Hmmm. Timing confusion.

[Hobbermittens]

So if we DTD several times leading up to O, can we DTD through O and not have to worry about O+12? I mean, will the sperm from before have already gotten to the egg, or is it possible to have an O+12 if you DTD after you have already O'ed? This is confusing the heck out of me!

[soontobesix]

Yeah I'm right there with you... confused! I wish I knew the answer but this is something I worried about in my sway this past week as well.

[zanacal]

Almost all babies are conceived with sperm which was already there when you ovulate - because they have to capacitate before they can make it to the egg they have a headstart on any sperm which didn't arrive until closer to ovulation.

That being said, if it's worrying you, I think that going with your CM can be a good indicator of when you're most fertile (and therefore which days are good boy days). Do you have much EWCM?

[Hobbermittens]

I have a lot of watery CM, and some EW the day befor eO and day of O. I had SO MUCH when I was just a few years younger--days and days of it! Oh well. I guess I am lucky to still have some. Thing is, I sometimes even have EW after I O, so I am not sure that's the best indicator.

[zanacal]

If a lady was looking to do an O+12 she wouldn't be doing it when she had EWCM, so I wouldn't worry about doing it after you O if you still have it (I wouldn't worry anyway but I understand!).

If I was ttc a boy I think I would try to arrive at my most fertile time with a decent 2-3 day abstinence and then DTD every day I have EWCM - O-1 and O in most likelihood. The way I see it, the sex on O-1 would be the most important because DH would have high sperm count after his 2-3 day break, I'd have lots of EWCM and those sperm would get the headstart on any sperm released on O day because they'd get the first sniff of the egg (and you also know you're not going to completely miss the egg which is a risk waiting for O day!). The sex on O day would seal the deal by adding even more sperm to the (hopefully) huge numbers from the day before

[zanacal]

I should probably say that that isn't how I conceived my boys (we DTD every other day) and I wasn't precise about ovulation day, just knew it was 'around' cd14. It's just what makes sense to me after what I've read on here!

[Hobbermittens]

thanks Zanacal! That's pretty much what I was thinking of doing, though I was planning on 2 days before O and then on O, or something like that. I was hoping to DTD the first +opk and then maybe the next day too (I get 2 days +opks), but I was also wanting to do it several days leading up to O, every 48 (or 36) hrs. So many options!

[Zivic-Bubac]

babies are conceived with sperm which was already there when you ovulate - because they have to capacitate before they can make it to the egg they have a headstart on any sperm which didn't arrive until closer to ovulation.

I agree with Zani. No worries about O+12 because if you BD before O and right on (or around) O there will be already sperm capacited and waiting for the egg. So even if you manage to pinpoint O+12 LOL! that sperm will have to capacitate first and by that time it will be too late, egg will be already fertilized with capacitated sperm, hopefully .

I think it takes 4 hours for sperm to capacitate.

[zanacal]

thanks Zanacal! That's pretty much what I was thinking of doing, though I was planning on 2 days before O and then on O, or something like that. I was hoping to DTD the first +opk and then maybe the next day too (I get 2 days +opks), but I was also wanting to do it several days leading up to O, every 48 (or 36) hrs. So many options!

I think that sounds like a great plan - every couple of days leading up to O and then on the first and second days of +OPK. Blue dust

[skrimpy]

I also agree with Zani - just BD while you have fertile fluids, then stop and don't worry about it