Newbie and looking for some guidance :)

[hplnvf32]

Hello! I am a 32 year old mother of a 2 1/2 year old girl. I would love for her to have a sister and to have another girl (for a variety of reasons) and I just randomly found this website. We didn't find out what we were having with her and I was 100% sure I was having a boy based on things I read last time: we conceived on the day of ovulation (confirmed by 6 week ultrasound due to spotting), doggy style positioning, abstinence (not on purpose), on a hot summer day but I barely had any CM...my husband drinks a ton of coffee and works out. I was fairly healthy then but ate a wide range of foods and was walking daily for exercise. I drank wine. Was at my heaviest weight--128 pounds at 5 feet. My husband comes from a family of all boys and his father has tons of brothers. I was shocked when I delivered a girl

I am now about 120 pounds and eat even healthier--a drink fresh green juice daily with kale and spinach and strawberries and other fruit with coconut oil. I take a organic whole food prenatal, liquid fish oil and liquid Cal/mag daily. I was exercising a lot (pilates and yoga) during the summer but August and September were really busy and I have mainly just been walking here and there but nothing extreme. I just finished breastfeeding my daughter. I don't drink caffeine and probably drink alcohol once or twice a week.

We really want to start trying this month so I know I am limited on what I can do and change before then but I was just wondering what your thoughts are. Does anyone has any suggestions? Let me know if you need any other information...

Thank you!

[hplnvf32]

I know it probably seems silly to be asking the questions above since I am wanting to try and conceive very soon and there probably isn't much I can do. From what I have read, I probably shouldn't be taking prenatals or drinking my kale juice or taking cal/mag and fish oil or cranberry. It seems I am doing everything for a boy sway!!! I feel like I just got lucky last time. This is kinda stressful thinking about this. I guess I am not sure about timing and FR vs. Abstinence. Anyone??

[BeadinMom]

Just wanted to say WELCOME!! Good luck!!

[atomic sagebrush]

I know it probably seems silly to be asking the questions above since I am wanting to try and conceive very soon and there probably isn't much I can do. From what I have read, I probably shouldn't be taking prenatals or drinking my kale juice or taking cal/mag and fish oil or cranberry. It seems I am doing everything for a boy sway!!! I feel like I just got lucky last time. This is kinda stressful thinking about this. I guess I am not sure about timing and FR vs. Abstinence. Anyone??

HI and welcome!!

Hi, sorry it took me a bit to get back to you.

If it's stressing you out to think about, STOP. Getting stressed about swaying and "swaycession" can tend to sway blue by raising testosterone. (don't stress about getting stressed either, LOL)

There are TONS of factors that come into play that govern the gender of baby you conceive - luck chief among them. I know baby boys and girls conceived with Microsort sperm sorts better than 90%. It's totally possible to do everything right from the boy playbook and get a girl and vice versa.

I would have you drop the prenatals, the kale juice, fish oil for sure. Cal/mag and cran are at your discretion, I would drop them but people have gotten girls

BOTH FR and abstinence of 7-10 days sway pink. DTD every 2-4/5 days tends to sway blue. Frequency is really not terrbily important in the grand scheme of things and so I wouldn't put too much emphasis on this if it doesn't work for you.

Timing 100% does not sway and you can read why here: http://genderdreaming.com/forum/gend...le-timing.html

Doggy style really doesn't sway much anyway and the proof of that is every girl opposite ever conceived by blue swayers! They all do doggy and still get plenty of opposites. Some of us pink swayers got our girls doing doggy as well.

Hot days can help sway pink by lowering sperm count and quality. Heat is bad for swimmers and for reasons we don't totally understand, lower sperm numbers and quality seems to sway pink.

One other thing to consider when considering whether or not to conceive this month, is that there is a boy peak of conceptions in Sept-Nov in the Northerm Hemisphere (you "sound" American or Canadian so assuming this applies to you) and so you may want to postpone for a few months until Mar-May of 2013 because those are the girl peak months. It's far from make or break (I have 2 boys in the girl peak months and got my girl in the boy peak) but just something to consider http://genderdreaming.com/forum/gend...s-swaying.html

[hplnvf32]

Thanks for getting back to me, I appreciate it! Ugh, waiting much longer means the gap between my two children is too long, IMO. My daughter is 2 1/2 so I really do not want to wait til spring. I did read some studies that do show that more boys are conceived in October and yes, I am in North America, west coast. I dropped the green juice, fish oil, coconut oil and prenatals but its only been a week. I barely get any CM. I am skipping breakfast and eating fewer calories. Otherwise, I am not sure what else I can be doing. I ovulate in about 5 days. I know this is not much of a sway at all but can I change the direction of my sway in one weeks time? I keep thinking of all the friends I know who eat super healthy and are having girls. I don't think we are going to make it for abstinence either. I am just planning on having a boy all signs are pointing that way. Thanks again.

[atomic sagebrush]

Healthy eating in terms of heart health and cancer prevention can be very pink friendly.

I would NEVER wait if it was better for my family to TTC. I have 2 boys in girl peak and my girl and I are in the boy peak - it's just soemthing that might help, not a magic bullet in any way!

[hplnvf32]

I'm just bummed and frustrated. We can't really do FR so we did abstinence. I usually ovulate around cycle day 16 but I started OPK's on CD 14 and they have all been negative since and now I'm on cycle day 19. I had EW on cycle day 16. So far this month, we only BD on CD 9 and CD 16. I am not sure if I ovulated early or what?? Next month, I am starting OPKs after period. I am just putting so much pressure on myself because I do not want a huge gap between my kids and we are already moving towards 3.5 years. Plus with wanting a girl, I am eating so much less healthier than I have ever have. I know stress is bad, but this is starting to stress me out! Thanks for letting me vent