Due March/April/May 2017 (2)

[XXforhubby]

I agree with you Burakoam about sways not working. Last year, pink wasn't great but blue was a tad better.

I'm not sure what to think anymore. I have offered up a couple possible suggestions for blue but that seemed to be dismissed. I personally think that following something to a "T" might be where the problem lays. I think it's just too restrictive for both pink and blue. I'm beginning to think a moderation is the way to go. There is something to be said for people following the guidelines, and not doing extra things, that are still getting opposites. Makes no sense to me. I mean people on both sides are having relaxed sways getting opposites as well as people following stricter sways getting opposites.

It could be bad luck, but I don't think so. I have my own thoughts- some I shared briefly in the other thread, but sadly I don't feel comfortable voicing them.



[emoji170]DS1[emoji1379], DS2[emoji602], DS3[emoji577][emoji170]
[emoji166]One last pink sway in 2016[emoji166]
My Ovulation Chart

[Burakoam]

It's alright XX and you can always message me too if you don't wanna voice them publicly, I do have info for you. It not something I really want to make public... so..

Today has been a bad morning. You know at the root of all things for someone who has a gender preference there is usually a reason why. I have thought on it for a few pregnancies now and realize that it's almost 100% the fact my relationship with my mother sucks. Really sucks. This morning she told me in front of my daughters and my father that I ruin everyone's day and do nothing right.

Not the first time I've heard such hateful words come from my mom and truth is I have heard worse. She has emotionally manipulated me in the past promising me safety and protection only to quite literally be the one who hurts me.

i have been in bed crying for hours since she left. This baby is due just a few days after her birthday and I hate that.

I've talked to therapists and doctors for years about my relationship with her but she doesn't see the problem with herself it's all within me. She wishes she never had me and blames me for all the bad things in her life. Says I have ruined her life and her marriage to my father.

Ladies even when your children are grown. When they are adults or god forbid have children of their own even.. please never talk to them that way. Please. It doesn't matter how old your children get it will always break them when you call them names or tease them or say some of the awful things I have mentioned here. No child is ever emotionally or mentally prepared to hear some of the things I have heard from my mothers mouth.

[XXforhubby]

I want to give you a huge hug! I too have a horrid relationship with my mother.

I couldn't agree more. I always stop, breath in, report what occurred, and ask what they can do differently or how they can solve their issue.

I refuse to belittle my children, make them feel less than, or that there is anything wrong with them. I always tell them I love them and that they are perfect the way they are. I may not like the choices they make, but I will always love, like, and except them for who they are. Life will try to mold and shape them, sometimes for good or the bad. I will always be there for them and provide a safe place for them to be who they are, even while they are still figuring it out.

Huge hugs!



[emoji170]DS1[emoji1379], DS2[emoji602], DS3[emoji577][emoji170]
[emoji166]One last pink sway in 2016[emoji166]
My Ovulation Chart

[XXforhubby]

I sent you a PM, Burakoam.



[emoji170]DS1[emoji1379], DS2[emoji602], DS3[emoji577][emoji170]
[emoji166]One last pink sway in 2016[emoji166]
My Ovulation Chart

[jdd1017]

I'm sad for everyone who is experiencing gender disappointment with this pregnancy. I feel like there are quite a few of us

My midwife told me today that my weight was OK at the moment but I needed to slow down. I was like wtf??? I've only gained 10 lbs and I'm almost halfway.
All I could think was gee thanks...

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Wow! I would have been so annoyed! I feel like 10 lbs at halfway is pretty dang good!!! My first OB ever told me I was gaining too much weight at my 20 week appt. I promptly switched OBs lol![emoji12] The funny thing was it was coming from an OB who was also pregnant at the time and weighed a good 50 lbs more than me[emoji849]


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[jdd1017]

Talking to DH about my feelings he said I was selfish and reminded me that my sister can't even have kids. Ouch [emoji17]


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They just don't understand at all. It's annoying!! It's like when someone says "well you should just be happy it's a healthy baby". Well duh! Of course that's what I want first and foremost. And of course I should be grateful that I can even have kids when there are people that can't. But you can't help the way you feel and being sad at the loss of the daughter you so badly wanted and never got. My husband was pretty understanding until I told him I didn't want the baby and have no feelings for the baby. I am sure to him it sounded very harsh, but it's frustrating! We should be able to confide to our spouses about our GD☹️


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[jenren]

It's alright XX and you can always message me too if you don't wanna voice them publicly, I do have info for you. It not something I really want to make public... so..

Today has been a bad morning. You know at the root of all things for someone who has a gender preference there is usually a reason why. I have thought on it for a few pregnancies now and realize that it's almost 100% the fact my relationship with my mother sucks. Really sucks. This morning she told me in front of my daughters and my father that I ruin everyone's day and do nothing right.

Not the first time I've heard such hateful words come from my mom and truth is I have heard worse. She has emotionally manipulated me in the past promising me safety and protection only to quite literally be the one who hurts me.

i have been in bed crying for hours since she left. This baby is due just a few days after her birthday and I hate that.

I've talked to therapists and doctors for years about my relationship with her but she doesn't see the problem with herself it's all within me. She wishes she never had me and blames me for all the bad things in her life. Says I have ruined her life and her marriage to my father.

Ladies even when your children are grown. When they are adults or god forbid have children of their own even.. please never talk to them that way. Please. It doesn't matter how old your children get it will always break them when you call them names or tease them or say some of the awful things I have mentioned here. No child is ever emotionally or mentally prepared to hear some of the things I have heard from my mothers mouth.

Omg you should tell her to take a walk. My relationship with my mom is nothing to write home about. We talk a couple times a year but that's it. We have Very Firm boundaries with my parents and don't even talk to dh parents. Like you emotional manipulation was far too common in my childhood and I refuse to let that poison in my children's life. If your mom can't be kind then you don't need that crap in your life and your children definitely should not ever see her treat you that way.
I feel so badly for you as I have definitely dealt with shit like this before. It is so hard big hugs

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[jdd1017]

It's alright XX and you can always message me too if you don't wanna voice them publicly, I do have info for you. It not something I really want to make public... so..

Today has been a bad morning. You know at the root of all things for someone who has a gender preference there is usually a reason why. I have thought on it for a few pregnancies now and realize that it's almost 100% the fact my relationship with my mother sucks. Really sucks. This morning she told me in front of my daughters and my father that I ruin everyone's day and do nothing right.

Not the first time I've heard such hateful words come from my mom and truth is I have heard worse. She has emotionally manipulated me in the past promising me safety and protection only to quite literally be the one who hurts me.

i have been in bed crying for hours since she left. This baby is due just a few days after her birthday and I hate that.

I've talked to therapists and doctors for years about my relationship with her but she doesn't see the problem with herself it's all within me. She wishes she never had me and blames me for all the bad things in her life. Says I have ruined her life and her marriage to my father.

Ladies even when your children are grown. When they are adults or god forbid have children of their own even.. please never talk to them that way. Please. It doesn't matter how old your children get it will always break them when you call them names or tease them or say some of the awful things I have mentioned here. No child is ever emotionally or mentally prepared to hear some of the things I have heard from my mothers mouth.

Wow that is awful!! I can't imagine any mother saying that to their children, even if they are adults! I'm so sorry you have that relationship with your mom and that she thinks it's ok to treat you that way! [emoji20]


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[jenren]

Wow! I would have been so annoyed! I feel like 10 lbs at halfway is pretty dang good!!! My first OB ever told me I was gaining too much weight at my 20 week appt. I promptly switched OBs lol![emoji12] The funny thing was it was coming from an OB who was also pregnant at the time and weighed a good 50 lbs more than me[emoji849]


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I only weigh 113. I was shocked when she told me that and very distressed the rest of the day. I went home and looked it up and apparently the average weight gain for 20 weeks in only 5lbs :"(
She even told me to stop eating middle of the night snacks. I told her I am still sick all night and most definitely do not get up to eat!!!

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[jdd1017]

I have never considered going HT because it isn't in the budget, but just for the hell of it I looked into it yesterday. What I found really interesting was that, in one of the case studies they used for a couple that used HT, the man only produced 38% X sperm and the remainder were Y sperm. I was shocked to read this, because I always thought it was 50/50. I have read COUNTLESS times on this site that it is 50/50!! Well, apparently it isn't. I started looking into it more and it seems that there might be a genetic disposition to some men producing more males and some producing more females. I pasted the websites of one of the articles about this. While I do believe the moms condition probably has something to do with the gender of the child, I am starting to wonder if it is more out of our hands than I thought. Part of me felt comfort in finding this out, because I didn't feel like such a failure or like I didn't have a strong enough sway. The other part of me felt despair, that no matter what I do, my husband and I are destined to have boys. Maybe I just need to find myself a new hubby![emoji13][emoji13][emoji13]

https://www.sciencedaily.com/release...1211121835.htm


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