Lola, sorry that you're having to deal with all that crap with your ex. Sometimes life isn't fair.
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Lola, sorry that you're having to deal with all that crap with your ex. Sometimes life isn't fair.
I'm staying away from HPTs this time, in the sense that I won't be doing multiple ones to see a line get darker. It stresses me out way too much.Quote:
Originally Posted by Yahmama
With my last daughter I had suffered a really yucky loss just the month before her conception (I went for 8 week u/s and watched my babies hb slow until it stopped 3mins later, then decided to miscarry naturally which took a further 4 weeks, the m/c was like short labour and I passed the sac complete with baby still inside). No joke I POAS for the first 5 months of the next pregnancy which resulted in our youngest daughter!! Sometimes multiple times a day...I think I had some issues!!!Quote:
Originally Posted by Bec
I am on holidays atm so thats why I am not really doing anything, all my OPT's are at home. I should be home in time to do some opt's before CD24 ( last cycle O ) and also CD 19 ( the 2 cycles before that).Quote:
Originally Posted by LolaInLove
I've been taking multi V and folic acid.
I have decided not to do BSF as I think that's why I didn't get pregnant last cycle. Plus have not DTD everyday like last time. Thinking about starting to DTD every 2nd from now. Today is CD17 I think.
Thanks cinss. Yep, i think this thread is more active so i will repost my question from the other thread here.Quote:
Originally Posted by Cinss
Hi Everyone,
I'm new on this forum but have been a member on ingender for long. I've been on and off many times from this ttc wagon. Thanks for starting the Jan thread and wish everyone a very happy new year.
I'm all set to ttc this month and need lots of good wishes from everyone and my sincere wishes are with everyone. Yesterday was my first day of AF and I am going to do following things from AF to OV. Could you plz let me know if anyone has any suggestion for what i should do or not do.
1) Drinks-ACV 2 times/day, COT drink 2 times/day, Fresh extracted Grapefruit juice 8Oz/day
2) Royal Jelly/Pollen bee - 1 spoon morning and 1 spoon night
3) Lots of fruits, juices and veggies along with all the ttc Boy supplements.
This is the first month that i'm eating Royal Jelly n pollen bee and i'm hoping that ovulation is going to be either delayed or early a little bit. How about grape fruit juice? Is it good or should i stop that?
Regarding fresh extracted grape fruit juice....has something changed? I believe 2 years back it was considered good for TTC boy...i googled and found grape fruit juice to increase estrogen level.....is that bad for TTC boy?
Aha I'll repost here on the active thread:
Happy New Year ladies! I hope all are doing well.
I am sitting on pins and needles here... We have been using the Marquette method of NFP/FAM where you monitor cervical fluid and use the CBFM to watch hormone patterns. They have a breastfeeding protocol to use before cycles resume. Essentially, if you have no mucus and get a "low" on the monitor, you are safe. If you get a High or have mucus, you're to abstain. If you're getting a peak your cycles are probably about to start and you go to normal NFP protocol after your first period.
Well I have been having all lows with highs here and there, but no period, no peaks. DH and I DTD on Tuesday b/c I had a low and no mucus. Then yesterday morning I got a peak on the monitor, out of nowhere!! I have a little mucus now, but no EWCM. I'm kinda worried now... The Marquette doctors actively monitor charts and help out on the forums, so the doctor said it's pretty much just wait and see, and really annoying I got NO high before a peak... I'm also temping and no shift yet so I didn't O yet... The DR said if I O today or tomorrow there's around an 85% chance we won't get pg... Obviously he does not know me LOL.
If anything we would be leaning girl sway right now with me losing off all my baby weight from Honor (I was getting to where I'm looking good, too!)... Though I am actively strength training. I told DH if I am pg I want to go Team Green and he said no LOL!
Right now I'm a little in shock (didn't realize you could even go low to peak with no warning! I don't have any OPK's to test w/ those). I just need to tell somewhere, and here is safe... And just wait and see.
Honor is still super high-maint, so I hope for her sake this was just hormones trying to start up but not making it.
I was the one who wanted to DTD on Tues, so DH said that in the future we should just abstain if I'm in the mood :p
Sorry this is long gals, just needed somewhere to talk...
HEy Skrimpy--I just replied to this on the other thread. I just hope that you get the outcome you want--if you don't want a baby right now, then hopefully you will not get pregnant. My guess would be that your cycles are still out of wack from nursing, and you probably won't O tomorrow.. keep us posted!!
Yea, he and his new wife live in the same city as we do (I stayed here so my kids could see him). We made a schedule where they go over to his place every other weekend, but they hate it there. I just hate seeing them get pg right away while we have to have issues. They are so wealthy too, they could afford ivf in a heartbeat. NOT FAIR INDEED!!!! Should be other way around!Quote:
Originally Posted by Cinss
I am all about this idea. And thanks for the virtual hug, Bec. xxooQuote:
Originally Posted by Bec
Skrimpy and Son4me, I posted a reply on the other thread, too! Will repost: Skrimpy, nail biter! I am really hoping that your hormones are just being wackadoodle right now. But ya know what, it is what it is, and if this is another oops baby, he/she will be awesome and was meant to be. I did the NFP method for years, kept me un-pregnant for a good 2 years between my girls. I had a couple of scares also, when I would suddenly have ewcm out of the blue. Keep us updated!!!! FX just a scare for you!
Son4me- Welcome! I honestly don't think there is anything wrong with drinking grapefruit juice. We don't believe in avoiding calcium for swaying blue on this site (well, I speak for most of us), and I know gf juice is super nutritious- see here: WHFoods: Grapefruit. I personally think vitamin c is excellent when ttc and awesome when you are pg for keeping that old sac of waters nice and strong among other things.
Good to just go by this rule of thumb: everything healthy and whole (ie not artificial) is going to be good for you and sway blue. As many wholesome fruits and veggies as you can (including fresh gf juice) is excellent!
I think I need to be doing something different than the IG diet I had been doing before this chemical pregnancy. I had been so off the diet during Christmas when I knew I was preggo that this is stressing me out right now. I think I'm on cd7 if you count the day I started spotting from the chemical and if my cycle isn't wacko this month. So, if what I understand is correct, just eat very healthy, full of vitamins food and avoid all artificial? I apologize if this is somewhere else on a different board, I'm just confused what to do this next go around. Maybe the lack of key vitamins played a role in the chemical?!?Quote:
Originally Posted by LolaInLove
Ah, gotcha. I really think every other day is a good strategy if you don't care to worry about tracking your ovulation. Requires that you really put some booty-effort into dtd every day (:bigsmile:) but it is pretty stress-free. I read this HILARIOUS book called "Exploiting My Baby" which is a joke, of course, written by an actress, but she was 37 I think, and super worried about fertility and was getting too stressed out about the opks and all, so they dtd every other day all month and she had a boy. Re: bsf- I was worried for many months when I started swaying and ttc back in the FREAKIN' ice ages that it was hindering me also.....funny thing is, now that I look back on my FF charts to the months that we did miraculously conceive, I did bsf! I am thinking that the rise in ph in my vag from that helped less of his already small number of swimmers die en route? Does that make sense to any of you other swaymasters? I think I might try it this month. Why not, right? But LBAM, go for some opks when you get home and see what's up, maybe?Quote:
Originally Posted by love being a mummy
Girl, most chemicals are from little balls of cells that just didn't make it.....most, docs think, from abnormality. So there is nothing YOU did to cause it, for sure. Hell, crackheads and people with horrific nutritional intake have babies all the time. I will say that the IG diet is AWFUL in my opinion. Super unhealthy, and made me get fat and feel terrible in only 6 months time. There are a bunch of good info posts about the diets.....look in the sticky note section of the boy swaying board. When I get back from a break at work, I will try to repost some. But yes, that is the gist of it. Higher calories, higher nutrients, and a nice and steady blood sugar all lend to more boys.Quote:
Originally Posted by Yahmama
Big big hugs that would have been very traumatic :(Quote:
Originally Posted by Princess of Pink
I think grapefruit is fine :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Son4meplz
Yamaha, so sorry for your loss :(
Oh wow! I guess we all have to wait and see!!!! ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by skrimpy
Son4meplz i think a very important blue sway task is to eat breakfast within 30mins of waking up, and you should try to get protien and carbs at every meal. Lots of salt on your food and bananas everyday. V8 is a really nutricious drink if you can get that in everyday too that would be great. Have a look at the sucessful boy sway thread for more tips, i have my plan in my blog if you want to have a look at that too.
Tried to get caught up and do a personals post girls!
(((hugs))) for you gals with chemicals and bfn's this month!!
Flava - it must be so tough to hear no more baby. (((hugs))) hun.
Flava and Lola, I've lost my weight by getting serious and not cheating with Atkins! It's easier b/c DH is doing it too. It is working super well! I am using Dr. Atkins book from 2002, though, not the new program by the Atkins company. We aren't using any of the bars and stuff either, just making it at home + eating simple snacks. I feel great!!
iluv - ((hugs)) for DD. I'm so glad you got some answers and can start to work out a plan for your family and your sweet girl. We homeschool too and I love how I can work so directly with each of my children and their "quirks." DH has Asperger's syndrome and though he has his strange habits and quirkyness, I really adore him for who he is.
TTC5 - oh hun, I hope you guys are able to conceive. I'm glad your GP has said you still probably have a chance. Good for you to call Legal Aid... like you said, it's important that this does not ever happen to anyone again. I hope you have a little bub in your arms soon!!
Lola - so tough that your ex is getting a baby when you want one so badly. I am really keeping my FX that you will get pg soon. Your man's swimmers have got to be getting a boost from everything you have him on ;)
Oh Princess of Pink, how hard that must have been with the m/c!! I can understand how you have wanted to be super-vigilant since then!!
cinss - did you POAS again?
Son4me - I think that the grapefruit juice is fine if it increases estrogen. You want high estrogen & testosterone for a boy, low both for a girl. DH wants low estrogen and high testosterone for a boy. I agree with the other ladies that the High Everything diet is good food-wise. I think you supps sound good.
Thanks for the FX hobber, lola, and ttc5! I am really hoping I don't end up O'ing. I am really having no mucus, just light moisture (haahaa tmi I know!) The doctor says if I do O that it's really normal for the luteal phase to be too short to sustain a pregnancy, which is depressing but reassuring at the same time (don't like the thought of a little bean not making it due to hostile environment, kwim?) But then knowing my luck with getting knocked up I would. But I really don't feel ready. I'm frustrated that my body has to be the one to go from 0 to 60 with no warning, lol!
I had such a hard pregnancy with Honor, I told DH if this one is meant to come along I'm not going to be bummed just because I didn't get my planned timing, and I'm going to enjoy my pregnancy. I feel fantastic now so I hope I can have an enjoyable pregnancy. I do think I'd really like to go Team Green though... I kind of would rather not even face dealing with GD again... but I'm getting a little ahead of myself. We are hoping to move house next spring/summer so I was really wanting to be moved before TTC/swaying.
With Honor we were avoiding but I was totally playing with fire and I knew it... just went for the feelings in the moment. So even though she was a "surprise" I knew we were taking a chance ;p This one is really a shocker though!
Ah well, nothing to do but watch temperatures for a couple of weeks!!!!
It's so frustrating to sit here worrying about this when you gals are all dying to be preggers!! I'm sending you all my baby dust!!!!!! I really just want to be cheerleader for now ;)
Skrimpy - no POAS today, waiting for tomorrow morning and i will be 14 DPO and AF will be due:nails:
Sounds good I might try BSF once, I was doing it like everytime before BD and a few times during the day so I think I done it too much.Quote:
Originally Posted by LolaInLove
I got a little bit of EWCM around 11am today and some cramps around 2pm today, I am wondering if I did O earlier today or if it's coming tonight / tomorrow. I'm worried I have left it too late now.
I know timing isn't really important though, but I haven't been on supps, on Multi V and Folic acid. Hubby has been on Multi V and L-arg when he remembers to take it.
I'm looking for opinions from everyone, if you were me would you try tonight ?
Good Luck!!!!!!Quote:
Originally Posted by Cinss
I would. I know I cramp 48hrs before O!!Quote:
Originally Posted by love being a mummy
I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your daughter. That would have been so hard watching the hb stop :(Quote:
Originally Posted by Princess of Pink
Maybe just a little POAS problem ;)
Son4me, welcome :) Lola gave some great advice re drinks etc. I don't do any of them except V8 juice and occasionally a ural here and there from AF to O.
Good luck :DQuote:
Originally Posted by Cinss
I would go for it too!Quote:
Originally Posted by love being a mummy
Skrimpy, what a situation! Hopefully it's just hormones playing up a little. Keep us updated!
ooh good luck testing!Quote:
Originally Posted by Cinss
Have you seen the threads about the HE diet?Quote:
Originally Posted by Yahmama
http://genderdreaming.com/forum/tryi...-ttc-blue.html
That is what many of us are doing. Always eat protein + carbs together, and eat large meals plus 2-3 snacks a day. Always have breakfast (eat within 30 minutes of waking up) and a bedtime snack.
Cinss--have you tested today??
Bec, how about you--is it test day yet?
Skrimpy, what happened?? DId you O?
TTC5, I hope that all the BDing you are doing will get you pregnant! FX for you! I am glad you got hopeful news from your doctor.
Lola, that sucks about your ex. :( I hate when lousy people get things they don't really deserve, and good people like you are struggling!
LBAM, did you DTD last night? I would tonight if you haven't yet, and then every other day through O. That's what we are doing this cycle.
So it is CD9... I think we are doing our first attempt tonight, but maybe tomorrow am. I can't decide. I usually O on CD13 or 14 (occasionally 15) and I was planning on DTD every other day. So either tonight, and do CD9, CD11, CD13 (and CD15 if necessary); OR tomorrow am so it would be CD10 am, CD12pm, CD14am. What do you all think?? I don't have any EW yet, but things are getting wetter down there, so I wonder if waiting until tomorrow would be better? I just haven't gotten pregnant from the last two cycles of only DTD 2x. so I want to add at least one more BD.
I also can't decide what to do about using eggwhites or preseed!! :nails: I feel like whichever I chose will be the wrong choice!!
Hobbers, you could also do the SMEP/Deanna's plan if you just want to get pg....but I think dtd every other day, even if starting now or tomorrow is also good. Even if you O on the "off" day, you will have dtd right before and after too. I really don't think the SMEP (sperm meets egg plan) is bad for a boy sway either. I asked my gf last night what they did to conceive their son, and she told me they dtd every day once they got a +opk for like 4 days. She's a ballerina and a super picky eater, so she is totally not on any sort of boy-friendly diet, either. BUT-she is healthy, and she said they used preseed. Interesting, no? Either way, Hobbs, good luck!!!
POP, that is completely horrific....I am so sorry you had to experience that! I had a bad 8wk u/s also where there was nothing in my sac, but that pales in comparison to your experience. I am so sorry......here's to us having GOOD 8wk scans someday in the very near future (*holding up my V8 to you*).
Skrimpy, thanks for the sympathy. It does suck. People keep reminding me that I should not be jealous and we'll have one of our own soon, so I need to just try to have a more zen attitude about it and just keep myself focuses on our future success. Other shit thing- they named her almost the exact name I'd name a new daughter (which I only care about because they would be my girl's little sisters.....awkward). My DH says it doesn't matter, because we're not going to have a daughter. Got my FX that you are just having a scare....you are a great cheerleader! And I hear you about moving and whatnot....would be nice to get that out of the way and let Honor get a bit older. I hear ya.
Cinss, excited for your poasing tomorrow morning!!!! BIG FX!
By the way, I looked up the "new arrivals" of the hospital here and saw a pic of my ex's new daughter.....and my office poll is she's so not cute AT ALL. Many of them thought she looked like a boy. LOL!!!!
:nyd::nyd::nyd::nyd::nyd::nyd::nyd::nyd:
LOL..Love it!! He can have an ugly baby girl...you're gonna get a cute little boy!!Quote:
Originally Posted by LolaInLove
LOL Lola :p poor little gal though, not her fault has a jerk for a dad! I really do think you guys will get pg, and listen to your DH about you getting a little blue bundle. My DH seems to have a 6th sense about that sort of thing!
Hobber I think I would go for DTD on CD 11 & 13 personally. For our blue sway I O'd on CD 12 and we BD'd that day (were too busy moving on CD 10, plus my EWCM hadn't reached peak). But I would feel comfy BD'ing on any day I had EWCM. I personally would lean towards the Preseed, but the thought of egg whites is kinda icky to me... :p. If you have copious EWCM maybe you could skip lube unless you need the ph help?
AFM - well I don't think I O'd... No temp jump at all. The monitor gave a High, but I knew it would do that since it gives Peak, Peak, High regardless... Looking at the stick though (I know you're not supposed to but I do), it's back to a totally "Low" look with NO Lh line even detectable. I am thinking my body tried to O but the breastfeeding hormones just suppressed it maybe? I will def be on the lookout for a period and I'm still going to watch my temps to see if something shifts, but I really don't think it's going to. I think if I was going to O it would have happened by now since I got the first peak reading two mornings ago. Still keeping FX!
LOL Lola hehehe!
Cinss, tested yet?
OMG my hubby makes me laugh, he sure does keep my spirits high in desperate times!
So we have been bd'ing every 48 hours for the last few days (around O) anyway... he is trying to lose this weight that he gained from swaying the past 12 months. He has been weighing daily and weighed this morning pre sex and then again after sex and comes running to me "Babe!! I dropped 400gms.. I deposited 400gms of sperm in you!!!" LMFAO he was so proud... if only it really was that much I'd be sure to catch the egg then HAHAHAHA
That's hilarious! I hope he did give you that much of a deposit!Quote:
Originally Posted by TTC5
Thank you ALL for the good lucks... BFN this morning waaaaaa, no evap... nothing!!! AF still not showing her ugly head. I am thinking i still have a teeny tiny chance of being pregnant, it is just so hard not knowing. Guess ill wait another 2 days to test again.