How long do sperm live for in creamy cm? And what is this spotting?

[chocolate]

Hiya, had read that sperm survive up to 7 days so was going to dtd every 7 days so there was always some waiting but have now read the average is 3 to 4 days. So is everyone dtd within 4 days maximum before ovulation?

Also today I had some red streaked cm when taken from cervix and pink cm this am, about a week ago I also had this, but havent ovulated yet although opk's have been almost positive so would my body gear up to ovulate and still have some spotting even if I havent ovulated? Odd!

Thanks

[zanacal]

You may only have creamy mucus externally but I think you need at least some EWCM internally to protect the sperm and help them move towards the egg and there's no way of judging whether you have that. It is possible to get pregnant 7 days before you O but not very likely - I don't think it's even especially likely 4 days beforehand.

If you're taking cm from your cervix then I'm guessing you may have irritated yourself and caused some bleeding. You shouldn't actually go inside the cervix because it puts you at risk of infection.

[chocolate]

There have been small amounts of egg white cm, I dont really take from the cervix just around it but I guess I could have scratched it or something, Im sure it was first thing though so hadnt checked recently, odd!

Will see what tomorrows temps brings.

[love being a mummy]

Sperm usually live 2-4 days maybe sometimes 5 - 6
You should be dtd every 2-4 days to help your chances.

[chocolate]

Thanks for the info. out of interest what were yourttc pattern when you got your girls? Why do you think you have more girls?

Thanks

[atomic sagebrush]

Hiya, had read that sperm survive up to 7 days so was going to dtd every 7 days so there was always some waiting but have now read the average is 3 to 4 days. So is everyone dtd within 4 days maximum before ovulation?

Also today I had some red streaked cm when taken from cervix and pink cm this am, about a week ago I also had this, but havent ovulated yet although opk's have been almost positive so would my body gear up to ovulate and still have some spotting even if I havent ovulated? Odd!

Thanks

Odds are VERY low to get pg from BD every 7 days. Not only because of the mucus but because your husband's count will be lowered. It's not like all sperm survive 7 days on the button either, because as soon as they are ejaculated, some begin to die and the rest begin to capacitate (prepare to fertilize the egg) in waves, in case the egg shows up some of them are always ready. They die several hours after capacitating but more are capacitating by that point.

So by the time 7 days rolls around, most if not all, have already capacitated and died.

Re the bleeding - are you 100% positive you are not pg?? (you can be pg even if you had AF!!)

If you're not pg, your cervix can get irritated from checking pH and also from using jellies in some people. If you're taking baby aspirin or cran (and SP to a lesser extent) these are blood thinners and can make you more likely to bleed from minor wounds.

[atomic sagebrush]

Sperm usually live 2-4 days maybe sometimes 5 - 6
You should be dtd every 2-4 days to help your chances.

Just to clarify, BD every 2-4 days helps chances of conception and sways blue. To help improve odds of pink, follow one of the frequency strategies outlined in this essay:http://genderdreaming.com/forum/gend...pink-blue.html

[chocolate]

Thanks atomic, I wonder I the blood is from irritating the cervix, def. Not pregnant. I was planning on aiming to have time intercourse as far away from ovulation as possible in creamy cm as had lots of ewcm with the boys and used pre-seed so trying for the opposite. But for a good chance I will aim to dtd within 4 days before ovulation, ideally 2 to 3 days before O but am cd15 and no ovulation yet and opk is only half way there so may have to dtd on positive opk which will be 24 hours or less before O as that normally happens.

[atomic sagebrush]

Def not pg because of test, or def. not pg because of AF?

I ask because I had AF and was 110% sure I was not pg and took supps and did strict diet, but it turned out I had miscarried a twin and swayed while I was actually pg - I just want to make sure no one else makes that mistake.

I personally think DTD on pos OPK is best anyway because it increases your chances of pg and we have a study that shows very clearly 50-50 boys and girls conceived on every day of the cycle. My very firm belief is that timing doesn't sway.

[chocolate]

hmm, def. not pregnant because the only time we dtd last month was with a condom and although there could have been pre-ejaculation present, my temps are typically pre-O low. Will do a morning test anyway just for fun ha ha!

Still waiting for that positive opk to dtd! Had to order more tests as this is the first month I got lots of opk's that were half way there to positive for a week solid. Wonder if its the s.palmetto lowering my testosterone so letting more LH through or something as apparantly its common for women with PCOS to get fake positive opk's due to high LH levels but this has never happened to me