Pink swayers' December thread

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Mocha if we did miss OV we either got a BD in on OV day or 2 days before (depending when my crosshairs move to)

Aren't moving crosshairs just so annoying!?!

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Mocha....just dtd every day until you leave and then add in a mile high and an in law bathroom break...lol!

...lol!

[Mochagirl]

That's great that you got some attempts in just in case you had an early O. At this point would your best case scenario be to get crosshairs for one of those early days?

Check out my chart (in my siggy) - is this what your ovulation dip usually looks like? My temp this morning was actually even lower than that at the normal time - I took the temp on the chart when I was up with the kids about 30 minutes earlier than my normal time, then when I took my temp at the normal time just for the heck of it, it was .6 degrees lower! I decided to use the first temp since I hadn't been up and around before taking it. I was just surprised about that second one because I thought if you'd been up and moving before taking your temp it would go UP not down.

I usually get a bit of a fade-in on my OPKs, but the tests from yesterday and this morning are still quite faint. If I went by my usual patterns of OPKs (and disregard the crazy fertility signs my body's giving me) I would think I might still be days away from O. I'm hoping, though, that with the m/c my hormones might be slightly different and I will be surprised by a sudden +OPK instead of having to wait days longer.

Did you have massive amounts of ewcm in the first cycles after m/c?

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Jen, are you still going to test on Christmas day at 10 dpo? Did FF change crosshairs again? Do you feel anything possibly preggy-like?

It's still my plan to test at 10 (or 12???) dpo on Christmas morning. Yesterday, I was feeling some things but today, ABSOLUTELY NOTHING and thinking I'm out but it's still fun to analyze and over-analyze everything, lol! If I have to do this darn 2ww over a few more times, I’ll probably just be until it’s testing time. I'm kind of feeling like I want to hide today, lol.

[Mochagirl]

Regarding the RepHresh, if it feels right, use it. My would be to not do a J&D right away if you do use it.

Yeah, I don't plan on doing a J&D. Last night I was going to get up 5 minutes after dtd to do a J&D, but I fell asleep for awhile (damn benedryl!) so I'm not sure how long I left it. That's one of the things that started getting me worried about my sway, since that's how I conceived all my boys - just falling asleep after dtd and letting everything stay in there until morning. Maybe I will put in a fingerful of rephresh now - it'll be about 12 hours before our attempt, so hopefully that's far enough away to not kill all the sperm. It won't affect the sperm that are already in there, right?

Hey - I asked rainbow but wanted to ask you too - did you find you had more ewcm and other fertility signs than usual after your m/c? I've had crazy cramps for 3 days now - both O pains and af-like cramps. I don't normally get nearly this much cramping at O time. I also have so much ewcm I think I need to put on a liner!

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I usually get a bit of a fade-in on my OPKs, but the tests from yesterday and this morning are still quite faint. If I went by my usual patterns of OPKs (and disregard the crazy fertility signs my body's giving me) I would think I might still be days away from O. I'm hoping, though, that with the m/c my hormones might be slightly different and I will be surprised by a sudden +OPK instead of having to wait days longer.

That happened to me this time w/the OPKs...I alway get a nice fade pattern and my body, CM etc. always corresponds but this time no fade pattern and when my 1st + came, I was already starting to get a bit less soft in there. Glad you got 2 attempts in!

[Mochagirl]

I'm glad I got those attempts in too, just in case. We'll dtd tonight as well, so that'll be at least 3 good attempts. If I don't get the +OPK today, we'll try to figure out a way to have another attempt Thursday night at MIL's house.

[auroara78]

Mocha, if the Rephresh feels right because of the EWCM I'd say do it...i am of the opinion that tons and tons of EWCM sways boy, but that may be because I used to be an EWCM factory queeen...and well....I have boys

Jamie, re: emotions and accepting them, I feel the same way. When I first came on IG and read all the posts about really being disappointed with having a boy, or mothers who could not imagine how they'd ever bond with their sons, it raised all sorts of emotions in me and I became very protective of my sons and the idea of mothering them, and that led me to this weird stance that while I still wanted a girl, I'd never regret another boy if I had him. I don't know why reading those posts struck such a raw nerve in me (everyone has a right to her emotions, and who I am to judge how they feel about their children?) but it just really disturbed me, and it made me lean the opposite. I DID experience sadness that DS2 was indeed a boy, but reading those very sad negative posts about raising boys on IG brought the Mama Bear out in me and I had convinced myself that another boy would be fine, just great. That I just wanted a 3rd child.

Well...now I've come to the conclusion that while I would definitely love another boy, I would BE sad. It would be a dream lost if I did not get a little girl, and get to experience that. It is really hard admitting that to myself, because I have this weird pride issue with my boys. I love them to pieces, as I'm sure we all love our boys to pieces....but it would beyond amazing to have a daughter!

Lemon, you did do a lot of DTDing but a lot of rephresh too! I think if you got pregnant, it could very well be a girl. Is it new moon where you are at? It's not new moon in Virginia until Christmas Eve at 11:30 ish pm.

Rainbowflower, did you not get any attempts at all in this cycle?

Amari, are you out there, lurking? Back from Mexico yet?

Jen, the 2WW is maddening! I always feel liek time gets slowed down while in it! Hehe!

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That's one of the things that started getting me worried about my sway, since that's how I conceived all my boys - just falling asleep after dtd and letting everything stay in there until morning.

I think you're fine and actually wise to do that this time as you've used the RepHresh and the J&D might just be too much swaying to get preg. Last time, you weren't swaying in this same manner at all from what it sounds like...I think you're doing just great to get preg and still sway girl!

It won't affect the sperm that are already in there, right?

Won't affect what's in there from earlier...those guys should be long gone!

Hey - I asked rainbow but wanted to ask you too - did you find you had more ewcm and other fertility signs than usual after your m/c? I've had crazy cramps for 3 days now - both O pains and af-like cramps. I don't normally get nearly this much cramping at O time. I also have so much ewcm I think I need to put on a liner!

I didn't have a TON of CM but I have found that I've been more "engorged" or "swollen" in there for a longer period. EEEK...probably TMI! I usually get kind of swollen in the innner folds (not sure how else to describe it) for about 2-3 days around O time but these last two times, I was like that for like 5+ days!

Also, I was (and have been) getting cramps after DTD (way before and continuing through O time), almost like the sperm were up there, reporting for duty and having a party while wating for the egg...Felt like there was a lot of debauchery goin' on up in there a few hrs after DTD.

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Jamie, re: emotions and accepting them, I feel the same way. When I first came on IG and read all the posts about really being disappointed with having a boy, or mothers who could not imagine how they'd ever bond with their sons, it raised all sorts of emotions in me and I became very protective of my sons and the idea of mothering them, and that led me to this weird stance that while I still wanted a girl, I'd never regret another boy if I had him. I don't know why reading those posts struck such a raw nerve in me (everyone has a right to her emotions, and who I am to judge how they feel about their children?) but it just really disturbed me, and it made me lean the opposite. I DID experience sadness that DS2 was indeed a boy, but reading those very sad negative posts about raising boys on IG brought the Mama Bear out in me and I had convinced myself that another boy would be fine, just great. That I just wanted a 3rd child.

Well...now I've come to the conclusion that while I would definitely love another boy, I would BE sad. It would be a dream lost if I did not get a little girl, and get to experience that. It is really hard admitting that to myself, because I have this weird pride issue with my boys. I love them to pieces, as I'm sure we all love our boys to pieces....but it would beyond amazing to have a daughter!

I feel very much the same way! If I didn't, I'd either stop at 2 or go HT. I want a 3rd no matter what. I want a girl too! If we have a boy, he'll be loved to bits as well and so very much wanted! AND I will always be sad that I don't have a daughter and mourn her absence, not our sweet boy's presence...