This Meme breaks my heart

[Hopefully Pink]

My friends with daughters are constantly posting this Meme about about daughters and it breaks my heart. I already feel like I'm not deserving and sad that God did not answer my prayers for a daughter (I have 2 boys). But tonight my MIL and SIL both posted this and they know how heartbroken I am. Not only does it hurt because I feel it is a reminder that Boy Moms are treated like crap but that my in-laws don't care for me. I'm so heartbroken.


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[Magical22]

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[trifecta]

Ugh, the mother/daughter memes are brutal (I always see one that says "A daughter is a little girl who grows up to be a friend" ) but keep in mind that there is an equally present, unfair, and untrue idea that all women hate their mothers. Both of these attitudes are wildly presumptuous and play on stereotypes. We all have our own profound, valuable, truly individual relationships with our children even if pop culture doesn't recognize them with a meme.

[Throwaway_panther]

I've seen plenty of memes too about the specialness that comes from being a mom to all boys, or between dads and sons -- I actually have never seen a meme about dads and daughters that wasn't just a creepy "property-esque" one :/

They all kind of suck is what I'm getting at, haha. I'm really sorry this one upset you, especially when the people who shared it DID know the feelings you're going through. Other people around us obviously shouldn't have to shut down their lives because of our pain, but there's also something to be said for sensitivity.

But remember, you are truly deserving. I know there's a lot of religion on this forum, but God didn't withhold a child of your desired sex from you anymore than he grants it to someone else. It's science and luck, and sometimes we're just unlucky. You are fully deserving of anything you want. And I say all this, too, coming from a very similar mindset.

[trifecta]

They all kind of suck is what I'm getting at, haha.

I think they're all creepy in that they focus so much on the child fulfilling the parents' emotional needs.

[trifecta]

I also think the people who post these memes on Facebook tend to be really insensitive/unthinking and so a little less likely to have good adult relationships with their kids.

[karson]

Don't feel bad It's you and always you who defines your own happiness. Things won't be good anymore (even if they are) if you try hard to look at those you couldn't get. We all tend to forget about this when we're stuck this kind of situation, but don't get stuck! Life still goes on and your boys are there waiting for you to love and teach them well, perhaps that matters more than the gender for whether a boy/girl becoming loving and a friend of yours [emoji6]


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[Wantanother2017]

These kill me as well. However, I mostly believe that generally people are not posting these to be a dagger through the hearts of some. They are just not thinking of anything other then that the meme resonates with them at that very moment. Just a reminder to always try and think of how we affect others.
But they sting for me too. Every time.

[Throwaway_panther]

I think they're all creepy in that they focus so much on the child fulfilling the parents' emotional needs.

Haha, isn't that sort of why we're all here though? :/