your baby boy will be just fine.

Roedinga1
March 2nd, 2017, 10:22 AM
Cosmo, which CD do you think you implanted?
My beta was 587 last Friday so almost a week ago. I'm holding out to take my last CBDWE to hopefully get a 3+ and I know I implanted late (CD11).

Burakoam, I've read that the 3+ week threshold is about 2000 HCG. Do you think that's accurate?


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cosmosis
March 2nd, 2017, 10:40 AM
Thank you , Burakoam :)

Roe, I believe the bean implanted at 6dpo as I got my first BFP at 9dpo, plus I also had a dip.

Roedinga1
March 2nd, 2017, 10:47 AM
Well shoot Cosmo! I better wait a while.


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cosmosis
March 2nd, 2017, 11:14 AM
Well shoot Cosmo! I better wait a while.


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I know! I wish I had waited u_u

Burakoam
March 2nd, 2017, 12:08 PM
No. the threshold for 3+ is 2600

This info has been very accurate for me and others. I had frequent blood draws this pregnancy and the levels matched the thresholds this lady mentioned :).. I was at 2000 (ETA: found my sway thread so I'm sure levels were 2000) when I got my last 2-3 week result.. I had a draw the morning I took the test..that's when I looked this up and found it and then later that night tested again and got 3+

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sigrid86
March 2nd, 2017, 02:12 PM
Sigrid I think u have been given some fantastic feed back from the boy mums on here so I don't have much else to add but I have two boys and it is lovely - they are caring smart and so funny - my two are the best of friends Aswell it is awesome having boys so don't fear u will fall in love with him I'm sure when u see him!!

I have swayed for a girl after my two boys and praying it's worked but I honestly think il be in the same boat as u as I just feel it's a boy and my sway is more similar to some failed sways than successful ones :(
I've prepared my self already hat I'm prob having three boys and I don't think we will ever got HT now due to having three kids already but at least that is an option for u in the future :)
Xxx


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Hi Butterflies buttercups, you're totally right, I couldn't have more fantastic feedback than all of these. All you women make me feel like this isn't the end of the world and that I will be able to love this little one as much as I would love a little girl.
Why do you think you'll have another boy? And when do you know? Swaying doesn't mean anything (look at me :)) so you'll always have a big chance of a baby girl! Was HT never an option for you? I don't know if we'll do it either because my DH would be convinced big time. Also the financial part... :s but I'm just hoping this can be an option.
Thanks for the lovely words :kiss:

sigrid86
March 2nd, 2017, 02:17 PM
I just wanted to say -- don't be scared of that, either. It could happen, and I was convinced I'd have horrible bonding and poatpartum depression with my daughter, and I bonded completely at birth. It's truly amazing how quickly my whole world changed once she was born, and I think that could really happen with you, especially since you'll be getting a healthy baby ♡

Thanks a lot TP! After hearing your story I was actually already a bit less afraid of hearing it could be a boy. And hearing this from you that I can bond immediately at birth gives me a lot of hope! I really hope this will be the case...and indeed, getting a healthy baby is already a miracle. Just have to switch my mind to blue instead of pink. And I'm hoping pink will get real one day...:heart:

sigrid86
March 2nd, 2017, 02:31 PM
My boy does watch Frozen (for about 15 minutes) but he loves Despicable Me lately and I can get on board with that too. Maybe one day I. An convince him to watch Beauty and the Beast.

Yes I'm extremely jealous of friends with girls but in all honesty, a lot of them are jealous about my boys. I think part of it stems from the grass is always greener. For me it's always been about a girl but I imagine I'd probably want a boy too if I didn't have one, just maybe not with such intensity.

We found out at 12 weeks. It was very obvious he was a boy which was confirmed at 14 weeks via bloodwork. Coping has been a process. A lot of tears, a lot of anger. I'm actually in therapy because I battle with prenatal depression too. It's not going away but it is lessening. I thankfully have a very understanding and compassionate DH but it's also painful for him too. He had some mild disappointment but his pain stems more from the fact that he can't make it better for me. But I know it will get better. I have never regretted my children at birth despite having some form of GD with each of them. I love them more than I ever thought possible.

Oh that's so good to hear that he watches Frozen for a little while :) And I love Despicable Me ;)

Really, are lots of your friends with girls jealous of your boys? I'd always think girl moms wouldn't be jealous of boy moms...but like you say, it's maybe just about wanting what you don't have. I don't think I would ever want a boy, but I can't say since I don't even have 1 living child.

I can imagine how you felt. And it must be difficult to deal with it with 2 young children in the house. It's great you're in therapy. Do you think your prenatal depression has something to do with the GD? Can you speak openly about your GD with your therapist? I once tried it with my therapist who helped me with my grief, and I could tell he didn't understand. I understand that your DH is in pain seeing you being disappointed, but it's really good that he's so understanding and tries to make you feel better. That will only help you in dealing with the GD.
I really hope you'll feel better soon and try to look at your family as a unique lovely boy family. And if you have some more tips on GD, I'm happy to hear them :kiss:

sigrid86
March 2nd, 2017, 02:40 PM
Sigrid, I am crashing to share my story with you. I love all of my boys and they are all wonderful, but my last pregnancy was really rough for a few months. I swayed with DS3 (albeit lame) and I was crushed when he was a boy. I was so so happy to have him, but knew we would have at least another child to try for my girl again. So with my last pregnancy, we swayed again. I was following the LE diet and doing everything right. When we found out we were having triplets, my world went spinning. Just as we were accepting having 3 babies and starting to make plans, we found out we lost the 2 identical twins. To top it off, they were girls and my survivor was a boy. I was crushed to say the least. Not only did I loose 2 babies, but they were my girls as well. It is still tough on me some days. Buy I have to tell you, DS4 is an AMAZING person. He is the sweetest little one and the most mellow of all of my crazy boys. He is silly and loves to laugh and dance. And surprisingly, as much as I love him, he has a strong bond with my DH the most (at least right now). I work out of the home and my DH stays home all day with him. (My DH is disabled, so only watched the youngest.) So honestly, you never know what will happen, but I can tell you this, you WILL love him with all of your heart. He will be yours and you will be a protective Momma Bear instantly. HUGE HUGS to you and all you have been through. You will survive and wonder what all the fuss was about some day. :)

Wow Shannshaff, your story moved me! Your GD must have been awful when you lost your 2 girls, no? How did you cope with it? Just by knowing you still had another chance? It's funny, just like you, I heard from some others that the sway opposite was just so amazing. It's like these little ones feel like they really want to please their moms even more. I think it's beautiful and really hope this little guy will do the same with me.
Are you already swaying? Or are you going HT?
Thank you so much for sharing your story, it really moved me. Lots of hugs for you 2, it must be terrible being in your situation :( XXX

sigrid86
March 2nd, 2017, 02:43 PM
Sigrid, I'm sorry to hear that your sway didn't work.

I am/was very happy to be a boy mom. My boys are sweet and cuddly and just generally they are light of my life. As an upside, we have watched Frozen, Cinderella, and the Little Mermaid multiple times each. DS1 is counting down the days until Moana comes out on DVD. :) Can't for the life of me get them to sit through Tangled though. Admittedly we have seen all the Cars and Planes movies dozens of times each, lol.

Thanks a lot foxtrotmama! Oh that's amazing that you watched those movies with your boys :) I have them all at home so hoping I could share it with my kids once ;) I suppose I'll just have to settle with watching cars and planes :)
Good luck on your pregnancy!!

sigrid86
March 2nd, 2017, 02:48 PM
Hi Sigrid...the other ladies that have already posted have really summed up being a 'boy' mom beautifully, there really isn't anything I can add. I would just like to assure you though that regardless of gender you will love your child fiercely...that's a promise! I have 5 boys and if i'm being honest I think I want a daughter just because I don't already have one. Not because there is anything deficient with my boys...I wouldn't trade anyone of them for anyone else on this planet!! It's very possible I have number 6 on board at the moment and that's fine too...I just realise then that i'll never experience having a daughter but that isn't the end of the world. A healthy baby trumps everything so get ready to love your baby with everything you have...it's very surprising how intensely protective you feel of your children once they're here and you'll probably shock yourself at how irrelevant his gender is once he's here!!!

Thanks a lot 1pinkplease! Hearing this from a mom with 5 boys is quite something :) I know that we should like at our child regardless of gender, but it's hard to change the image in my head that I already had since last year when we heard we would be getting a girl. I think it'll just take time. Hopefully it gets better from the moment I'll feel him.
It's beautiful how you look at it. I hope I'll be able to look at it the same one day. Did you fell in love immediately with all of your children or not?
When are you due and when will you know the gender?
Thank you for your reassuring words :kiss:

sigrid86
March 2nd, 2017, 02:57 PM
Hi Sigrid I'm sorry you went through such a difficult loss. My heart goes out to you. I was pretty devastated with DS2 and he is the sweetest darling and truly a joy to me. I think everyone has really captured how Mama's boys have a very special relationship.
But I can imagine hearing boy really compounded your sense of loss. If it is any solace at least you know you can conceive a girl, many here, never have and so maybe that can give you some hope. I think it is very likely you could end up with your DD on the next go around. I don't want to minimize your loss at all, just to say we never know what life has in store for us. Hugs to you!

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Thanks a lot Inforthree! Indeed, it seems a son-mom relationship is pretty special. Just hope I can experience it also.
I shared my feelings with people who also lossed their baby in or after pregnancy and almost everyone is disappointed when the new baby isn't the same gender as the baby they lost. So I'm also wondering if I would feel the same if I would have lost a boy. And I understand where these feelings come from. I imagined our lives with a girl and now this is also 'falling apart'; that's just another thing to deal with.
I know, but just due to the fact I could conceive a girl, really convinced me that I definitely could have a girl with swaying. Since last year I didn't do anything to conceive a girl and now I did so many things...it's just so strange.
Since last year I'm well aware that we never know what life has in store for us, unfortunately. I think life has been cruel the last year, but I'm still trying to search for the positive in everything. And I hope this little one will help me with it. Big hugs for you too :kiss:

XXforhubby
March 2nd, 2017, 02:58 PM
You know Sigrid, you could be surprised by your boy's personality. My DS1 is the creative type- various art projects that include jewelry making, painting with different media (glitter, different types of paint/textures), making sculptures, drawing, etc. He also loves to play the piano and loves science (creating experiments), and gardening to name but a few. He never played with cars, trucks or airplanes. He did like trains mainly to create different types of train tracks. All of my boys are very different. My DS2 loves sports and is a fantastic problem solver/critical thinker. He loves to build with legos and loves to make different kinds of paper airplanes. My DS3 is still little, but he by far has awesome coping skills when he gets mad or upset- he grumbles as he walks away to cool down and comes back happy! You never know what personality they will have, but you will soon get to know and love him the best [emoji4]!



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XXforhubby
March 2nd, 2017, 02:59 PM
Oh, and all of my boys love Frozen, Disney movies, Despicable Me, etc. They like to try new things, even mommy things [emoji6]!



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sigrid86
March 2nd, 2017, 03:05 PM
Sigrid, Your story brought me to tears. Gosh, I can't even imagine. I was pregnant last fall for 12 weeks, saw the heartbeat at 6 and 9 weeks and then it was gone. I had a d&c and it was devastating. My situation is not even comparable to yours. I'm so so sorry for your loss. I hope you can embrace being a boy mom in your own way. We all do it differently ☺ Little boys really are amazing.
I apologize for my delayed response. I was in the shower about 7 am and our power went out. We had some severe weather overnight but apparently I had no clue just how severe it was! Our less one year old anchored, wooden playset was lifted out of the ground and destroyed, our front porch furniture was in the empty lot next door, a few of our shutters are in our front yard, trees down, blocking the street and we are still without power at 2pm. They are reporting that tornados touched down...I'd say so! I think I'm done with this day.
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Thanks a lot for your compassion Roedinga1! It's indeed something I don't want for anyone, even my worst enemy. I'm sorry for your loss too! Maybe it's not the same but I can imagine you were also crushed over your loss, because you already planned your whole future with this little one. And besides learning how to deal with your 'crushed future', you also need to start again, from zero (or below zero since you also need to deal with the loss). It's very understandable.
I really hope this little boy will be amazing :) How many kids do you have and which gender?

No problem for the delayed response, I understand why :) I hope you're all fine? That seems like a scary experience! You have a lot of tornados where you live? I can't imagine how that must be like. Last week we had a 'storm' here, with wind speeds of 100km/h and that's really A LOT for where I live. So like I said, I can't imagine how that must be where you live :)

Thank you for your sweet reply and take care there ;) :kiss:

sigrid86
March 2nd, 2017, 03:09 PM
Sigrid, I'm sorry for your loss <3 that must have been so painful and I know there's nothing I can say to make it better. I hope that with time you heal and I hope the baby boy you carry will greatly help that :) I'm not exactly a boy mom, I have a step son and he is so different from DD. He is quite silly and such a light in our home.

Roe, I'm glad you are okay!

AFM, I took my last CBD today and it said I was 2-3 weeks along, like I need something to worry about gha! I regret taking it. Although today I'm 2.85 weeks or 20 days from implantation if I did implant on the day I suspect, which is quite clear at this point.

I suppose it is correct and I should have waited until next week to test lol. I didn't even think of IMPLANTATION, I was just thinking of Ovulation and hCG doesn't begin to multiply until after implantation.

Hi Cosmosis, thank you so much! It was and still is very painful, but fortunately the pain becomes softer in time. I also hope this baby boy will help me with it. Looking at all these reactions it would surprise me that it won't, so I'm hopeful!
You're swaying for a boy I see? Congratulations on your pregnancy! I really hope it's your DG. Thanks a lot for sharing your story :kiss:

sigrid86
March 2nd, 2017, 03:19 PM
Cosmo the threshold for 3+ weeks is huge. It frustrated me too with this pregnancy. I got a 2-3 week in the morning one day and then later that same night got a 3+ :).. I had probably implanted in the afternoon or evening so that's when my numbers were changing :) hopenthis helps you get the memory result you want!

Oh sigrid. SO much I could say and want to say but for now all I can do is send you the biggest hugs. Remember what we talked about when you were still TTC.. your beautiful baby girl will still be there in your son and liv will truly live on through her little brother. Talk with him about his sister, even now while he is snug in your belly and you are unsure of how to get past the gender disappointment.. tell him you aren't sure how to be a boy mom, it wasn't something you saw in your cards, but you will do the best you can and you hope that it's enough.

Sigrid I promise just from the conversations you and I or you and panther have had that I know when he is in your arms, soft and warm making tiny baby noises at you as he cuddles into you or you feed him wether from breast or bottle that you will adore him just as much as liv or any daughter. It's different, nobody will lie and say it's not.. it is different the bond you can have with a son vs the bond you have with a daughter.. but that doesn't make it less. You and your baby boy will be just fine.

Hi Burakoam, thanks a lot for the hugs, I can really feel them here :) I know, she'll always be our beautiful girl and she can't be replaced either way. I'm definitely going to tell him about his little (big) sister.
Does it help you to talk to your unborn baby about your GD? I'm just afraid he'll hear it. It was so funny, yesterday I was calling with my mom and she was like 'don't cry, what if he hears you?' :D that made be laugh :)
I really hope that what you say will come true, that I'll adore him and can't get enough of him! How did you cope with your GD and did you fell in love instantly at birth with all of your children? Fortunately my DH is very understanding; he also had a small preference for a girl, so I'm hoping we'll still have a chance in the future with HT maybe.
Thank you so much for your super kind words! I know that it hasn't been easy for you as well, but from what I hear from you, I can say that you're really strong and doing an amazing job. It gives me strength hearing these stories, so thanks a lot :heart:

sigrid86
March 2nd, 2017, 03:24 PM
You know Sigrid, you could be surprised by your boy's personality. My DS1 is the creative type- various art projects that include jewelry making, painting with different media (glitter, different types of paint/textures), making sculptures, drawing, etc. He also loves to play the piano and loves science (creating experiments), and gardening to name but a few. He never played with cars, trucks or airplanes. He did like trains mainly to create different types of train tracks. All of my boys are very different. My DS2 loves sports and is a fantastic problem solver/critical thinker. He loves to build with legos and loves to make different kinds of paper airplanes. My DS3 is still little, but he by far has awesome coping skills when he gets mad or upset- he grumbles as he walks away to cool down and comes back happy! You never know what personality they will have, but you will soon get to know and love him the best [emoji4]!



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The description of your boys' personalities make me smile :) It's amazing to hear! Looking at my hubby, we'll probably have one like your DS2 ;) And I love how your little one copes with his anger :D I hope he'll have that too :)
So for the movies, I'm still hoping I can watch these Disney movies with him also ;)
It's all great to hear, thanks a lot :kiss:

onelastsway
March 2nd, 2017, 04:03 PM
Sorry to hear about your loss and please do not worry that you won't love/bond with your son or that having a boy means a certain type of child. My 2 boys love all the disney films including beauty and the beast, frozen, cinderella, the little mermaid! Neither of them like cars, trains, dinosaurs, space, sport or anything else 'boyish' - other than superheroes, which are cool anyway! They like stories and puzzles and games and baking and doing crafts. They are sensitive, sweet, and adore mummy above all else. My eldest calls me his 'best bud'. My youngest mothers his soft toys and calls them his babies. He is the cuddliest, softest little thing imaginable. I wouldn't mind what they were interested in but I don't want you to feel having a boy has to mean certain things - they are all individuals. I always wanted a girl because I'm so close to my mum and want that relationship when I'm older but am coming to realise that I am SO close to my boys and as long as we are always open, honest and fair with each other - i believe we will always be this close. I think there is something really special about raising a man who is in touch with his feelings, who is kind and sweet and respectful to women - I feel that is my mission. The world needs good men!

Burakoam
March 2nd, 2017, 04:08 PM
The point is to me that she does hear it (he for you). We cant always control our feelings or emotions but anyone will tell you that they can affect a baby in utero as well. If im going to be devastated about something im going to tell her why. Im very honest while trying to be mindful of my childrens feelings too. I think there is a right way and a wrong way to do this. Its choosing your words carefully, while still being honest. Im not saying it will help you to tell him he is unloved or unwanted, because lets be honest..it wouldnt help you..it would make you feel worse. Its about telling him that while he was planned for and wanted he was a surprise because you always saw yourself having all girls and you have no clue what to do with him, but that you and him will learn it together :) Something your son and Liv have in common is they have both grown inside of you. Thats why it can be therapeutic to talk to your son about your daughter. As he grows he will have an understanding then of why mommy may sometimes still be sad on certain days when she thinks of his big sister. He will be able to relate, to understand (not so much at first, but definitely as he grows)

Samantha "knows" we tried for a boy and thats why she is here. She will undoubtedly hear the story as she gets older, its inevitable. But i have promised her that she has her own place in this family. That she belongs. That just because she doesnt have a penis doesnt mean she wont be loved and cared for. That while i dreamed of a brother for my girls, a son for my husband, that i think things worked out the way they needed to for a reason and obviously she is meant to bring something to our family dynamic that a son and brother wouldnt have. That even though 4 daughters in i have no clue how to raise the kind of woman i want them to be, that i will always try my best. That i didnt ever see myself as a girl mom let alone an all girl mom and so i am unfortunately learning things as i go. I have told her more recently how excited i am to snuggle her, and feed her..to see her big sister hold her. To see their bond since they are so close in age.

Most will agree a baby let alone an unborn baby doesnt necessarily understand everything you say, or most of it even..its the fact you say it, the tone of voice, its the emotions felt as they swish and move in your belly. How you stroke him when you talk about why you are sad, how it helps YOU heal and move forward with your feelings regarding Liv and now your soon to be born son.

Wantanother2017
March 2nd, 2017, 05:46 PM
Wow, such strong women in this group! I'm humbled by your stories of struggle and strength. I don't have words to suffice my feelings of sadness for what you've been through.
The truth is, I have never suffered a loss of a child so far. The closest thing I can relate to is the loss of a dream the day I found out my baby was a boy. It crushed me. I have come to terms with it obviously and love my son very much, however I still suffer with GD every single day. I struggle with anger, resentment and jealousy that eats at me if I let it. Some days are better, then come periods where it is more intense.
This is our last shot and I'm scared of my feelings if this is another boy. I've done the counseling, Ive tried discussing my feelings with my husband, I've bought books on GD, nothing has truly helped lessen the pain.
I feel mounds of shame for feeling this way. But 4 years into it I've got to just own my feelings and try to work through them.

I'm glad to know I'm surrounded by such strong and wise women during this pregnancy. During my pregnancy with my son I thought I was the only woman in the world who experienced these feelings, the only one who had to recite "I have a son" to myself out loud to practice saying something so foreign. It was the loneliest time in my life. The feelings were so isolating. I'm so thankful that even though I'm convinced I'll hear boy again, that at least I have overwhelming support from ladies who GET IT. [emoji170][emoji170]




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XXforhubby
March 2nd, 2017, 07:55 PM
I just want to give you a big hug, Wantanother! We will absolutely be here for you, should you hear boy again. I'm hoping that won't be necessary though [emoji6]!



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XXforhubby
March 2nd, 2017, 10:29 PM
Ok ladies, I'm needing you. It just was a matter of time before this happened- a close friend of mine is having a girl after having 2 boys. I just feel like I am carrying my 4th boy and there is no way I could be fortunate enough to give my DH a DD. I am very happy for her- she had tremendous GD with her first son and was callous when hearing her second was a boy. I feel like there is something wrong with me, because I literally have no gender preference. I'm wondering if that causes me to unconsciously sabotage my sway. Does that make sense? That I unknowingly screw things up somehow? I just feel defective- why can't I give my DH a DD? I'm clearly not in a good place right now...[emoji20]



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Lolabelle
March 2nd, 2017, 11:31 PM
Hi Sigrid! I wanted to chime in as well....I'm in the 2WW & hope to be lucky enough to be in this group FX lol...but wanted to say that I have 2 wonderful boys-19 months apart (ages 2 & 3) and they are so much fun! I'm super girly, love shopping, love fashion/jewelry, played with my dolls growing up etc.etc. I always thought that I'd have one of each and wanted a girl first. DS1 arrived first and no dissappointment there, just hoped to have a girl next. I wanted a girl soooo bad for baby 2....I decided to wait it out until delivery to find out gender. I felt like it was another boy throughout the pregnancy & instincts were right. However, there was absolutely NO WAY I could be disappointed when I saw this beautiful baby boy looking at me!!! DS1 looks just like DH & DS2 looks just like me...so I think that helps w/bonding in some way. We bonded instantly and it was love at first sight...it was that way with both boys! I never once cried that he was a boy....when you're holding a perfect baby in your arms...could only feel joy! It is a love like no other & so different than just looking at the ultrasound. My boys LOVE their momma!!!! Yes, they love cars, dirt, trucks, superheroes etc, but they watch Frozen & shop with me too :) I have fun dressing them in cute outfits with bow ties, plaid & hats! They keep me fit since they're very active & we're always on the go. I honestly wouldn't change it for the world!!! I'm swaying for a girl this time b/c I feel like a baby sister would be icing on the cake & complete our family. I'm trying to "will it" to be a girl this time :) Hoping praying...Not sure how I will feel if #3 is a boy...will cross that bridge. I don't want to feel the pressure of others being disappointed for me either.
I'm sorry to hear what you've been through! I promise you will love your baby boy & will understand the amazing, indescribable feelings once you're holding him in your arms!! Wish you all the best!! Think of an awesome name, plan the coolest nursery, buy some cute clothes & get yourself excited to welcome your little guy!

Burakoam
March 2nd, 2017, 11:56 PM
Ok ladies, I'm needing you. It just was a matter of time before this happened- a close friend of mine is having a girl after having 2 boys. I just feel like I am carrying my 4th boy and there is no way I could be fortunate enough to give my DH a DD. I am very happy for her- she had tremendous GD with her first son and was callous when hearing her second was a boy. I feel like there is something wrong with me, because I literally have no gender preference. I'm wondering if that causes me to unconsciously sabotage my sway. Does that make sense? That I unknowingly screw things up somehow? I just feel defective- why can't I give my DH a DD? I'm clearly not in a good place right now...[emoji20]



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Oh XX :( you are not defective and you don't sabatoge your sway. I remember you were a little sad the last away failed so you can tell you do put your heart and effort in for your husband. And it is that love that tells me that you 100% gave it your best shot.. I believe you did everything you could personally handle to sway pink. After the amount of time you spent trying and hoping though I think you deserve a healthy and happy take home baby regardless of gender. Your husband will always see his girl.. but he will come around to 4 awesome and amazing boys. I think at your core and his you both just want the other to be happy.. if it was financially feasible I think he would give you every baby you wanted regardless of gender. I honestly and truly believe he mostly wants a girl so that he can have a mini you just like you have 3 mini hims :).. this baby is on its way, she/he was meant to be here that's why you longed for her/him... they are going to complete your family one way or the other I really believe that. Wish I could give you the biggest hug. I really think it's your girl, honestly.. you will be finding out with a good nub shot the same time I am giving birth to this one.. there will be pink dust galore for you :)

Wantanother2017
March 3rd, 2017, 12:12 AM
[QUOTE=XXforhubby;891114]Ok ladies, I'm needing you. It just was a matter of time before this happened- a close friend of mine is having a girl after having 2 boys. I just feel like I am carrying my 4th boy and there is no way I could be fortunate enough to give my DH a DD. I am very happy for her- she had tremendous GD with her first son and was callous when hearing her second was a boy. I feel like there is something wrong with me, because I literally have no gender preference. I'm wondering if that causes me to unconsciously sabotage my sway. Does that make sense? That I unknowingly screw things up somehow? I just feel defective- why can't I give my DH a DD? I'm clearly not in a good place right now...[emoji20]

Oh XX I know exactly how you feel. This week the same thing happened to me and I instantly said to myself, "well, there goes your girl. She just got your daughter." Its as if there is NO way that we could both have one.
But in life it really does seem to play out like that. When my best friend and I were pregnant at the same time, we both very much wanted to have a daughter. She was a little ahead of me, and at her gender reveal when everyone was screaming with excitement over her pink cake, the blood felt like it drained from my face. I knew. I just knew at that moment that my daughter was gone. Almost like she was taken.
I know this is totally just my perception. And that this announcement hadn't changed anything that happened at conception with my son. But the emotional part of me feels like every girl announcement close to me feels like the chances of that being my reality is now lessoned. Selfish I know. But my honest feelings. I can totally relate to the feeling of being so happy for someone else, but gutted for yourself all at the same time.

However, I will say that the sting does lessen after a few weeks. I am already saying to myself, so what if she is having a girl? Maybe we will both have girls together? That could still happen!

I feel your pain, and I hope we all get our dream come true daughters one day.

Wantanother2017
March 3rd, 2017, 12:36 AM
Not sure what I did to make you're quote now obvious in the above post XX! [emoji849]


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XXforhubby
March 3rd, 2017, 08:33 AM
Thank you Burakoam and Wantanother. I know that we both could have girls. We were pregnant together with our DS1's. I guess I need to prepare to hear boy so I can be strong for my DH. I don't want to allow myself to hope, because I don't want him to have to be strong to comfort me. I want him to be able to deal with his feelings and hopefully he will be ok when the baby is born. It took him until my DS2 was 6mo before they began to bond [emoji20]. That was really hard for me to experience, but I gave him his space and time to heal. What will be will be. Time will tell.



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XXforhubby
March 3rd, 2017, 09:23 AM
After changing my DS3 and playing with him, I SO could have another DS [emoji4]. He just completely melted my heart ❤️. I will no longer reflect on things at night anymore- it's too easy to feel fear and defeat.



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Dreamsister
March 3rd, 2017, 09:37 AM
Hi Dreamsister,
Thanks a lot for the support! And congratulations on your baby girl! I hope I'll feel better soon too...with what we've been through last year I'm also aware that I need this child a chance and try to enjoy this pregnancy because he deserves it as much as if it was a girl. So I hope the feelings will go away soon. Maybe when I'll feel him?
It's so nice to hear that you have a strong bond with all 3 of your sons. I know I should look at him as a personality. Sometimes I think that my girl would maybe be a real bitch :) And your right, a girl isn't a guarantee for a better bond. I just need to remind myself a lot of that!
Did you go HT for your DD now?
PGD is really an option now! If you have more info about it, please let me know (I see you're from Europe too).

Thanks a lot :kiss:

Dear Sigrid. I did have one attempt with HT, which failed because all my embryos were abnormal. We could not afford more than one go and decided to try natural - and got lucky. Yes, I am based in Northern part of EU. Where are you from? I can tell you more about my failed HT-attempt. Just PM me. Hope you feel better.


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Butterflies buttercups
March 3rd, 2017, 10:48 AM
How is everyone on here ?
I am experiencing fulll on nausea basically all day and all night - lack of sleep so tired all day Aswell - the headaches have gone thank god I had them so bad with my ds2 .
So if anything this pregnancy has been a little different but worse nausea !
I'll have a day of eating bread then the next day I can't even look at a peice of bread !

Had my midwife appt today and she has said I can try for a VBAC which is amazing as I've had two
C sections already so that's good news .

Xx- it's hard hearing about people getting girls I personally feel but like u said u may well have a baby girl in there already - it's so easy to be anxious during this beginning stages - I keep going over my sway thinking it reads well and I should get my girl that I tired for but sometimes life has other plans for us which is hard to accept - I think we al need to try and stay positive until our scans and yours can't be too far away as you're further along than me?

We've decided we will find out and it will be the middle of April so not too far !


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foxtrotmama
March 3rd, 2017, 11:28 AM
I woke up this morning feeling super nauseated and I've thrown up twice. I'm only 4 w 2 d! I'm feeling pretty nervous. I had moderate HG with DS1 and I really don't want to go down that road again.

Butterflies buttercups
March 3rd, 2017, 11:52 AM
Oh no that is early to be throwing up ! I hope u don't have the same experience - go doctors of it worsens x


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Throwaway_panther
March 3rd, 2017, 11:55 AM
Ok ladies, I'm needing you. It just was a matter of time before this happened- a close friend of mine is having a girl after having 2 boys. I just feel like I am carrying my 4th boy and there is no way I could be fortunate enough to give my DH a DD. I am very happy for her- she had tremendous GD with her first son and was callous when hearing her second was a boy. I feel like there is something wrong with me, because I literally have no gender preference. I'm wondering if that causes me to unconsciously sabotage my sway. Does that make sense? That I unknowingly screw things up somehow? I just feel defective- why can't I give my DH a DD? I'm clearly not in a good place right now...[emoji20]



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You are NOT defective. At all. And I think MANY of us can relate to that feeling when we worry we can't conceived our desired-sex baby -- defective.

I don't think you feeling like you have no preference would sabotage it, either -- if anything, there seems to be a trend that once moms make peace with whatever comes, they get their girls! The fact that I don't think I'll ever find peace is why I hope I'll get my boy, lol.

You're in a sensitive state right now -- the first trimester. I wish we could all write notes to ourselves before each pregnancy with a warning that, "You will NOT be in sound mind for awhile!" I'm so, so sorry you're feeling in a bad place right now -- but it's nothing you're doing or even any cosmic bearing on the sex of your baby. It's the hormones!!

Please come here and continue to talk about it with us. I'm not even sure why I'm in this thread, but I'll still stick around to help too!... I think it's because all of my friends on here are pregnant haha.

Wantanother2017
March 3rd, 2017, 02:07 PM
Glad you're feeling a touch better emotionally this morning XX. It's a funny thing how nighttime can bring on the strongest of our emotions. I've been having lots of anxious nights myself.

So my nausea and exhaustion has seemed to ease off in the last couple of days. Sometimes it's a little concerning, for miscarriage reasons and because I worry that it may be true that if my symptoms are so mild this is definitely a boy. I wish I could just know so I could prepare myself mentally.
My first scan is Monday! So we shall see. I'll be 8 weeks then, according to AF. But I feel I am about 4 days behind that, so we shall see what happens.


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Butterflies buttercups
March 3rd, 2017, 02:13 PM
I agree night times are th worst ! I had exactly the same my last pregnancy I think that's what caused a lot of my head aches - anxiety - wondering is it a boy or a girl the whole 9 months ?
I was debating going team green but I don't think I can - I need to know so I can prepare x


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XXforhubby
March 3rd, 2017, 02:32 PM
How far along are you Butterflies? I'm on my phone and can't see tickers- if you have one!

I'll find out at the beginning of May, when I'm 18-19 weeks. I want to find out at 16 weeks, but my hospital prefers to do the anatomy scan on me later since I'm 37.

I'm trying not to freak out, but I'm having a break from the horrific morning sickness! I hope it lasts, but I also hope everything is ok with my baby. I get twinges of mild nausea every now and then but nothing like what I have been experiencing. Watch, I'll be puking later because I just jinxed myself 🤣! That's how my life works [emoji38]!



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Dreamsister
March 3rd, 2017, 02:36 PM
Dear XXforhubby. I can relate to your anxiety. I also worried the hole first and second trimester. Worried about MC, worried about gender, worried about abnormalities ect. ect. I woke up in the middle of the night and could not sleep. I think the days, weeks and months took like forever. Try to focus on something else than your pregnancy and then time will go faster. Our minds can play stupid games with us. Staying mentally fresh and prevent yourself from getting to tired is a way of coping with all the emotions and anxiety. Don't worry. You will be fine and might very well have a lovely little girl cooking inside you right now.


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XXforhubby
March 3rd, 2017, 02:40 PM
You are NOT defective. At all. And I think MANY of us can relate to that feeling when we worry we can't conceived our desired-sex baby -- defective.

I don't think you feeling like you have no preference would sabotage it, either -- if anything, there seems to be a trend that once moms make peace with whatever comes, they get their girls! The fact that I don't think I'll ever find peace is why I hope I'll get my boy, lol.

You're in a sensitive state right now -- the first trimester. I wish we could all write notes to ourselves before each pregnancy with a warning that, "You will NOT be in sound mind for awhile!" I'm so, so sorry you're feeling in a bad place right now -- but it's nothing you're doing or even any cosmic bearing on the sex of your baby. It's the hormones!!

Please come here and continue to talk about it with us. I'm not even sure why I'm in this thread, but I'll still stick around to help too!... I think it's because all of my friends on here are pregnant haha.

Thank you TP- that means a lot to me. You're so right that the hormones are amplifying my feelings. I'm in a much better place now and hope I can make it last. My DH needs me to stay strong, because he has never had to help me with gender disappointment before. TBH, I'll be over the moon to have another boy- I just love them to bits [emoji4]! I know I will love a little girl too, and I think I'm finally ready to have one. Time will tell to know if it's in the cards for me.



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Butterflies buttercups
March 3rd, 2017, 03:14 PM
I'm 8 weeks - I am still like I said having lots of nausea and hoping it eases off soon - I had a day Tuesday where I had none it was so weird !
Well it's march now I'm sure the beginning of May will come round quickly too - I'm looking forward to my next scan which is the first week of April (12 weeks)




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Roedinga1
March 3rd, 2017, 03:36 PM
I hope everyone feels better soon! My MS hasn't kicked in...yet?
I had my beta checked today at 26DPO and she said it's "in the 4000's." I would've loved an exact number but that's not what I got. Anyway, it was 587 at 19DPO. I guess that's ok?
I'm having my first ultrasound Wednesday morning. I'm guessing she just wants to make sure everything looks good considering the miscarriage last October...


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Roedinga1
March 3rd, 2017, 03:42 PM
My progesterone also went from 42 down to 33. I'm doing vaginal progesterone nightly. Is that decrease okay?


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Shannshaff
March 3rd, 2017, 03:43 PM
OMG ladies, I just read through the last few pages bawling at my desk. Thank the lord I am the only one in the office today. I already had a stressful day last evening, so was crying this morning. But man oh man, the waterworks.
I am tentatively going to say hello. I got my faint BFP yesterday, but I started spotting last night and still this morning. So I am not sure if this little bean will stick. I have had so much going on in the pst 24 hours that I am a total mess. We had daycare call us and tell us they thing that someone might be sexually abusing our kids. Our 4 yo has a habit of "playing with himself" during nap time and I guess other times of the day too. I was really worried at first, but the more I look into it, I am just not so sure all the info is adding up. He is a sensory seeker for touch, so I have a feeling, that is the real reason for the touching.
But they had me scared because I get a call saying he inappropriately touched another child. YIKES!!! But I found out later he stuck his face in another kids but while he was at the drinking fountain (on a step) because he was taking too long. While that is still inappropriate, not near as bad as I had imagined. And well, my boys are gross and will fart on one another and put their butt in the other brothers face in the process. I do my best to stop them from this, but I am not everywhere.
So my DH got scared that they think he is the one abusing them and it turned into a huge fight this morning. And since I am the only one in the office on Fridays, I could not even call in sick. UGH. So here I am at the office, emotional, reading sad sad posts and feeling all hormonal. I am not in a good place because I was not ready for this BFP since it has always taken us at least 3 months to conceive.
Now I don't even want to tell DH about the BFP. I will have to wait a few days or even weeks to tell him because I need everything else to settle down or he is going to flip out. So maybe you guys can help me figure out a fun cute way to tell DH so I can get my mind in a better place.
Thank you, Shan

Shannshaff
March 3rd, 2017, 03:45 PM
Roe - I think that decrease in Prog is perfectly fine. It can change hourly in your system and it is still good and high. Also, vaginal supps won't show up in the blood.
Glad you are still feeling good and not sick. I am dreading the MS. :(

Roedinga1
March 3rd, 2017, 03:49 PM
Double post.

1pinkplease.
March 3rd, 2017, 04:13 PM
Thanks a lot 1pinkplease! Hearing this from a mom with 5 boys is quite something :) I know that we should like at our child regardless of gender, but it's hard to change the image in my head that I already had since last year when we heard we would be getting a girl. I think it'll just take time. Hopefully it gets better from the moment I'll feel him.
It's beautiful how you look at it. I hope I'll be able to look at it the same one day. Did you fell in love immediately with all of your children or not?
When are you due and when will you know the gender?
Thank you for your reassuring words :kiss:


Hi Sigrid, I'm very sorry for your loss...that must be awful and I hope you heal soon:hugs: I'm sure you'll feel better once your baby is here*
I absolutely fell in love immediately with all of my children. I've honestly never had a gender preference, and this feeling of wanting to have a daughter has only really starting to niggle at me as I'm getting older and childbearing days are coming to an end!! I'm currently 8 weeks pregnant with a very surprise pregnancy. It wasn't planned at all and I didn't get time to sway. I'm still debating on doing the Panorama for genetic reasons but if I go ahead I could know the gender in the next couple of weeks...but i'm still undecided at this point.
All the best with your pregnancy and I truly hope you are blessed with a happy healthy baby who you absolutely adore!!

lucyandboys
March 4th, 2017, 02:49 AM
Gosh, this group moves so quickly. Sorry I cannot keep up with all the 'congratulations' etc.

Sigrid, very sad to read your story. Huge hugs to you. But to add to the lovely boys stories - my three are all so different, so gorgeous in their own ways. Yes, I've always wanted a girl and did cry when I found out ds3 was indeed ds3, but I wouldn't change them for the world. He, of course, has been my easiest and happiest child - a true gift from God. My husband and I have said we would be more than happy if this one is a boy, it turns out anything like him! He is actually my first one who's been really interested in cars, trains & typical boys' toys. My other two preferred playing in their toy kitchen & role play games. Now all three are Lego crazy - my husband too, gives me a nice break, they're occupied for hours with it!

I'm only 4 weeks and feel TERRIBLE. Constant all day & night nausea - don't want to eat anything but as soon as I do feel better, which wears off as soon as I stop! Also overtired, shivery in evening, headache, back/shoulder ache & still getting stomach cramps at night (annoyingly mostly in right side - does that mean boy or just uterus expanding that way). Asked dh if he could please un-impregnate me last night and that I don't really want a girl (a boy) this much!!! Gosh hope it ends soon. Feel very guilty as don't think I'm able to be a great mum to the boys - just want to lie on sofa all day.

Butterflies buttercups
March 4th, 2017, 04:13 AM
Lucy you sound exactly the same as me same symptoms - this is definately the worst I've ever felt pregnancy wise - I also said to my husband the other night I don't think I can do this anymore but it's too late !!
I'm also feeling I'm not doing my best to be a good mum or a good wife I haven't done much cleaning this week as I just don't have the energy.
Can't wait for this sicky stage to be over x


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Roedinga1
March 4th, 2017, 06:46 AM
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Well, I've lost a little faith in the CBDWE. I had my betas done yesterday and they were over 4000, I took a CBDWE this morning and it says 2-3 weeks? [emoji848]


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XXforhubby
March 4th, 2017, 08:52 AM
That's so strange Roedinga! You should have gotten a 3+ reading for sure. I wonder if it's a faulty batch? The other thing to remember is it measures weeks past ovulation. Are you yet 3 weeks past when you ovulated? If so, then I would say it's a faulty test. At least you know everything is ok with your bean from your betas!



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Roedinga1
March 4th, 2017, 09:10 AM
Yep, I was 3 weeks past O last Sunday! So almost a week ago! So strange


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Roedinga1
March 4th, 2017, 10:19 AM
I'm 6w4d and I've got this bloated, pulling type feeling very low in my abdomen. If I try to suck in, I feel this weird pressure. I wouldn't call it a crampy feeling at all. Just kinda weird. Anyone else?


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cosmosis
March 4th, 2017, 10:54 AM
Roe , you and I are 3 days apart I believe and I took my last CBD 2 days ago and also got the 2-3 weeks results. I'm 4 weeks 2 days past ovulation or 6w5d by LMP today. I don't know if the test takes into consideration the fact that no hcg is produced until implantation.

What exactly does food aversion feel like? I don't appetize anything, but I'm starving all day :( I woke up at 2 AM ravenous. My tea doesn't taste good to me anymore either. Food tastes okay at best and I don't know what to do about it.

XXforhubby
March 4th, 2017, 11:43 AM
Food aversion is when food tastes/smell weird. My food aversion is fruit- at best fruit tastes extremely sour or unripe, at the worst it tastes like Vicks cough syrup [emoji13]. I can only eat bananas. I haven't tried melon yet but it's currently out of season here. I can drink fruit juice though, which is strange. Coffee smells nasty to me and tastes like what I imagine battery acid to taste like [emoji13]!



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XXforhubby
March 4th, 2017, 11:51 AM
I am currently ravenous. I still can't eat more than 300-500 calories per meal or more than 250 calories per snack without puking. As long as I stick to these ranges, I can actually eat more than I have all pregnancy! I haven't gained any weight yet and have actually lost weight [emoji20]. I'm hoping this changes soon, since I'm 10 weeks today. I bet I'm hungrier because the baby is going through a growth spurt.



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sigrid86
March 4th, 2017, 12:05 PM
Sorry to hear about your loss and please do not worry that you won't love/bond with your son or that having a boy means a certain type of child. My 2 boys love all the disney films including beauty and the beast, frozen, cinderella, the little mermaid! Neither of them like cars, trains, dinosaurs, space, sport or anything else 'boyish' - other than superheroes, which are cool anyway! They like stories and puzzles and games and baking and doing crafts. They are sensitive, sweet, and adore mummy above all else. My eldest calls me his 'best bud'. My youngest mothers his soft toys and calls them his babies. He is the cuddliest, softest little thing imaginable. I wouldn't mind what they were interested in but I don't want you to feel having a boy has to mean certain things - they are all individuals. I always wanted a girl because I'm so close to my mum and want that relationship when I'm older but am coming to realise that I am SO close to my boys and as long as we are always open, honest and fair with each other - i believe we will always be this close. I think there is something really special about raising a man who is in touch with his feelings, who is kind and sweet and respectful to women - I feel that is my mission. The world needs good men!

Thanks a lot onelastsway! I really hope I will bond with him immediately.
I love almost all Disney films so really hope I can get my boy watch them. It gives me hope that yours watch with you :) That's so awesome that they don't like the 'boyish' stuff! It seems like you have 2 very sweet and kind boys.
For a big part, I also want a girl because I'm so close with my mom (and my sister) and I have a bad example of my DH and my brother in law who see their parents only 1 time in 2 months, while I need to see my parents every week. I couldn't imagine it any other way...But you're right, it has to do with an individual and not with a gender and also how you raise them. That's a great mission and a so true. We have an important task ;) Thanks a lot for your kind words and sharing your experience. It scares me a little less to have a boy!

Butterflies buttercups
March 4th, 2017, 12:25 PM
Xx I've also gone off coffee and on the diet I was drinking 4 cups a day now I can't stand the smell ! I can't drink tea either I'm just trying to drink water but even that is hard I'm enjoying full fat coke it's helping my nausea !
Roeding:
I know what u mean about the feeling in lower abdomen I have had that on and off I think it's normal I've had it in all my pregnancies I remember . I've also had a water infection this week though and that hasn't helped
I'm also ravenous in the night and in the day to the point my stomach really hurts where my hunger pangs are so strong I have to eat often to keep it all at bay
Xx I can't believe you're 10 weeks amazing ! I can't wait for double figures !


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sigrid86
March 4th, 2017, 12:30 PM
The point is to me that she does hear it (he for you). We cant always control our feelings or emotions but anyone will tell you that they can affect a baby in utero as well. If im going to be devastated about something im going to tell her why. Im very honest while trying to be mindful of my childrens feelings too. I think there is a right way and a wrong way to do this. Its choosing your words carefully, while still being honest. Im not saying it will help you to tell him he is unloved or unwanted, because lets be honest..it wouldnt help you..it would make you feel worse. Its about telling him that while he was planned for and wanted he was a surprise because you always saw yourself having all girls and you have no clue what to do with him, but that you and him will learn it together :) Something your son and Liv have in common is they have both grown inside of you. Thats why it can be therapeutic to talk to your son about your daughter. As he grows he will have an understanding then of why mommy may sometimes still be sad on certain days when she thinks of his big sister. He will be able to relate, to understand (not so much at first, but definitely as he grows)

Samantha "knows" we tried for a boy and thats why she is here. She will undoubtedly hear the story as she gets older, its inevitable. But i have promised her that she has her own place in this family. That she belongs. That just because she doesnt have a penis doesnt mean she wont be loved and cared for. That while i dreamed of a brother for my girls, a son for my husband, that i think things worked out the way they needed to for a reason and obviously she is meant to bring something to our family dynamic that a son and brother wouldnt have. That even though 4 daughters in i have no clue how to raise the kind of woman i want them to be, that i will always try my best. That i didnt ever see myself as a girl mom let alone an all girl mom and so i am unfortunately learning things as i go. I have told her more recently how excited i am to snuggle her, and feed her..to see her big sister hold her. To see their bond since they are so close in age.

Most will agree a baby let alone an unborn baby doesnt necessarily understand everything you say, or most of it even..its the fact you say it, the tone of voice, its the emotions felt as they swish and move in your belly. How you stroke him when you talk about why you are sad, how it helps YOU heal and move forward with your feelings regarding Liv and now your soon to be born son.

I'm not really convinced that he can hear or feel it, at least not yet (I'm only 14w along). But maybe he can...I went to some pshychics when even the best specialist of the country couldn't tell us anything and they were all very sure that the baby really can hear/feel you and that it's good to say what you want to say. They were also sure they understood it. So it's probably true. And you're doing great I think by talking to your baby and be honest with her.
You describe it perfectly, he was indeed planned and wanted but I always saw myself having only girls. Although I'm not 100% sure he can understand me, I will really talk to him and say all I need to say to him and talk to him about his sister. I just don't think I can do it already. I had the same with Liv. I didn't really felt very connected before I could feel her. So I think in a few weeks I'll follow your advice. It's really beautiful what you say. You're saying better things than my therapist :)

Is Samantha your baby on the way? I'm sure she'll be an amazing little girl; it moves me how you can handle it so well and make your kids feel important and wanted. That proves what a great mom you are! And maybe she will really be like the boy you both always wanted (only without the penis :)). My father told me a few times that he hoped for a boy after my sister, but then there I was...but he always told me he didn't mind anymore because I went to football games with him, played tennis with him and did a lot of things boy love to do. So it can be the same with her.
With all the things I hear from you, it might be that you don't have a clue, but I'm damn sure you're doing an amazing job raising your girls. And remember, nobody's perfect. I'm sure all your girls love you just the way you are. I hope you can look at it as something unique, being a mom of 4 girls. But I know it's not easy because you didn't think of you as an all girl mom. Just as I really don't see myself as a boy mom.

You're maybe right, it's also a form of healing, talking to my unborn baby. And therefore I think it's really important for me to do it, because I'm not healed yet, not for a long time I think, but I'll do anything to progress in the healing process...
Really Burakoam, a job as a therapist would really suit you :) Thank you so much <3

sigrid86
March 4th, 2017, 12:40 PM
[QUOTE=Wantanother2017;891073]Wow, such strong women in this group! I'm humbled by your stories of struggle and strength. I don't have words to suffice my feelings of sadness for what you've been through.
The truth is, I have never suffered a loss of a child so far. The closest thing I can relate to is the loss of a dream the day I found out my baby was a boy. It crushed me. I have come to terms with it obviously and love my son very much, however I still suffer with GD every single day. I struggle with anger, resentment and jealousy that eats at me if I let it. Some days are better, then come periods where it is more intense.
This is our last shot and I'm scared of my feelings if this is another boy. I've done the counseling, Ive tried discussing my feelings with my husband, I've bought books on GD, nothing has truly helped lessen the pain.
I feel mounds of shame for feeling this way. But 4 years into it I've got to just own my feelings and try to work through them.

I'm glad to know I'm surrounded by such strong and wise women during this pregnancy. During my pregnancy with my son I thought I was the only woman in the world who experienced these feelings, the only one who had to recite "I have a son" to myself out loud to practice saying something so foreign. It was the loneliest time in my life. The feelings were so isolating. I'm so thankful that even though I'm convinced I'll hear boy again, that at least I have overwhelming support from ladies who GET IT. [emoji170][emoji170]

That's really nice to hear! But the thing is: once you come in this situation, you don't have another choice than being 'strong'. You maybe never suffered a loss of a child but you've also felt loss, the loss of a baby girl. I can imagine it crushed you, it did the same to me last week. That's the thing I hate most, just like you also felt: jealousy. It's like I see little girls everywhere and everyone around me gets girls. I think that's something we can only get rid of when we get our girl or with the help of a therapist?
Does your DH understand your GD or really not? I think that does a lot...mine is now very supportive although he doesn't really mind this one's a boy. But if we hadn't lost our girl, he wouldn't understand I think. You don't need to feel ashamed of your feelings. That's the thing with feelings, you just can't help having them...

Indeed, I'm also really glad to be surrounded by this group of amazing, wise, strong and supportive women.
I know, I also thought I was the only one wanting a girl so badly, but I think it has lots to do with the fact it's like a taboo...ofcourse for some people it really doesn't matter, but I believe many people have a preference.
How far along are you now and when will you know the gender? I wish you lots of pink for this pregnancy :kiss:

sigrid86
March 4th, 2017, 12:58 PM
Hi Sigrid! I wanted to chime in as well....I'm in the 2WW & hope to be lucky enough to be in this group FX lol...but wanted to say that I have 2 wonderful boys-19 months apart (ages 2 & 3) and they are so much fun! I'm super girly, love shopping, love fashion/jewelry, played with my dolls growing up etc.etc. I always thought that I'd have one of each and wanted a girl first. DS1 arrived first and no dissappointment there, just hoped to have a girl next. I wanted a girl soooo bad for baby 2....I decided to wait it out until delivery to find out gender. I felt like it was another boy throughout the pregnancy & instincts were right. However, there was absolutely NO WAY I could be disappointed when I saw this beautiful baby boy looking at me!!! DS1 looks just like DH & DS2 looks just like me...so I think that helps w/bonding in some way. We bonded instantly and it was love at first sight...it was that way with both boys! I never once cried that he was a boy....when you're holding a perfect baby in your arms...could only feel joy! It is a love like no other & so different than just looking at the ultrasound. My boys LOVE their momma!!!! Yes, they love cars, dirt, trucks, superheroes etc, but they watch Frozen & shop with me too :) I have fun dressing them in cute outfits with bow ties, plaid & hats! They keep me fit since they're very active & we're always on the go. I honestly wouldn't change it for the world!!! I'm swaying for a girl this time b/c I feel like a baby sister would be icing on the cake & complete our family. I'm trying to "will it" to be a girl this time :) Hoping praying...Not sure how I will feel if #3 is a boy...will cross that bridge. I don't want to feel the pressure of others being disappointed for me either.
I'm sorry to hear what you've been through! I promise you will love your baby boy & will understand the amazing, indescribable feelings once you're holding him in your arms!! Wish you all the best!! Think of an awesome name, plan the coolest nursery, buy some cute clothes & get yourself excited to welcome your little guy!

Hi Lolabelle, thanks a lot for sharing your experience! I'll cross my fingers for you :)
So great to hear you weren't even disappointed with DS2 although you wanted a girl :) That gives me hope for birth...and maybe I should have waited knowing the gender, but I just couldn't wait. Sometimes I wonder what's better...waiting or not? I can imagine it helps to see a mini version of yourself :)
Your story is truely inspiring that you didn't have any GD with none of your boys. That's the thing with me...I only saw an US for now and that doesn't say a lot ofcourse. I do know that I was instantly in love with Liv from the moment I saw her. It was then that I understood why for almost every parents, their children means everything to them. That so overwhelming love! And that the thing now...I don't know if I can love this little guy as much and as soon as I love(d) her. Reading your story it's possible, so I'm really crossing my fingers :)
Did you sway for a long time? I understand you don't want to feel the pressure of others of being disappointed. Have that as well now...
Really thanks a lot for your kind and hopeful words! And thanks for the tips, I'm gonna buy some clothes real soon and try to find a great name :) Wish you all the best as well; I'm crossing my fingers for a sticky bean :kiss:

sigrid86
March 4th, 2017, 01:09 PM
Hi Sigrid, I'm very sorry for your loss...that must be awful and I hope you heal soon:hugs: I'm sure you'll feel better once your baby is here*
I absolutely fell in love immediately with all of my children. I've honestly never had a gender preference, and this feeling of wanting to have a daughter has only really starting to niggle at me as I'm getting older and childbearing days are coming to an end!! I'm currently 8 weeks pregnant with a very surprise pregnancy. It wasn't planned at all and I didn't get time to sway. I'm still debating on doing the Panorama for genetic reasons but if I go ahead I could know the gender in the next couple of weeks...but i'm still undecided at this point.
All the best with your pregnancy and I truly hope you are blessed with a happy healthy baby who you absolutely adore!!

Thank you! It does feel good to hear so many of you loved their children immediately!
Oh wow, a surprise pregnancy :) so exciting!! I would do the Panorama test but that's just a personal opinion. Did you always found out the gender immediately or did you sometimes waited for birth?
Thanks a lot! I also wish you all the best in this surprise pregnancy :) xxx

sigrid86
March 4th, 2017, 01:16 PM
Gosh, this group moves so quickly. Sorry I cannot keep up with all the 'congratulations' etc.

Sigrid, very sad to read your story. Huge hugs to you. But to add to the lovely boys stories - my three are all so different, so gorgeous in their own ways. Yes, I've always wanted a girl and did cry when I found out ds3 was indeed ds3, but I wouldn't change them for the world. He, of course, has been my easiest and happiest child - a true gift from God. My husband and I have said we would be more than happy if this one is a boy, it turns out anything like him! He is actually my first one who's been really interested in cars, trains & typical boys' toys. My other two preferred playing in their toy kitchen & role play games. Now all three are Lego crazy - my husband too, gives me a nice break, they're occupied for hours with it!

I'm only 4 weeks and feel TERRIBLE. Constant all day & night nausea - don't want to eat anything but as soon as I do feel better, which wears off as soon as I stop! Also overtired, shivery in evening, headache, back/shoulder ache & still getting stomach cramps at night (annoyingly mostly in right side - does that mean boy or just uterus expanding that way). Asked dh if he could please un-impregnate me last night and that I don't really want a girl (a boy) this much!!! Gosh hope it ends soon. Feel very guilty as don't think I'm able to be a great mum to the boys - just want to lie on sofa all day.

Hi lucyandboys, indeed it moves quickly :) I didn't check it for about 10 days so couldn't follow anything anymore :) But now when I found out we're having a boy, I just wanted to hear other boy mom's experiences.
Thanks a lot! Just like many others, it's funny that the one you wanted to be a girl, is the most amazing little boy :) It's like they feel it and do their very best, don't you think? Haha my DH is also a real Lego fan :D I hope this little one will be as great as your last ;)

That's soon to feel this terrible, poor you :( Ask your DH to do a bit more now. It's really hard to take care of 3 kids when you're feeling like that. And really don't feel guilty, it's only a few weeks (hopefully) you'll feel like this. They won't remember that ;) I wish you all the best in your pregnancy and hope you'll feel better soon! X

sigrid86
March 4th, 2017, 01:21 PM
I am currently ravenous. I still can't eat more than 300-500 calories per meal or more than 250 calories per snack without puking. As long as I stick to these ranges, I can actually eat more than I have all pregnancy! I haven't gained any weight yet and have actually lost weight [emoji20]. I'm hoping this changes soon, since I'm 10 weeks today. I bet I'm hungrier because the baby is going through a growth spurt.


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If it's any consolation, I felt terrible until 11 weeks. Since then I can eat more. Now, it's rare that I'm nauseous and if I am, it's because I didn't eat for a long time. How was it with the rest of your boys? Last pregnancy I lost weight also, about 2 kgs. But apparently, the baby takes what he/she needs, so I was told not to worry about that. Hope you feel better soon!

XXforhubby
March 4th, 2017, 02:11 PM
If it's any consolation, I felt terrible until 11 weeks. Since then I can eat more. Now, it's rare that I'm nauseous and if I am, it's because I didn't eat for a long time. How was it with the rest of your boys? Last pregnancy I lost weight also, about 2 kgs. But apparently, the baby takes what he/she needs, so I was told not to worry about that. Hope you feel better soon!

With all of my boys, I was all kinds of different types of nauseous, but I could still eat. I gained anywhere from 5-10lbs during the first trimester. This time, I'm down in weight and can barely eat [emoji57]. I'm curious to see what we are having.



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foxtrotmama
March 4th, 2017, 03:52 PM
Nausea again but no vomiting yet today, so that's a plus!

XX, I'm sorry you're feeling awful but also curious to see what you're having.

XXforhubby
March 4th, 2017, 04:01 PM
Glad you are having symptoms Fox! I hope you can avoid the vomiting- it is not fun!



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Shannshaff
March 4th, 2017, 05:42 PM
So it looks like I will be leaving the group. I did not take another test this morning, but the cramping and bleeding tell the story. :( I have been having severe cramps and a light flow of red blood. :( So it looks like I am having a chemical.

XXforhubby
March 4th, 2017, 06:02 PM
Oh no Shannshaff! I'm so incredibly sorry [emoji20]. I'm sending lots of strength and healing your way.

(((Huge Hugs)))



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Roedinga1
March 4th, 2017, 06:52 PM
I'm so sorry to hear this Shann! Big hugs coming your way.


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cosmosis
March 4th, 2017, 07:30 PM
I'm sorry to hear this , Shann. :bighug:

foxtrotmama
March 4th, 2017, 09:26 PM
Shann, I'm so sorry.

Lolabelle
March 4th, 2017, 11:16 PM
Thanks Sigrid! Just in the waiting stage! I have been swaying pink since last June, but this is only the 2nd attempt ttc since AF returned. I was still nursing DS2 and that kept AF away until recently. I was so disappointed when last month didn't work! I didn't want anyone to know that I'm ttc #3 and especially that I'm swaying pink! Too much pressure...so I've felt a little alone & that's why I decided to join the 2WW forum. Now I don't have to keep everything bottled up inside! My worry for baby2 was wondering how I could ever love another as much as the first. I discovered when DS2 arrived that your heart expands and your love just grows for both!!!! I also discovered with DS1 & DS2 that the momma/son bond is quite special! I didn't sway for my 1st or 2nd...I realllllly wanted a girl for #2, but didn't research it & didn't realize that I may have been swaying blue both times with preseed, soy isoflavones & fertileCM etc.
I have not been in your shoes, but admire your strength and courage! You are such an inspiration to others by sharing your experience & feelings. Liv will always be your first born and you'll never forget her. Your worries about immediately loving your new little guy just as much are perfectly normal. Have comfort in knowing that your heart will expand and open up for your precious baby boy. He will have a sweet angel watching over him. Wish you all the best!! :)

Julesbwn
March 5th, 2017, 01:46 AM
Gosh, this group moves so quickly. Sorry I cannot keep up with all the 'congratulations' etc.

Sigrid, very sad to read your story. Huge hugs to you. But to add to the lovely boys stories - my three are all so different, so gorgeous in their own ways. Yes, I've always wanted a girl and did cry when I found out ds3 was indeed ds3, but I wouldn't change them for the world. He, of course, has been my easiest and happiest child - a true gift from God. My husband and I have said we would be more than happy if this one is a boy, it turns out anything like him! He is actually my first one who's been really interested in cars, trains & typical boys' toys. My other two preferred playing in their toy kitchen & role play games. Now all three are Lego crazy - my husband too, gives me a nice break, they're occupied for hours with it!

I'm only 4 weeks and feel TERRIBLE. Constant all day & night nausea - don't want to eat anything but as soon as I do feel better, which wears off as soon as I stop! Also overtired, shivery in evening, headache, back/shoulder ache & still getting stomach cramps at night (annoyingly mostly in right side - does that mean boy or just uterus expanding that way). Asked dh if he could please un-impregnate me last night and that I don't really want a girl (a boy) this much!!! Gosh hope it ends soon. Feel very guilty as don't think I'm able to be a great mum to the boys - just want to lie on sofa all day.
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Butterflies buttercups
March 5th, 2017, 03:11 PM
Sorry shanshaff such sad news :(

I've realised my nausea is far worse when I'm
In a car so I've now put a sick bowl in there for any accidents !
8 weeks for me tommorow - off to have my bloods done this week for blood born test - my veins collapsed last week so they couldn't take any from each arm! Better luck this week hopefully - hope everyone's well despite the sickness !


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sigrid86
March 5th, 2017, 04:22 PM
Oh nooo shanshaff :( :( :( I'm really so so sorry for you!
But are you sure yet? Since it's a light flow of blood, it can be something else maybe? I'm crossing my fingers for you.
Take care <3

Roedinga1
March 5th, 2017, 04:28 PM
Butterflies, I hope you have better luck with your veins this week!
I'm 6w5d and feel zero nausea except a very mild queasiness in the car. No need for a puke bucket for me but definitely noticeable. My main symptoms right now are pretty serious fatigue, breast fullness/tenderness and some lower abdomen pulling/pressure.
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sigrid86
March 5th, 2017, 04:38 PM
Oh ok, so you're still swaying since June? That's a long time! But that's really good for the sway ofcourse. I hope you feel comfortable with the swaying? I know, if you're ttc you want it right away...did it take long with your 2 boys? It's good that you join the 2WW forum, or even this forum. Everyone is so helpful and comforting. It helps you when you're not in the best place.
Ooh that's so good to hear, that your love just grows for both. And I'm really hoping for that special mom/son bond :)
I have a veeeery pink lifestyle and now swayed for this little one so I thought there wasn't even a chance this could be a boy and that just makes me wonder if I was again on the wrong side of the statistics (like last year with our loss) or I did something wrong. The only thing I can imagine is that I had an orgasm but would that really be a deal breaker?
Thanks a lot for your kind words! It's funny, I hear it from a lot of people that I'm strong, but it's just that when you get in that situation you don't have any other choice than 'be strong', so I don't know if you can really call it strong. Liv will indeed be our first great love and we'll never forget her. 'No child is so present as the child that's being missed' says my therapist and I really believe that's true! And I reaaaaallllyyyy hope my heart will indeed expand and open up for this little one. But you're damn right on the fact that he'll have a sweet angel watching over him. Thank you so much for your comforting and sweet words <3

cosmosis
March 5th, 2017, 05:02 PM
Butterflies, I hope you have better luck with your veins this week!
I'm 6w5d and feel zero nausea except a very mild queasiness in the car. No need for a puke bucket for me but definitely noticeable. My main symptoms right now are pretty serious fatigue, breast fullness/tenderness and some lower abdomen pulling/pressure.
Cosmo, how are you feeling? We are pretty close as far as dates go, any nausea or new symptoms for you?


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I feel so crappy, I haven't posted today lol. I've lost my appetite for everything but protein and starch. Fat makes nauseated and I can no longer tolerate the smell of tea. Decaf isn't going down well either. So much for my keto pregnancy plans. u_u

I had plain toast today and plain puffed rice cereal with a little coconut milk, which took me all the way until 2:30PM then I had chicken breast with a corn tortilla. Talk about bland. LOL. Now I'm starving and have no clue what to feed myself. I'm baking a sweet potato now and trying to figure out what to do with my diet from this point forth, I definitely can't continue this way. Fatigue still really stinks.

Glad you aren't feeling so terrible! :) and I hope nausea and MS stay away for you! (and me lol). Still POAS?

Roedinga1
March 5th, 2017, 05:08 PM
What you're experiencing is pretty much all I know as far as pregnancy goes! I couldn't tell you exactly when the MS exactly started with any of them but it was mild with DS1, awful with DS2 and pretty bad with my m/c in Oct. I'm literally just waiting for it.
I know the diet is boring but eat whatever makes you feel best and you and bean will be fine. I lived on peanut butter and dry cheerios with my last pregnancy. Gosh, I hope you feel better! I know how miserable that is.
Ok in my defense, I have piles of Wondfos so yes, I'm still POAS and temping. It's looked the same for days or a week (I'm ridiculous). That dang CBDWE discouraged me. I have one more and I don't even know if it's worth peeing on!


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XXforhubby
March 5th, 2017, 05:23 PM
I wouldn't worry about our diet yet Cosmosis. I would wait until you feel better first. Just eat what you can and re-evaluate once MS leaves.

That's what I'm doing now. My MS has let up tremendously. I'm starting to feel hungry, which I think is due to the baby's growth spurt. I'm also breastfeeding 3 times a day still. I am starting to introduce more vegetables , but I miss my fruit [emoji20]! I can't wait for this damn fruit aversion to leave me! I hope it doesn't last all pregnancy [emoji20]!

I'm starting to get a baby bump! It's my 4th pregnancy so I knew it was a matter of time. However, since I haven't gained any weight yet I'm wondering if I have 2 beans growing in there.



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cosmosis
March 5th, 2017, 05:23 PM
What you're experiencing is pretty much all I know as far as pregnancy goes! I couldn't tell you exactly when the MS exactly started with any of them but it was mild with DS1, awful with DS2 and pretty bad with my m/c in Oct. I'm literally just waiting for it.
I know the diet is boring but eat whatever makes you feel best and you and bean will be fine. I lived on peanut butter and dry cheerios with my last pregnancy. Gosh, I hope you feel better! I know how miserable that is.
Ok in my defense, I have piles of Wondfos so yes, I'm still POAS and temping. It's looked the same for days or a week (I'm ridiculous). That dang CBDWE discouraged me. I have one more and I don't even know if it's worth peeing on!


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I hope I don't get MS :( I had nothing with DD besides 2 weeks of migraines, fatigue and sleep paralysis, oh and a hemmie.

If I had wondfo's I'd still be POAS too, so don't feel bad :p . I'd say wait at least a week before you take the other CBD. I have none of those left so now I wait for an appointment with a midwife and they will probably send me for a blood draw.

cosmosis
March 5th, 2017, 05:26 PM
I wouldn't worry about our diet yet Cosmosis. I would wait until you feel better first. Just eat what you can and re-evaluate once MS leaves.

That's what I'm doing now. My MS has let up tremendously. I'm starting to feel hungry, which I think is due to the baby's growth spurt. I'm also breastfeeding 3 times a day still. I am starting to introduce more vegetables , but I miss my fruit [emoji20]! I can't wait for this damn fruit aversion to leave me! I hope it doesn't last all pregnancy [emoji20]!

I'm starting to get a baby bump! It's my 4th pregnancy so I knew it was a matter of time. However, since I haven't gained any weight yet I'm wondering if I have 2 beans growing in there.




I wish I didn't care lol. I gained too much with the sway, which leaves me no room to gain for pregnancy and I don't want to be placed under high risk due to weight, which happened with DD. I didn't know that was a thing >_>

I'm so glad your MS is giving you a break and I hope it is permanent! :) Can't wait to see if you have two beans! How exciting :D

XXforhubby
March 5th, 2017, 05:31 PM
Yikes! I didn't know that could happen either! I see now why you are worried. FX you can manage the weight gain. I know it can be hard, but I bet you can do it. I managed to hold my weight steady in the third trimester with my first two pregnancies, because I gained too much early on. I'm hoping I can repeat that this time around. It makes me nervous gaining so much in the end, because I'm spoiled to delivering decently sized babies!



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tarasue
March 5th, 2017, 06:56 PM
Hi all-
I am new to this group. I swayed pink before and ended up with my third, most precious, couldn't imagine life without him, little boy! We were done, DONE! Apparently, God was not[emoji19]. I think I'm about 5 1/2 weeks along, due around Halloween (2 weeks before #3 turns 2 & a month before #2 turns 5.). We will see how a ooops baby sways.. My guess is only one attempt, dh and I are not on good terms and it's good if we bd once a week, if even. My diet was mostly coffee, Diet Pepsi and lots of beer... I wasn't eating much, but drinking way too much! Maybe this is gods way of getting me to stop drinking & it worked. Oh and I was on the pill. Morning sickness, shortness of breath, exhaustion and night sweats are in full force.

I miscarried before ds3, so my husband is hoping that's the case again[emoji20]

Just wanted to pop in and say hi!


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kc15880
March 5th, 2017, 07:14 PM
Hi all, it looks like I will be joining you all :running:I finally got my BFP at 5am this morning! 1 cycle post miscarriage, conceived with 1 attempt while I was unwell with gastro with minimal ewmc at attempt, just before the new moon, in summer & 52 weeks on a LE vegetarian diet. I have given it a good shot. Totally resigned to the fact that I am great at making boys & this is probably a boy also. Just hoping for a non autistic sticky bean! Im looking forward to seeing who is in this group :)

XXforhubby
March 5th, 2017, 07:53 PM
Hi all-
I am new to this group. I swayed pink before and ended up with my third, most precious, couldn't imagine life without him, little boy! We were done, DONE! Apparently, God was not[emoji19]. I think I'm about 5 1/2 weeks along, due around Halloween (2 weeks before #3 turns 2 & a month before #2 turns 5.). We will see how a ooops baby sways.. My guess is only one attempt, dh and I are not on good terms and it's good if we bd once a week, if even. My diet was mostly coffee, Diet Pepsi and lots of beer... I wasn't eating much, but drinking way too much! Maybe this is gods way of getting me to stop drinking & it worked. Oh and I was on the pill. Morning sickness, shortness of breath, exhaustion and night sweats are in full force.

I miscarried before ds3, so my husband is hoping that's the case again[emoji20]

Just wanted to pop in and say hi!


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OMG Tarasue! It's good to hear from you- I've been wondering how you have been. I'm sorry things aren't good right now with your DH [emoji20]. I'm hoping that this is your DD!



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Burakoam
March 5th, 2017, 09:30 PM
Tara i remember you...I am so sorry things are not good between you and DH...i hope that things work out for the best, and you have lots of things in your favor for pink as far as im concerned!

foxtrotmama
March 5th, 2017, 11:25 PM
The morning sickness has hit me full force. Only 4 weeks and 4 days, but I've hardly been able to keep anything down today. I'm going to try to get in to see my doctor ASAP to get some presciptions started, but I really don't want to have to take the boys with me, especially DS1. He's too curious and will repeat everything he hears to anyone he talks to- like family I'm not ready to tell.

amelia10
March 6th, 2017, 12:10 PM
Guys sorry I've been missing off here for a while, just so sick didn't have the energy to do anything... at this stage I feel of don't care what the gender is I just want a healthy happy pregnancy and be happy with what I have, either way boy or girl this is my last 😀 ... 9 weeks wed so will be happy to be going into double digits plus I hear ms wears off a bit week 9 ... here's hoping! KC welcome and congrats!!!! Xxx

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Butterflies buttercups
March 6th, 2017, 12:45 PM
Foxtrot get yourself to the docs before it's too late and kicks in bad!

Amelia I wondered where u were I thought u may have been suffering! It's awful isn't it - mines so bad this time - I def can't see me doing this ever again either I hate feeling so sick all the time Day and night !

No chance of romance for Hubby and I I feel too sick ... can't wait for it all to pass - hoping it wears off soon for u x


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amelia10
March 6th, 2017, 02:04 PM
Thanks buttercups xx ... I know the poor hubby is being neglected big time, I feel so bad I'll have to make it up to him 😚 .. once our baby is in our arms we forget all the pain and misery we go Through, mother nature at its best 😃 xx

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Wantanother2017
March 6th, 2017, 02:26 PM
First US today at 8 weeks exactly today! Heart beat was in high 160s and everything looked ok.

Was surprised it measured at 8 weeks since I ovulated on day 18 but ok!


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XXforhubby
March 6th, 2017, 02:31 PM
Yay Wantanother! I'm glad everything is ok! It's always a bid relief to hear that heart beat [emoji4]!



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Wantanother2017
March 6th, 2017, 02:53 PM
At first the volume wasn't on and it was just silence. I was thinking...uh oh. Then she turned it on and all was well.
Whew! It's so surreal.


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Butterflies buttercups
March 6th, 2017, 03:03 PM
I'm 8 weeks tommorow so we're almost the same ! My due date so far is 17th October but was warned may change at the next 12 weeks scan only 4 weeks to go!
Glad everything went well at yours wantanother x


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Wantanother2017
March 6th, 2017, 11:21 PM
Horrible nausea day today. Are you ladies suffering from MS trying the Unisom and b6? I'm trying a quarter a tablet at night since the full tablet knocked me way out last week. But I did have no nausea that following day.

My MD suggested it again today. Hope it helps.

However, am I the only one who manages to still eat poorly while sick and gain weight? Ive already gained 5 lbs! Eating nothing but fries and other horrible foods. It's all I can stomach.


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Shannshaff
March 7th, 2017, 01:28 AM
So sorry to hear all of you ladies are so sick. :( I am NOT looking forward to that.

So it looks like I may not be leaving you all just yet. I have no idea what is going on, but the tests keep getting darker even though the bleeding continues. I had an u/s this evening. I am not even sure they will see anything at 4w, but the Dr was an idiot and ordered it without even doing betas. I would not leave without them doing the beta. I will let you all know what we find out tomorrow.

Roedinga1
March 7th, 2017, 06:20 AM
FX for you Shan! I'll be waiting for an update.

Wantanother, I'll be 7 weeks tomorrow and still don't have any MS. I'm not sure what's up with that but I guess I shouldn't complain. I've never used unisom but if it helps with the next days nausea when taken at night?! That sounds delightful! I hope you feel better!


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cosmosis
March 7th, 2017, 08:33 AM
My nausea is very very mild and only happens if I don't eat anything. My biggest problem is loss of appetite and fat aversion. I'm starving but don't want to eat anything in my fridge. I can't stand the smell of butter or meats. I managed to have lamb last night, but I didn't enjoy it as I usually would.

I'm really quite tired and could just sleep all day long. I wanted to start walking long distances again, but with this energy level, I dunno if I can. *sigh* my eyes constantly feel dry and like I haven't slept, even though I sleep.

Breakfast today is plain toast with scrambled eggs and a pinch of salt on them. Oh and ginger rootbeer zevia.

Anyone else feel dehydrated all the time? I can't get enough water.

Shann, I'm looking forward to your update.

XXforhubby
March 7th, 2017, 09:11 AM
Cosmosis- that is how I was in early pregnancy. I still have to drink whenever I wake up in the middle of the night.



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foxtrotmama
March 7th, 2017, 12:30 PM
I'd already lost a couple pounds this week (I'm quite overweight so I wasn't worried), but last night I had a bit where I felt fine and ate half a pizza and a glass of sprite. :D Not feeling great again this morning but I have way more energy than I did yesterday. I'm thinking the calories helped.

My doctor is on vacation this week and the doctor covering his patients is one I really don't want to see, so I'm waiting to see my doctor next Friday at 6+2. I think I still have a diclectin refill on record at the pharmacy, I may see if they'll still let me fill that in the meantime. I hope this doesn't sound terrible but I'm considering feigning confusion about my exact LMP date to try to get a dating scan, which they won't offer otherwise.

Wantanother2017
March 7th, 2017, 03:22 PM
All I want are French fries. And cheezits. Lord help this is gonna be long haul to make it to October at this rate and not gain 80 lbs [emoji38]


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sigrid86
March 7th, 2017, 03:23 PM
Wow Shanshaff, that's already quite good news! I'll cross my fingers for you. Give us an update and good luck tomorrow!

Butterflies buttercups
March 7th, 2017, 03:35 PM
Good luck shanshaff ! I'm not worrying about weight gain at this point just making it through the day without throwing up or falling asleep somewhere random is an achievement !
I've only ever gained 28/30ibs bob pregnancies so hoping it'll be the same anyway .

Can't shake the anticipation of what I'm having I just want to know now the times going so slow for me !! I think it's coz I feel so terrible


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XXforhubby
March 7th, 2017, 03:42 PM
I'm right there with you Butterflies! I feel so awful. I threw up twice yesterday evening and feel awful today. Apparently I was only granted a three day reprieve from MS! I hope this doesn't last all pregnancy!

I can relate with wanting to know gender. I also want to know if the other twin has vanished or not. As sick as I have been it sure makes me wonder. 2.5 weeks cannot come soon enough! Then the count down begins until the anatomy scan!

FX we all can get some measurable relief soon!!



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Shannshaff
March 7th, 2017, 03:55 PM
I am waiting right there with you XX. I want to see if ou have 1 or 2 and if it is finally your little girl! I will be stalking. :)

So the ms has already started for me. I just made my lunch, ate half and could not do more. UGH

XXforhubby
March 7th, 2017, 04:02 PM
Oh Shann [emoji20]! I'm sorry you're not feeling well, but I'm happy you are having symptoms!

Are going to have quantitative betas drawn, or are you going to wait for an US? I would think once you get to at least 6 weeks from your LMP you should see more than a fetal pole and even the heart beat.

FX so hard that your little bean sticks and is nice and healthy!



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amelia10
March 7th, 2017, 04:05 PM
I've a scan in a week, can't wait to see little bubs .. doubt there will be any gender clues at 10 weeks though! Don't know does anyone else have this symptom but along with the nausea, food a versions, headaches and tiredness my stomach feels like I have a tummy bug also and this has been going on and off for the last 3 weeks ... anyone else have this, strange!!!!

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Wantanother2017
March 7th, 2017, 04:55 PM
What do you ladies think about the Ramzi theory? Is that even worth looking into?


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Shannshaff
March 7th, 2017, 05:03 PM
Oh Shann [emoji20]! I'm sorry you're not feeling well, but I'm happy you are having symptoms!

Are going to have quantitative betas drawn, or are you going to wait for an US? I would think once you get to at least 6 weeks from your LMP you should see more than a fetal pole and even the heart beat.

FX so hard that your little bean sticks and is nice and healthy!



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I had betas drawn last night and an u/s (not sure why they even did it so early). I looked up my labs and it just said POS, but the order was a quant....so I am not sure what the numbers are or even if I will get them. :rolleyes: I have not heard from the Dr about the u/s either.

Butterflies buttercups
March 7th, 2017, 05:09 PM
No I think there is at 12 weeks though - so not too far for u and XX !!

I just honestly don't feel well that's the way I can discribe this this pregnancy - everything just doesn't feel normal it's hard to explain - but tummy also hasn't felt right either every morning I have a very loose (sorry tmi!) number 2 I've had this since my bfp - I'm always shivering too like I've got the flu! It's weird my first pregnancy I was 24 and I was loving all of it apart from occasional ms nothing else major going on and I looked great - now I look washed out even my dad said today I looked so pale - anyway enough of the moaning from me ! Sorry ladies !




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XXforhubby
March 7th, 2017, 05:23 PM
I had betas drawn last night and an u/s (not sure why they even did it so early). I looked up my labs and it just said POS, but the order was a quant....so I am not sure what the numbers are or even if I will get them. :rolleyes: I have not heard from the Dr about the u/s either.

How incredibly frustrating! Hopefully someone will communicate with you soon!



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Roedinga1
March 7th, 2017, 05:26 PM
Gosh girls...I'm so sorry everyone is feeling so bad! I hope it just means a bunch of healthy little babies growing in those tummies!

I have my first ultrasound (I'm assuming vaginal) tomorrow morning. I'll be 7 weeks exactly according to LMP. However, I ovulated CD19 and my last beta was 5 days ago and it was "in the 4000's." Do you ladies think I'll see a heartbeat or will it be too early?


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XXforhubby
March 7th, 2017, 05:26 PM
I've a scan in a week, can't wait to see little bubs .. doubt there will be any gender clues at 10 weeks though! Don't know does anyone else have this symptom but along with the nausea, food a versions, headaches and tiredness my stomach feels like I have a tummy bug also and this has been going on and off for the last 3 weeks ... anyone else have this, strange!!!!

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The best gender clues via nub guessing is from late 12 weeks (more like 12w6d) through 13w6d. Obviously anything beyond 13 weeks is good too. Ramzi theory is bunk- I had a classic ramzi girl baby with my DS3. I've even seen Dr. Ramzi himself guess wrong several times.



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XXforhubby
March 7th, 2017, 05:29 PM
No I think there is at 12 weeks though - so not too far for u and XX !!

I just honestly don't feel well that's the way I can discribe this this pregnancy - everything just doesn't feel normal it's hard to explain - but tummy also hasn't felt right either every morning I have a very loose (sorry tmi!) number 2 I've had this since my bfp - I'm always shivering too like I've got the flu! It's weird my first pregnancy I was 24 and I was loving all of it apart from occasional ms nothing else major going on and I looked great - now I look washed out even my dad said today I looked so pale - anyway enough of the moaning from me ! Sorry ladies !




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I felt cold my whole pregnancy with my DS2. I mean, I wore long sleeves in May! With my DS3, I had diarrhea for the longest time! I had intestinal cramps he whole first trimester! I was told that MS could manifest as diarrhea and intestinal cramps- it doesn't have to be nausea and vomiting. I hope you can get some relief soon, but rest assured your bub is nice and healthy!



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XXforhubby
March 7th, 2017, 05:32 PM
Gosh girls...I'm so sorry everyone is feeling so bad! I hope it just means a bunch of healthy little babies growing in those tummies!

I have my first ultrasound (I'm assuming vaginal) tomorrow morning. I'll be 7 weeks exactly according to LMP. However, I ovulated CD19 and my last beta was 5 days ago and it was "in the 4000's." Do you ladies think I'll see a heartbeat or will it be too early?


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I was told anything over 6 weeks from LMP was good for hearing the heart beat or having betas over 2000. FX for a nice healthy baby!!



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Shannshaff
March 7th, 2017, 05:37 PM
Roe - you should see a HB! So exciting!!! I am excited to see all the scan pics. I am at the end of this DDG and it will feel like forever till I get any of that!!!!!!!

Roedinga1
March 7th, 2017, 05:45 PM
Thank you XX and Shan! I'm all anxious because I'm comparing everything to my last pregnancy which was unhealthy. With that pregnancy, I had my first vaginal ultrasound at 7w1d and my beta was 4730 and all they could see was a yolk sac. I'm guessing this is due to the fact that the baby wasn't growing normally?


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XXforhubby
March 7th, 2017, 05:59 PM
Thank you XX and Shan! I'm all anxious because I'm comparing everything to my last pregnancy which was unhealthy. With that pregnancy, I had my first vaginal ultrasound at 7w1d and my beta was 4730 and all they could see was a yolk sac. I'm guessing this is due to the fact that the baby wasn't growing normally?


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Oh, hang in there Roe! I'm sure things are going well! Did you have any symptoms with your unhealthy pregnancy? With my miscarriage that was at 10 weeks, I started out having mild symptoms that began to ease up.

Hopefully your scan tomorrow can put your mind at ease a bit!



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Roedinga1
March 7th, 2017, 06:02 PM
That's kind of what's making me more nervous! I was really nauseous and could barley eat with my unhealthy pregnancy but I can't remember exactly when it started. With this pregnancy, I'm having fatigue but that's about it. I've had very very mild waves of nausea but it's not bad at all.


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cosmosis
March 7th, 2017, 07:22 PM
That's kind of what's making me more nervous! I was really nauseous and could barley eat with my unhealthy pregnancy but I can't remember exactly when it started. With this pregnancy, I'm having fatigue but that's about it. I've had very very mild waves of nausea but it's not bad at all.


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Don't worry yourself too much hun. I was fine (just fatigue) until about 3 days ago lol. From what I see, the trend is that symptoms get stronger around the 6-7 week mark, so you are right at that place. Hope to hear good news tomorrow :)

BB, my bowel movements are very loose, especially the morning ones. I'll have at least one episode of diarrhea per day.

cosmosis
March 7th, 2017, 09:16 PM
I just ate 3 whole lemons (no rind! lol) with sprinkled salt on them. I think I may be pregnant.

XXforhubby
March 7th, 2017, 09:35 PM
[emoji13][emoji13] Cosmosis! With my fruit aversion, that makes my stomach turn! That being said, eat one for me- I miss eating fruit [emoji20]!



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Wantanother2017
March 8th, 2017, 12:11 AM
Lemons! How crazy!
I'm over here eating pickles like a typical pregnant woman. [emoji849]


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Butterflies buttercups
March 8th, 2017, 04:05 AM
I ate so many pickles the other day I was up all night suffering !


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cosmosis
March 8th, 2017, 06:35 AM
There's something about sour things while preggo. I wonder if its because of nausea and/or aversions?

Roedinga1
March 8th, 2017, 09:35 AM
I just finished my first ultrasound. She tried to do it externally at first but didn't see anything. My heart sank even though I knew it was too early for that. She did it internally and saw a sac, a baby and a heartbeat. The heart rate was 105 which she said was normal considering it was so early. She pushed my date back one week which I was prepared for considering I did not ovulate until cycle day 19. I am now 6w1d with a due date of November 1st! I think I feel a little relief right now.


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Butterflies buttercups
March 8th, 2017, 09:46 AM
Yaya great news roe !
Such a relief that first scan !
I was also put back by my dates annoyingly but hey ho - hope u can enjoy this part without feeling too rough x


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XXforhubby
March 8th, 2017, 10:25 AM
Fantastic news Roe! Now you can relax a bit knowing you have a healthy baby growing in there!!



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Shannshaff
March 8th, 2017, 10:34 AM
Wonderful news Roe!!

I can't believe my ms has already kicked in. So not fair. The only time I did not have ms till 6w was ironically my triplet pregnancy. But man oh man the nausea and dizziness is kicking my butt this morning. Does not help that the baby kept me up 3 times to nurse last night. I have to get this kid weaned soon!!!! I am going on a trip in May with just me and DH and Grandma and Grandpa are coming out to watch the kids. It will be a LONG week for everyone if he does not wean before then.

amelia10
March 8th, 2017, 01:51 PM
Congrats Roe delighted all is OK, fingers crossed for a healthy pregnancy xx

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cosmosis
March 8th, 2017, 01:53 PM
So glad to hear the good news, Roe :)

XXforhubby
March 8th, 2017, 02:50 PM
I just came back from my first appointment with my OB. She was only able to detect one heartbeat at 162 bpm. She took awhile to find the baby, because the baby was still one the far most left side of my uterus. Apparently the baby likes to be there [emoji4]. I am relieved to know that there is most likely only one, healthy baby!



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Claire33
March 8th, 2017, 02:52 PM
XX, are you pregnant again??!! How come I only realized now?! :suprise::oops:

Congrats with your pregnancy! Another September baby! :agree:

XXforhubby
March 8th, 2017, 03:06 PM
XX, are you pregnant again??!! How come I only realized now?! :suprise::oops:

Congrats with your pregnancy! Another September baby! :agree:

Haha, yes I am! We are very excited! Yep, this baby is due at the end of September making this one and my DS3 22mo apart- he was born 11/21/2015!



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Butterflies buttercups
March 8th, 2017, 03:21 PM
At least u have the reassurance now of one baby XX as I know u said u kept wondering about the twin which is a shame still - I'm glad ur baby is all ok in there though .xx


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Roedinga1
March 8th, 2017, 03:44 PM
Yay XX! I'm glad you're feeling some relief and that baby is looking great!


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Jconger
March 8th, 2017, 03:45 PM
It's been a little while since I checked in. How is everyone doing?! I have my first appointment and hopefully ultrasound next week. I cannot wait to see baby. I feel like things are a whole lot harder to enjoy once you've had a mc. Hoping all of my symptoms are good signs of a healthy baby, and any bad dreams with blood is just that. Bad dreams due to fear. Eek next week can't come soon enough!!

Roedinga1
March 8th, 2017, 03:46 PM
I posted this in the ultrasounds thread but haven't heard anything so I thought I'd ask you ladies too...this is my ultrasound from today 6 weeks, transvaginal. Wanted your Ramzi theory guesses for fun. I'm clueless about this and have never even heard of it until I got on this site!
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foxtrotmama
March 8th, 2017, 04:17 PM
It looks like the placenta is on the right, so I think that's supposed to be girly? I don't give Ramzi theory much stock though.

XXforhubby
March 8th, 2017, 04:59 PM
Placenta is on the right, which is boy according to Ramzi. Two of my boys should have been girls according to this theory. It's bunk. I put much more stock into the nub theory, because it is far more accurate provided you have a decent tech capable of capturing good images at the appropriate gestation (greater than 12 weeks. 12w6d-13w6d optimal).



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Roedinga1
March 8th, 2017, 05:01 PM
Thanks ladies. Can you tell me what you're looking at that is the placenta? Also, do you flip flop things for transvaginal vs external?


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XXforhubby
March 8th, 2017, 05:05 PM
External you flip flop. Vaginal is correct. Although you have to ask the tech, because they can switch the image on their screen and thus your print out. For instance, mine looked like it was on the right on the screen but the tech said she flipped the image because that is what she is used to/prefers.



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XXforhubby
March 8th, 2017, 05:05 PM
The placenta is on the bottom right of the baby.



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XXforhubby
March 8th, 2017, 05:11 PM
You can always ask them which side the placenta is on. My experience, techs like it when the patient seems engaged.



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Claire33
March 8th, 2017, 05:58 PM
Haha, yes I am! We are very excited! Yep, this baby is due at the end of September making this one and my DS3 22mo apart- he was born 11/21/2015!



Ah yes, I forgot you gave birth after me, I had a September baby, you had a November baby. 22 months, that is really sporty of you! My last two were 29 months apart and oh boy, these past years have been rough! Hopefully you won't have a reflux baby though, like I did, and potty training a toddler at the same time, LOL. I forgot how old your oldest two are. I had 4 kids in 8 years time, and you?

Wantanother2017
March 8th, 2017, 06:25 PM
Placenta is on the right, which is boy according to Ramzi. Two of my boys should have been girls according to this theory. It's bunk. I put much more stock into the nub theory, because it is far more accurate provided you have a decent tech capable of capturing good images at the appropriate gestation (greater than 12 weeks. 12w6d-13w6d optimal).



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Whoo hoo! Because my placenta is on the right


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Roedinga1
March 8th, 2017, 06:26 PM
You can always ask them which side the placenta is on. My experience, techs like it when the patient seems engaged.



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I wish I would've asked. My tech was so nice. I was so relieved when I saw the heartbeat that I cried and really thought about nothing else.


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XXforhubby
March 8th, 2017, 06:26 PM
Claire33-So far, we've been lucky and haven't had any reflux or potty training issues. Hopefully this continues! My DS3 is starting to show interest in the boys going potty. I'm thinking he might be ready to casually start when he turns two in November. I will have 4 kids over 7 years time. My oldest will be 7yrs, my DS2 4yrs, and my DS3 around 22mo when baby #4 arrives! I will have turned 38 and wanted to be done- luckily it worked out!



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foxtrotmama
March 8th, 2017, 07:02 PM
My first two are 21 months apart. It worked out quite nicely but I don't think I could handle two under two plus other kids!

I'm suddenly dreading telling anyone. I had planned to tell some friends right away, and I haven't. I absolutely dread telling my parents. They weren't thrilled about either baby. The only reason I'm putting off telling everyone in a few weeks is that way I can put off telling my parents.

Wantanother2017
March 9th, 2017, 12:39 AM
Why the dread fox?


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Shannshaff
March 9th, 2017, 12:56 AM
I know the feeling fox. I am seriously dreading telling anyone we are going to have #5! I have told one person, a really close friend that just mc her #5. She is so happy for us it is helping.

XXforhubby
March 9th, 2017, 08:48 AM
I can totally relate Fox. I was nervous about telling my FIL, but I was surprised that he was very happy for us. However all my Aunts on my Mom's side of the family could talk about was how old I'll be when the baby is born. They had their kids really young- I'm talking done having 3-4 kids by the time they were 22-24. I'll be 38 when the baby is born, which to me is not old at all! I know some of my DH's extended family will be jackasses- I come to expect that, haha! If you're worried about it, I would tell them in an impersonal way so you will be spared from the brunt of their reaction. I had my grandma tell my Aunts for me and she relayed a watered down version of their reaction I'm sure!

(((Huge Hugs)))



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Butterflies buttercups
March 9th, 2017, 10:06 AM
Isn't it awful that ppls behave in such way though ?
My in laws were the same I was shocked they weren't happy it honestly makes no difference to their life at all so I was shocked they couldn't even pretend to be happy for us !

My family are all pleased - some were shocked but again it's my family and our business!

I was really sick this morning I came downstairs and smelt last nights chicken!!! I ran straight to the bathroom and Hubby had to get rid of asap! Feeling ok this afternoon though- hope everyone's ok today!

It's a gorgeous sunny day today in England and the weathers really helping my mood x


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Shannshaff
March 9th, 2017, 10:44 AM
XX - you are not that old at all! I just turned 41! :) My family was mostly together for my Grandmother's funeral when my youngest was 4m. I got so many comments about "so you are done having kids, right?" ...Ummm, I have a 4mo. I have no idea. Life is crazy. So I know that there will be comments. I don't even want to tell my mother, and she and I are really close. I just dread the comments. But I will have to tell at least by May because she is coming out to watch our kids. ;) I think she would notice I was 15w along as this is my 6th baby. :suprise:

foxtrotmama
March 9th, 2017, 12:08 PM
To be honest, my mom isn't a baby person and made a huge effort to talk down childbearing when I was a kid. Pregnancy announcements, especially for young people or people with multiple children already, were often met with private comments like "eww, gross" or "why would she do that to herself?". She had me young and I think regretted it. Of course, all I ever wanted was to be a mom, and I had my boys in my early 20's.

Our last pregnancy announcement was met with "so is it time to get rid of some of those animals?" (3. We have a grand total of 3 pets.)

tarasue
March 9th, 2017, 12:51 PM
Hi girls-

I am scared to of telling people we are having a fourth. First it was a total ooops, and I don't want to hear all the ignorant comments like "well you know how that happens comments...". Yes, dip shits... I know where babies come from.
The other I'm just embarrassed, I will be 39 when this baby is born and already have my hands full raising three boys 6, 4 & 15 months. It's a bit overwhelming.

I had my first sonogram this morning, it was very emotional. I was never weepy with the others, maybe it's because this is a complete surprise.
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There is the nugget, 6w3d, strong heartbeat of 125(which sounds low to me, but the tech assured that was great for 6 weeks). Official due date of October 30, 2017. My little spook[emoji317].


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XXforhubby
March 9th, 2017, 03:10 PM
Hi girls-

I am scared to of telling people we are having a fourth. First it was a total ooops, and I don't want to hear all the ignorant comments like "well you know how that happens comments...". Yes, dip shits... I know where babies come from.
The other I'm just embarrassed, I will be 39 when this baby is born and already have my hands full raising three boys 6, 4 & 15 months. It's a bit overwhelming.

I had my first sonogram this morning, it was very emotional. I was never weepy with the others, maybe it's because this is a complete surprise.
https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20170309/f9794f62fbfbc705168b9392e5fda361.jpg

There is the nugget, 6w3d, strong heartbeat of 125(which sounds low to me, but the tech assured that was great for 6 weeks). Official due date of October 30, 2017. My little spook[emoji317].


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Awe, I'm so happy for you Tarasue! Our boys are the exact same ages! The only difference is our 4th babies will be about 4 weeks apart!



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Butterflies buttercups
March 9th, 2017, 03:33 PM
Happy that your scan went well tarasue! The first scans so reassuring I was 6+2 at mine and the heartbeat was really slow but he said it was normal and will get faster in the next few weeks - happy and healthy 9 months to u xx


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Wantanother2017
March 9th, 2017, 04:06 PM
Well I hate that your families aren't all fully supportive. As long as your independently raising your children I don't see why they should even be bothered, much less openly saying such hurtful comments. [emoji849]

The nausea is mild today, not to get to excited. But hoping it eases up soon!


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tarasue
March 9th, 2017, 04:15 PM
Awe, I'm so happy for you Tarasue! Our boys are the exact same ages! The only difference is our 4th babies will be about 4 weeks apart!



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I know it's kinda crazy. We are about the same age and so are all our boys, lol!


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Shannshaff
March 9th, 2017, 04:17 PM
So my HGC levels are:
14dpo - 107
16dpo - 198

So almost double. They wanted another draw today or tomorrow morning (because of the weekend), but I am getting another one done tomorrow evening to keep it at 48 hours. I am scheduling and u/s for the 20th. That puts me at 6w and we should have a good answer by that point. Of course I am advised that if I get any pelvic pain I am to head straight to the ER. This limbo is horrible, but I will be happy if this ends up viable.

XXforhubby
March 9th, 2017, 04:19 PM
Good call on waiting until 48 hours for another blood draw. I'm [emoji1317] that this all works out!



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foxtrotmama
March 9th, 2017, 04:21 PM
Tarasue, that sounds like a really reassuring scan. <3 °

foxtrotmama
March 9th, 2017, 04:23 PM
Shann, I'm sorry that you're having so much uncertainty. It really sucks, I know.

Claire33
March 9th, 2017, 06:13 PM
XX - Well done, 4 under 7!! :agree: Hopefully the potty training will go smoothly.

I can totally relate about the comments. I'm just honest with people when I say my 4th wasn't planned, then they usually just smile understandingly. I guess if you actually plan for a no.4 or 5, people will make more inappropriate comments. :rolleyes:

Roedinga1
March 9th, 2017, 09:29 PM
Thinking about you Shan! I'm so sorry you're going through the waiting game. I've been there and know it's brutal. FX for you!


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gymone1
March 10th, 2017, 09:03 AM
We went and had our 12 week scan done yesterday and everything looked great! She was being a gymnast in there and flipping all around. My OB got a look between the legs and said there was "the hamburger sign" confirming the bloodwork that it is a girl! I am super relieved that everything looks good and we are telling our parents this weekend. They will be so excited - first girl for grandparents on either side.

XXforhubby
March 10th, 2017, 10:29 AM
Yay gymone! That must have been great seeing the confirmation! I can't wait to hear about your parents' reactions! Enjoy [emoji175]!



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cosmosis
March 10th, 2017, 01:16 PM
Okay, so I'm quite miserable. We are going through custody issues right now and my hormones are making me extremely weepy and negative :( it is so unlike me. I"m usually very optimistic and can gather myself after I have a good cry, but man I've been useless for days now.

I can't eat anything and I find it difficult to cook due to everything smelling so strong and have only been able to stomach rice, bread,oranges and lemons. I had some peanut butter on my toast and I could taste mold :worry:.

I also got a coffee/tea replacement called dandy blend and I haven't even opened it because the thought of a hot beverage makes me want to gag.

I haven't thrown up or anything, which is great, but this fatigue and food aversion is killing me. I wish I could justget hooked up to an IV so I don't have to worry about food or taste anything. /rant over.


Shann, hope you get some answers, hang in there <3

For those of you who got scans recently, I'm so happy everyone got good news :)

foxtrotmama
March 10th, 2017, 01:35 PM
I'm sorry that everyone is feeling so terrible. :( I've never felt this bad at 5 weeks before. Even in my HG pregnancy I only threw up twice at 5 weeks.

XXforhubby
March 10th, 2017, 01:49 PM
Hang in there ladies! My heart goes out to you! I still feel ick but it's not near as bad as is was 4.5 weeks ago.

I hope you all can find some relief soon!



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XXforhubby
March 10th, 2017, 01:50 PM
Cosmosis- I'm so sorry you are going through extra stress and worry right now. I hope this gets resolved soon without any extra drama.

(((Huge Hugs)))



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XXforhubby
March 11th, 2017, 02:58 PM
We just sold our house! Finally the end of double mortgages is over! What a relief! We will be able to save/ have SO much more money now! I'm really starting to feel like everything is coming together!



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Roedinga1
March 11th, 2017, 02:59 PM
Oh wow! What a relief that must be XX! Congrats!!


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cosmosis
March 11th, 2017, 03:03 PM
We just sold our house! Finally the end of double mortgages is over! What a relief! We will be able to save/ have SO much more money now! I'm really starting to feel like everything is coming together!



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That's wonderful! :) happy for you!

XXforhubby
March 11th, 2017, 03:15 PM
Thanks ladies! We moved into our new, much bigger house last August. We knew that it would take until the spring for it to sell, but we are happy to be done with it all!

Now if we all can get out DG's that would just be the icing on the cake!



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XXforhubby
March 11th, 2017, 03:16 PM
I don't feel like that's too much to ask [emoji1317]🤞🏻!



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XXforhubby
March 11th, 2017, 03:18 PM
How are things going with you, Cosmosis? How are you feeling? I've been thinking of you.



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Butterflies buttercups
March 11th, 2017, 03:23 PM
Excellent xx! I can imagine u will be much more comfortable with just one mortgage now !

Hope everyone's enjoying the weekend - the past two days I have felt so much better which is great - nowhere near as much nausea and feel a little more energised !
Also me &I hubby actually managed to dtd (as the last time was on conception 6 weeks ago...poor hubby!!!) I just couldn't face it but yesterday I took advantage and went for it haha!

Cosmo I've also had bad aversions to food this time and smells make me feel sick , also like u had hot drinks make me gag haven't had any for weeks but I have the past couple of days felt better so hang in there it does get better xx



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cosmosis
March 11th, 2017, 05:48 PM
Thank you for thinking of me <3

Emotionally, I'm doing a bit better today. DH took me to the farmers market and I got a case of navel oranges(80 oranges! lol), ginger cookies and candied ginger.

I feel so thirsty all day long, but I can't stomach much water and I'm afraid of all the carby stuff I've been having. Don't want GD to creep up on me so I'm hoping this passes soon.

Have you all experienced prolonged food aversions for the entire pregnancy? I haven't had a single leafy green in over a week now or any vegetables for that matter.

XXforhubby
March 11th, 2017, 08:24 PM
I had a coffee aversion that lasted my whole pregnancy with DS1-3.

This pregnancy, I've had a fruit aversion to all fruits besides bananas. They either taste horribly sour or like cough syrup [emoji20]. It started from week 4 and is still going strong at week 11. Oddly enough, I can eat any vegetable without getting sour stomach or heartburn. This is the first pregnancy that I can eat any vegetable I want without repercussions!

I hope you can find healthy foods you can eat soon! It's so hard to change or give up foods that you love to eat! I really miss my fruit [emoji20]!



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Burakoam
March 11th, 2017, 09:17 PM
How about that housing market XX? Here in the area of Iowa I'm in it's crazy and everything is selling. Making it hard to find a good house :(

XXforhubby
March 11th, 2017, 09:33 PM
Here in Central Illinois, there are a lot of houses for sale and are finally getting sold. I feel like here it is more of a buyers market instead of a sellers market.

Hopefully you can find something soon!



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Wantanother2017
March 11th, 2017, 09:58 PM
I feel you ladies. I haven't eaten so unhealthily in my life. Well, except for my last pregnancy.
I'm constantly filled with remorse and guilt over my food choices but it's the only thing that doesn't make me gag! Nothing even remotely healthy I can even look at! This is horrible. But I'm thankful I'm not vomiting all day of course, and the last 2 days have been much better with nausea I must say. But these food aversions are killing me. Coffee makes me gag and I LOVE coffee.
Wake me up when I'm 12 weeks please.

Happy you're doing a touch better cosmosis, and that you offloaded your other house XX!


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foxtrotmama
March 11th, 2017, 11:05 PM
Cosmo, I definitely had food aversions my entire pregnancy with DS1. Even when the vomiting and nausea subsided for a few weeks in the middle, the aversions stayed. It was hard.

I also developed a couple of aversions during my first pregnancy that never went away. I no longer like the smell of coffee or ginger snaps. Taste of coffee is fine (unless I'm pregnant), and other foods with ginger are fine. But I don't like either anymore, and before that pregnancy I did.

Butterflies buttercups
March 12th, 2017, 03:41 AM
So who's the next person for a scan?
Or is anyone else having a harmony / nipt test done?
They're £400 here in the U.K. So il be waiting for a good nub picture instead hopefully!


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amelia10
March 12th, 2017, 04:26 AM
Congrats on selling your house xx you must be relieved and delighted!!! I'm the opposite can't eat any rubbish or I have a pain in my stomach .. I had a piece of choc Yst and had a pain in my belly for the rest of the day. I've a scan on Tues BB can't wait, only 10 weeks though so probably too early for a nub shot, anything I should ask in there, not great at this stuff 😃 x

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Butterflies buttercups
March 12th, 2017, 05:26 AM
Oh exciting your scan is Tuesday ! I'm waiting for my letter to come through for my 12 week scan but should be first week of April .

The only fruit I'm eating is bananas with my toast of a morning that's all I can handle fruit wise ! And vegetables ...yuk! I can stomach peppers onions mushrooms but not leafy greens or carrots :(


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amelia10
March 12th, 2017, 08:09 AM
I can't get enough apples into me ... and craving ice lollies since the sun came out so off to the store to stock up! I told a little white lie to get an early scan because I was dying to see bubs but regretting it now because I won't have the 12 week scan and nub to look at ... going to book a private one at 16 weeks but have to wait ages... that's what I get for lying 😀

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Wantanother2017
March 12th, 2017, 09:03 AM
My next scan won't be until last week of April/first of May....


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Roedinga1
March 12th, 2017, 09:20 AM
Hi ladies, hope everyone is feeling as well as they can be. I haven't had any food aversions but I have noticed the slightest nausea coming and going throughout the day. If I paid close enough attention, I'm sure I'd realize how it correlated with when I ate. It's not bad at all.
In my past pregnancies I never had a scan until my 20 week scan! She always just used the Doppler in the office and all was good. I didn't know any different. I got a scan at 6 weeks this pregnancy because of the miscarriage last fall. Anyway, I doubt I'll get another scan until 20 weeks so I will most likely be doing the Harmony (I think that's the one she offered me last time). I'm 6w5d today. When is the earliest you can do Harmony?


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XXforhubby
March 12th, 2017, 09:42 AM
The earliest that you can do any NIPT is 9 weeks, although my hospital recommends 10 weeks.



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