Wanting one baby but dh says NO

[bec2483]

hi i'm bec i'm a mum to 4 daughters who i love but find myself wanting that little boy to complete me so i bought the baby conversation up the other night with dh and omg he just crushed my dream of trying for a little boy by saying NO way to more baby and is booking in to get the snip does the disappointment in your dh choice to not want any more babies go way i would love to be able to change his mind:worry

[Cinss]

Sorry to hear that. Hopefully you can talk him out of the snip.

[Butterfly Spirit]

I was in the same boat... basically just seduce him so he can't resist you, and your persistence will pay off in the end!
Don't worry about timing, just sway and GO FOR IT!

You're talking to someone who had to dip her opks in water after her M/C!

[Zivic-Bubac]

Same here. DH said we're done after 2, but I talked him to try one more time. I failed and we have another daughter.
I gently suggested I'm willing to go for No 4, and he said don't even joke about it!

But I'm stubborn and I'll talk him again, every day I'm going to mention it and of course few serious conversations until he says Yes! Fortunately he is not mentioning getting snip.

Maybe just try to talk him out of the snip for the start and then slowly move on?

[Northern_Shutterbug]

I think you should to him more or even write him a letter. Personally I don't think you should go ahead without his consent, it's dishonest and will put strain on your marriage. I could never go against something so important.

[bec2483]

I totally understand where you are coming from but northern _ shutterbug but i no that he will love our child regrad less if we planned it or it happened on its on accord and butterfly spirit and zivic bubac i love your thinking

[Butterfly Spirit]

If you read my threads Vitex Time and Vitex Journey you can go through my journey of conception..but don't do or take what I did LOL you are swaying BLUE. I just wanted you to see how I worked things towards DH.
DH premonitionally dreamed we'd have a daughter before we met, so she was meant to be.. and I did what I had to do or A: It would have never happened or B: The age gap would have been a lot bigger and we like them close.
I prayed about it and I believe that God is okay with what I did..because he knows how stubborn my husband is. The funny part is.. DH was like "Well if you aren't going to take birth control I guess I better try the supplements incase you get pregnant".. and so he did.. he in a small way helped.

[ELP]

I would agree with the 'accident' approach Just do the diet and take your supps, drop any b/c you might be on and go for it. Where are you in your cycle atm?

[bec2483]

i'm on day 14 cervix high but no ewcm i think i going to do though accident thing and see how i go here to hope i get my baby boy

[atomic sagebrush]

Bec, I'm so sorry to hear that. I have an unusual family because I have two adult children and then got baby fever again and had three little ones 15-20 years later, and for some reason this has made people, even strangers, open up to me about their baby desire. You would not believe the number of women who wanted another child. Practically everyone I talk to says, "Well, I really wanted another baby but my husband said no." And this seems to be true regardless of the gender makeup of their kids. So just know that you're not alone and that there are many, many women out there who feel exactly the same way and do go on to live the rest of their lives, maybe with a little bit of regret but they find other things in life that are fulfilling for them.

In the US, the doctor will not do the vasectomy if the wife doesn't agree to it - I know this would cause a lot of friction but if that's the case for you, you can just choose not to sign off on it and just say you're just not ready to do anything that permanent. Tell him that the odds are that you won't have another baby but you just need more time to work through your conflicting emotions about it. Could you get a Mirena put in for now as a sign of good faith??