HopingForSaskia's 12 week nub

[Falling2Grace]

Im hoping you get some reassurance either way. Being in limbo and doubt makes it really hard to either deal with GD head on or to know that you got your dream gender. It cant be easy, so i pray you get a solid answer either way <3
I think you have a good plan. You dont sound like a nut at all. I would feel the same way, especially given the hands and all of that during the scan.

[nuthinbutpink]

With my third DD, I didn't look at the u/s and had her do the envelope thing. When I opened it with obvious girl parts staring back at me, I still did not believe it since I did not see it during the scan with my own eyes.

I booked a 3D scan because I had never had one before and told DH it would be cool to do but in reality, I wanted to confirm gender so I could mentally move on. So, I totally get the denial part and I am sure your scan will help you move forward.

[lindi]

Yes, I really understand how if YOU didn't see it, it would be very hard to totally accept it. YOu don't sound crazy about the hand thing, either, it makes sense. Instead of ultrasound, have you thought of having that blood test done? Can that be done in australia? I don't know how expensive it is. But, it might be a good option, because if your naturopath says girl, and you get another scan that says boy... I would think you'd still feel the same way, hoping a girl will, in fact, pop out.
A blood test might feel definitive. It seems there really could be genuine doubts with these other methods.

[Mum to three girls]

Yes, I really understand how if YOU didn't see it, it would be very hard to totally accept it. YOu don't sound crazy about the hand thing, either, it makes sense. Instead of ultrasound, have you thought of having that blood test done? Can that be done in australia? I don't know how expensive it is. But, it might be a good option, because if your naturopath says girl, and you get another scan that says boy... I would think you'd still feel the same way, hoping a girl will, in fact, pop out.
A blood test might feel definitive. It seems there really could be genuine doubts with these other methods.

I just had the bloods done. It's new to Australia and I was referred by the fetal medicine consultant, had to be counselled beforehand and it cost over a thousand dollars. It was a bit of a palaver, not sure if they'd recommend it just for gender.

Good idea though!

[meeks32]

Maybe if my naturopath says girl I'll go get a scan while I'm visiting my parents next week. But if he says boy I'll leave it, cos he will be right and it will have the other guesses backing it up. I'm not getting my hopes up - don't worry!! Just looking for a feeling of peace with the "diagnosis". x

Understand and completely agree with your plan. Let me know. I can't make piece with yours yet either!!

[meeks32]

I just had the bloods done. It's new to Australia and I was referred by the fetal medicine consultant, had to be counselled beforehand and it cost over a thousand dollars. It was a bit of a palaver, not sure if they'd recommend it just for gender.

Good idea though!

Wowsers! I have heard of the blood test but that's so much! You could have 5 ultrasounds for that price!!

You poor thing, I assume you had to have it for other reasons too, and hope all is ok.

[hopingforsaskia]

I just had the bloods done. It's new to Australia and I was referred by the fetal medicine consultant, had to be counselled beforehand and it cost over a thousand dollars. It was a bit of a palaver, not sure if they'd recommend it just for gender.

Good idea though!

Oh gosh!!! That's incredible! Talk about bleed you dry... Hope your LO is ok though Mum. xx

Don't think I'll go for a blood test (obviously?) but I will certainly be booking a second scan. I really will believe my naturopath though. He is an amazing guy with unbelievable talent. He sees so much that he doesn't say. I would put more stock in his answer than 10 ultrasounds if I'm completely honest. He will probably say boy - let's face it - but that will be the confirmation I need to make peace and move forward.

[Tree]

I felt that my ds2 was a girl and booked a 3d scan. Even after that confirmation a part of me still thought he was a girl. So when I delivered him I still have a tiny question mark. Honestly though I was so happy to have another boy. But what is quite funny is that most people that don't know me have mistaken him for a girl. And some of my friends have even said he looks like a girl. He is so engaging and gorgeous and pretty. :-)
My point is, as I said above that its the sole and character that I think really defines the person. That being said, I won't be dressing my boys in girls clothes so there is always that...
Whatever the result I'm sure you'll be just fine. Better still really happy.
Please do keep us updated!

[Mum to three girls]

Wowsers! I have heard of the blood test but that's so much! You could have 5 ultrasounds for that price!!

You poor thing, I assume you had to have it for other reasons too, and hope all is ok.

Thanks Meeks, I'm pretty sure everything is fine (as is my ob). I just had a pregnant freak out over my blood results (my scan was fine) and wanted extra reassurance - very expensive reassurance! DH has a science background (we both do) and we had intense discussions about stats and risk before he gave in to his crazed hormonal wife.

Hoping, if I were you I'd get another scan too. You won't believe it till you see it for yourself, I know I wouldn't.

[meeks32]

Oh gosh!!! That's incredible! Talk about bleed you dry... Hope your LO is ok though Mum. xx

Don't think I'll go for a blood test (obviously?) but I will certainly be booking a second scan. I really will believe my naturopath though. He is an amazing guy with unbelievable talent. He sees so much that he doesn't say. I would put more stock in his answer than 10 ultrasounds if I'm completely honest. He will probably say boy - let's face it - but that will be the confirmation I need to make peace and move forward.

When do you see him?