So when did you tell people??

[dreamingpink77]

As for me, I told my parents and sisters and dh told his parents and siblings too, but we told them that we're not telling anyone else yet cause it's too early. I hope they don't talk. Also told my son, he's old enough to keep it a secret until I tell him it's ok to tell friends. I also told 2 of my colleagues who are my office mates (I couldn't hide it from them for sure being nauseous and so tired) and I also asked them not to tell anyone yet. I'll probably tell aunties and cousins etc after first trimester is over, so it's about beginning of December. I'm not sure if I'm telling office mates at that time too, I might leave it till I start showing, I don't know yet.

[sweetpea]

That's a hard one Sweetpea, I can imagine your worries about telling her I honestly don't know how to best tackle the situation but in the end, you'll def have to tell her. Can you ask your mother for help if you're telling your mother first? If your sister is also gonna be with you for Thanksgiving, that's a different story of course. I think I would ask sister to talk to her in a private room before announcing it to all the family and tell her that as your special sister, you wanted her to know first. And perhaps tell her that you really wish she'll get pg soon so that your babies will be same age. I don't know if it's the best way to go with it but I think that's what I'll do.

Unfortunately, she won't be with us for Thanksgiving. She lives 8 hours away, and her and her DH aren't planning on making the trip up here this year. In fact, she wants US to come down and visit Thanksgiving weekend, but after telling her this news, I'm not sure if she'll want to see me yet. Not that she'll be mad at ME, but it might take her awhile to process this, and I'm not sure if she'll want to see me that soon after the news. I don't know. And I would LOVE to tell her that I'm praying she will get pg soon so that our babies will be close in age, but she and her DH have already decided that for financial reasons, they have to put TTC on hold for the next year (she needs to have a summer baby bc she doesn't get paid time off from work, and she'll be off for the summer already). Ugh, this is so hard. I wish I could wave a magic wand and *poof!* she'll be pregnant. If only it was that easy. I just want her to be happy.

I'm sorry...I just realized that I've been a total Debbie Downer on this thread! Didn't mean to bring the whole lightheartedness of this thread down! I *am* very excited to share our news with family on Thanksgiving! Is anyone else planning on spilling the beans on Thanksgiving Day? Or maybe Christmas?

[jennaesue]

I haven't told anyone IRL except DH. I found out I was pregnant last Thursday, and I really have no idea how far along I am yet because I did not have a PPAF and I'm not sure when I ovulated. I just saw my dr. yesterday, and she couldn't tell anything from my uterus, so I had a beta, which came back at 1700. I need to wait until it's above 2000 before I have an ultrasound, so I have to have it done again on Monday. DH doesn't want to tell anyone until we have a better idea how far along I am. It is killing me not to tell my mom. We are super close and talk to each other multiple times a day and see each a few times a week. I actually had to lie to her yesterday because I didn't want her to know I was going to the doctor. I hate lying.

[TT_3814]

^^^ I agree with dreaming, I would do the same.

Announcements have all been different for each DS, but after we lost DS4, I saw a side of my family members that I really didn't appreciate. (and that's putting it mildly) So with this little one, I've only told the few supportive family members, the earliest being at about 5 weeks when I had to spill to my mom and sister. I wanted to wait to tell but it was my birthday and I didn't want them wasting money on alcohol I couldn't drink. Pretty sure other members of the family will find out eventually but I won't be the one to tell. I told my support groups right after I found out, all very sweet and praying for a positive outcome. As for my friends, the majority are in different states so we all connect on Facebook but I'm not ready to share the news just yet. I'm hoping to get to 28 weeks at least before I say anything.

DH cut ties with his family and I don't blame him, they're very toxic people.

[Sugaree]

Not telling anyone for several more weeks. If I can I'll wait until Christmas. It was a surprise and I'm still in shock. I know everyone will be happy, I'm just still processing it myself.

I'm enjoying having this secret. With my others I told right away.

[KidAtHeart]

With my other pregnancies, I told right away, also. It's hard to talk to my mom and not tell her - I talk to her several times a week. We moved away from family last year and while I've made some friends, I'm not close enough to anyone to tell just yet. So, while it's not particularly hard to hide the pregnancy, it's tough bc I'm a person who needs to talk things through. And my DH, as supportive as he is, is a guy. And a little freaked by the thought of number four. So, not super chatty

My closest friend lives four hours away. I didn't tell her (or anyone else) last weekend when I saw her, and I really want to tell her in person, so it looks like Christmas. And the worst part is, she's been trying to conceive for over four years! Our eldest two are the same ages but she was unable to get pregnant with a third. And here I am pregnant with number four! I am dreading telling her a little bit. I know it will totally catch her off guard. I hope it doesn't put a strain on our friendship. Not quite sure *how* to tell her either.

I'm going to see my sister who lives far away next weekend. I half want to tell her, so I can tell her in person, and I half don't - bc I don't really want to tell her before I tell my Mom and other sister (who out of everyone will be the most thrilled). I can blame being tired on having a 'bug', but when I tell her a few weeks later, I think she might be a little hurt that I didn't say something when I saw her (which is so infrequent).

I guess I'm just babbling. I know I'm going to get a zillion comments 'oh are you trying for a girl?' - not quite sure how to react to all of those just yet. Just hanging in there now until the first dr. appt - which is just before Thanksgiving.

[sugarNspice]

I'm 15 weeks (just!) and am pretty sure that I'm beginning to feel the baby move, and we have only just (as in yesterday) started telling people. After repeated losses, I wanted to be as sure as I could be that this baby would be viable. I had a CVS, and initially thought that we'd start sharing the news after good results from that, but even then, I still felt too vulnerable and too hesitant. But now that I'm feeling movement, it really does seem like there's something alive inside me, and I think I am finally ready to be happy, and so to share the news.

[hotdogz&boyz]

With my first, I told people the second I peed on the stick! Lol. It never crossed my mind that something would happen and I was just so shocked and excited, I blabbed all over the place. It turned out fine.

But with my second, we had a hard time getting and keeping his pregnancy. So after a couple of heartbreaking losses (one where we had told everyone at 9 weeks and had to go back and tell them we lost the baby), we held out on everyone except my parents (well, my mom, who told my dad and and brothers) and a good friend until 16 weeks and we announced the gender at the same time. That was pretty fun.

This time, we have been a little less cautious. I told my parents and brothers at almost 7 weeks. I told a small group of friends about 9 weeks (6 or so people). And I plan to tell my church group on Wednesday at 12 weeks. We will spill to the rest of my family at thanksgiving (14-15 weeks) and my in-laws the following week when we see them in person.

Both of my previous pregnancies, we didn't tell people in person, mostly over the phone or by the easter card we sent out for our 2nd sons announcement. So I wanted to do more in person this time.