October 2013 babies!

[Pangea]

Congratulations on your baby boy ICB3!

[motherofboys]

Congratulations on your little boy. I think sometimes those obvious nubs are really a blessing when your not getting your dream gender, I actually cried when I had all boy guesses on my nub, and was angry and wanted everyone to be wrong and tried to deny it. But once I accepted it I was just looking forward to having my scan confirm it and am now happy and excited about my little boy.

I felt my first little taps Monday night, and was starting to doubt they had been the baby but felt them last night even stronger so am now in no doubt.

[Pangea]

Why the heck didnt she want to tell you???? I would have freaked out on her! lol

I don't know, she was old and set in her ways. It's not really part of the culture here to find out, I think she disapproved. They don't have to tell me if they don't want to, a lot of hospitals here have policies not to tell. In fact, a lot of the hospitals here won't even give you a 20 week scan in case there is something wrong and you travel to England for an abortion, that's why we don't get NT scans either.
Luckily on DS2 there was a lovely girl doing the scan and she was happy to tell me. I think the old bag I got on DS1 has retired now.

[pinkprincess85]

Just been in the clinic + had it confirmed- It's a Boy! I'm quite upset at the mo + can't even begin to think if how I'm going to tell everyone.x

[lime]

Congratulations to ICb3 and pinkprincess on your boys. Pink princess, I am sorry you feel down. There is nothing anyone can say to help, just give it time as time helps heal. I wish you both the best.

[Pangea]

Congratulations on your boy pinkprincess. I hope you're feeling better soon.

[Nachelle]

Congrats PinkPrincess! Im sorry you are feeling down, We are all here for you!!! I hope you feel better soon!

[pebmcpd7]

Sorry pink princess, I hear in an hour!!! I was actually sick this morning with nerves......

[lime]

Good luck Peb!!!!

[Nachelle]

Good luck peb!!!! MY fingers are crossed tight for you!!! :)

[Pangea]

Good luck Peb! Hope you hear girl and break the run of boys!

[pinkprincess85]

Thanks ladies, I knew id hear boy from the 13 weeks scan photo but we got outside the clinic and hubby just started apologising saying it was all his fault etc + it just got to me + ended up in floods on the way back to the car, it's no ones fault + i'm very gratefull that all organs + other bits are perfect. We went for Lunch after and have settled on a name (we think) we both like Leo + apart from a massive headache im feeling ok now. Just trying to figure out how to tell the family/friends now and not let it get to me. Really thankfull I've got you guys here :-) , we're going to start telling people on Monday which is when we move house +will obviously be telling our boys first!

Good luck PEB -really hope some of us get out dg's! :-) x

[motherofboys]

good luck peb

[strawberrymom]

ICB3 and pinkprincess congrats on your boys. I think Leo is a great name pinkp.

[True Blue]

Fingers crossed for pebmcp6 hope you hear pink!!

Pinkprincess and ICB congrats on your boys, pink sorry you are feeling down :( give yourself time :HH:

[Nachelle]

SO I finally scheduled my sono! 2 Weeks! Whooo hoooey! Im so excited and scared!!!!

[My3SweetPeas]

Seems like I have missed a lot the last few days. I stepped away for awhile until I started to feel better about having another boy. Doing better everyday. We decided to name him Brixton Wills.
I have my 20 weeks scan next Friday. A part of me is hoping that the penis has disappeared!! LOL!!

Congrats to everyone who has recently found out what they are having. I know that some of you are disappointed, but time will heal!!! That is what I keep telling myself.
Is anyone planning on anymore children after this?? DH and I are already planning a very good girl sway. Hoping that it works!!

[Nachelle]

lol Ive already been thinking about another. I think 5 will be my max no matter what the gender I think! I really think 4 is a good number for us though, but if its another boy I just cant picture myself stopping until Im no longer fertile. Well see only god knows how many we will have :) If I dont think that way I drive myself nuts!!! ha ha:)

[motherofboys]

I'm in 2 minds. We had planned for a 5th, but this pregnancy was so much harder, both to achieve and with sickness etc I don't know if I could go through it all again if its going to be worse each time. Or take longer each time. I can't imagine being on the girl sway diet for more than 2 and a half years.
DH had said we would need to wait until we moved which would not be for another 5 years and then recently started saying he thinks 4 will be enough.

I was planning to sway next time but after the way I felt in the time between my 12 week scan and my 16 week scan I'm not sure if I could cope with the hope that a sway would bring and the possible disappointment of a failed sway. I'm already convinced that we would get another boy no matter how hard I swayed. And I don't think we'd ever have the money to go high tech.

So atm the jury is out on whether we would have another, and whether we would sway if we did. I kind of feel I wanted a girl so badly that I got a boy to give me some perspective on whats important.

We shall just have to see what the future brings.

[motherofboys]

Yeah for us 5 would be the absolute limit and I know if I got 5 boys I want another go and another. And thats not practical for us. So I have to keep a level head and draw the line somewhere. Though I can't deny I'd love a girl one day. Maybe it will happen when I'm not even trying and I'll get her! Who knows.

[aussiettc]

Congrats to ICB and pinkprincess! How very exciting to be welcoming two gorgeous new little baby boys into the world.

Pink, I hope you're feeling better really soon-just give it time.

I can not believe how many boys are on the way this month. Surely I must be joining the ranks of mum's expecting boys soon too-though scan is still 5 weeks away. ARGH!!! Oh well, 5 more weeks of imagining a pink bundle which I'll try to enjoy as this bundle will probably be a boy given the current trend! Congrats everyone xxx

[Pangea]

I don't think I'll have another one. I had always said that 4 was my limit, but I don't think I could go through another pregnancy, I really hate being pregnant. Also I want to go back to work. I really want to do a very expensive post grad degree when this baby is school age which would lead to a very stressful job with long hours. If I had more children then I'd have to delay it for another few years and I'd be getting too old, and I probably wouldn't be able to afford to do it with increased childcare costs. And even if I decided to go again it would probably be another boy, so I'd have given up my dreams for the tiny chance that it would be a girl.

I'm sure this baby is a boy, I think I'll be happy with a family of 3 boys. I'm going to call him Felix.

[Navywife620]

pebmcp6 any update yet?????

[True Blue]

Watching for an update too :)

[True Blue]

Could I not have caught a little :xy: with y'all ;) I always miss the boy boat :D

[pebmcpd7]

Well I didn't break the run of boys!!!! I am officially having my 7TH boy. My DH seen me in floods of tears, he didn't realise how much I wanted a girl!!! Well that is me done and that makes me so sad. I turn 40 2 weeks before this little fella is born, so he is def my last :(
my DH admitted he was sad too but he always looks on the bright side. I feel bad feeling this way, I should be happy that everything is OK.
GL to the rest of you out there waiting to hear your gender!!!!
My God October is a very boy dominated month!!!

[Pangea]

Congratulations Peb. He'll be really special being a seventh son!

[True Blue]

Oh pebmcp6 I am sorry you didnt hear girl I had everything crossed for you. Congrats on your 7th little boy :)

[pebmcpd7]

Tell the truth I am absolutely gutted!! I can't let DH or my boys see me like this. How long will it take me to get over this :(

I never thought I would feel this bad, I was always happy every time with my boys, it was just when we said one more, I started to think girl, now that is gone!!

[Nachelle]

Congrats on your 7th heaven!! Hang in there I hope you feel better soon!!

[pebmcpd7]

Congratulations Peb. He'll be really special being a seventh son!

Yeah he will have special powers apparently!!!

[True Blue]

Tell the truth I am absolutely gutted!! I can't let DH or my boys see me like this. How long will it take me to get over this :(

I never thought I would feel this bad, I was always happy every time with my boys, it was just when we said one more, I started to think girl, now that is gone!!

Only time will help but it will help :) I think we have all been there and get through it. This is my best sway but third failed sway :D
I only get little pangs now compared to sadness. Give yourself all the time you need.

[True Blue]

Tell the truth I am absolutely gutted!! I can't let DH or my boys see me like this. How long will it take me to get over this :(

I never thought I would feel this bad, I was always happy every time with my boys, it was just when we said one more, I started to think girl, now that is gone!!

Only time will help but it will help :) I think we have all been there and get through it. This is my best sway but third failed sway :D
I only get little pangs now compared to sadness. Give yourself all the time you need.

[pebmcpd7]

And all the psychics said girl, how wrong were they!! I even had a reading while pregnant and was told girl.....
Awh well I will have to move on now.
Thinking of Ciaran or Kevin as his name!!

I am dreading people's reaction!! We never tell before baby is born (gender reveals are not really done in Ireland) so I wil have to listen to hope you get your girl or this is bound to be the girl!!! how am I going to face the next 5 months..

I have yet to tell anyone I am pregnant, I am now gonna wait as long as possible!!!!
I will get to around 25 weeks I'd say...

[True Blue]

Cheri22 said girl for me and said girl again after bfp.

I love both those names :)

[pebmcpd7]

Cheri22 said girl for me and said girl again after bfp.

I love both those names :)

It was cheri that predicted girl for me so she could have you wrong too LOL

[True Blue]

Anytime I even think boy thoughts I look at my nub shot and it brings me back to reality :) a surprise would be nice at my u/s in 3 weeks but it would be a big shock. I have accepted girl now and very at peace with it, would go as far as to say excited :D

[motherofboys]

Congratulations on your little blue bundle. There are loads of boys making their way in October. I'm sorry that the dream is over for you.
I know its a silly question because they had to have names but how have you managed to name 7 boys? I'm struggling on my 4th! Or maybe I'm just too fussy with my "wont use the same name as anyone I know"
I hope that you begin feeling better soon and getting excited for your special little man.
When you do announce, do you think it may be easier to do it in one go, say Facebook. Just a "Very happy to announce that we have been blessed with a 7th little man joining us in October" and hopefully that will keep the comments away. I know you said its not common to know the gender in Ireland but perhaps if anyone questions it say it was undeniable during your scan.

I was expecting a few people to comment but everyone has been really lovely saying congratulations and have not had 1 "blimey you'll have your hands full" yet. I know I'm only on number 4 though so people might be a bit more vocal when you get to your 7th.

[Lld2006]

Oh BOY ...congrats to all the boy mamas! I know it isn't easy to hear boy and I'm thinking of ya.

I agree on running out of boy names!!! DS2 didn't have a name for 2 days after he was born...poor kid! I have no clue what this one will be.

I keep staring at my 12+4 pics. No sense showing the potty shot again because it is so freaking obvious11152, but are you all agreeing that there is no nub visible in this pic? I think because baby is looking at us it discounts a good nub shot anyway, right?

[True Blue]

I think it is cut off before a nub Lld so imo no nub to be seen. Nubs really confuse me though unless they are really clear there are so many white lines that can be interpreted as nubs sometimes.

[Pangea]

I'm gonna tell everyone as soon as I found out. We kept it secret with DS1, but I told everyone with DS2 straight away to shut them all up. Wouldn't have been able to cope with all the speculation until the end of the pregnancy.

At the end of last year a psychic told my mum that I would have another baby and that it would be a girl. She was rubbish though, nothing she predicted came true. My mum insists that she was right because I'm pregnant now, but she got so much other stuff very wrong. She also said the baby would be ginger which is unlikely as my DH is Asian! It better not be ginger, otherwise it's gonna look very suspicious!

[motherofboys]

The first reading I had was the closest with pregnancy. I was predicted a baby boy in December 2013 and the a girl in a few years. So just out by 2 months. Al l the others predicted girls.
Strangely last October I had a reading in person (the others were online) and she didn't mention anything about a baby in my future at all. By that point we had been TTC over 2 years and I was so deflated and sure it wouldn't happen at all.

OMG I just realised! If we are not planning another baby, at least for a few years, maybe not at all, I'm going to need contraception for the first time since 2005!

[aussiettc]

I have a nephew called Felix and he's a real cutie. Great name!

[lime]

Congratulations on the baby boy, Peb! I hope that you feel better soon. When I was pregnant with DS2, Cheri told me that I was pregnant with a girl. I told her that it's a boy and she replied back with getting it mixed up and I will have a girl next. Haha. Taking that with a grain of salt. Maybe Cheri has a success rate of 50% with gender predictions ; )
I don't think I will have more kids as it was hard enough convincing my husband to have a third.

[aussiettc]

Congrats Peb! Sorry that you didn't hear pink-I hope you start to feel excited in the months ahead. One of my close mates is the youngest boy of seven and he is an absolute star. He loves his big brothers-they're super close though admittedly fight like hell sometimes ;) and is really close to his mum (who I think he's in complete awe of given the amazing job she did raising him and his brothers). I think there is something really magical about a 7th boy! xx

[motherofboys]

How much would you listen to your kids on names?
I REALLY like the name Seth, I think it fits well with the other boys names and sounds nice when I say it along side his middle and surname.
I asked the boys today if they liked the name after DH said he liked it "and can't think of anything else" (not the enthusiasm I was after) DS1 and DS3 both said they liked it but DS2 said he didn't. He wants to name the baby Sin Cara after a wrestler. I asked if Sin Cara wasn't an option (because its not LOL) if he would like the name and he still said no.
DH says its not DS2s name, he likes his own name so thats all that matters, and we should use it if we want to. But i don't want him to feel I've excluded him or ignored his in put. Everyone who I've mentioned the name to so far has liked it.

[pebmcpd7]

What did I do wrong in life that I don't get my GD!!! God or that bigger being must have something against me :(

[True Blue]

Peb my heart goes out to you :( you haven't done anything wrong you have been blessed with 7 handsome healthy boys x x x
We never know what our future holds, with all those sons you are sure to be surrounded with lots of grandchildren and I bet granddaughters ;)
Nothing I can say will be of any comfort, I know sorry.

I understand how you're feeling right now :( hang in there x x

[Navywife620]

Congratulations Peb!!!! I know it hurts right now. But gosh what a Boy month this is turning out to be!

[My3SweetPeas]

congrats Peb!!! I know that you are feeling down at the moment. take all the time you need to start feeling better!! I am sorry that you didn't hear girl!!

[My3SweetPeas]

Anyone actually sway??? I was wondering what the stats were on that.

[Lld2006]

Anyone actually sway??? I was wondering what the stats were on that.

I agree...curious to know everyone's summer up sway. I haven't been "officially" told boy but my 12+4 potty shot doesn't leave much doubt. My sway was not great as I messed up timing & got my bfp first try...supposed to be a practice. I did the LE diet for 3 weeks, took IG recommended supplements, as did DH. Both of us took hot showers before dtd, and I did lime douche before dtd, five minutes after inserted 5ml lime douche, and wore lime tampon for four hours after. I did not j&d as thought i needed all i could get if hitting o+12. Attempted o+12, but messed up and actually hit O dead on.

[*ruby*]

Hi Girls,

Sorry I haven't been around in a while. Can't believe the amount of baby boys coming in this group! Thinking of everyone who has had recent scans and struggling with gender disappointment. I think that's the worst part about swaying in a way, if I didn't sway I'd totally expect to have boy no 3 but while swaying gives us hope for our desired gender the fall seems so much bigger IYKWIM.

I had a 16wk appointment yesterday and dr said I am measuring 24 weeks! She was very concerned as fundal size was so big and ordered an urgent ultrasound which I had this morning. All was fine baby measuring exactly right for dates with normal fluid levels etc. so after 24 hrs of stress I now feel much better. Didn't find out the gender as still not ready to deal with it. Will decide if I want to find out at the 20 wk scan in 4 weeks.

[*ruby*]

motherofboys - no I wouldn't listen to the kids re: names. Kids are fickle and likely to change there minds anyway and I find it hard enough to come up with names that both DH and I agree on let alone anyone else.

[pebmcpd7]

Agree with you ruby, if I had never of heard of swaying I would be happy with my 7th boy.... I cried myself to sleep ast night, I can't eat my DH see me feel so bad about it. He knows I am sad but I would hate him to see how sad ;(

[Sibbo]

Sorry u didn't get your girl I'm due with my third boy on the same day as u hope all goes well and you get a beautiful healthy baby :-) xxxx

[xokatietatie]

She also said the baby would be ginger which is unlikely as my DH is Asian! It better not be ginger, otherwise it's gonna look very suspicious!

Haha! I'm a proud ginger!!! But I'm not asian.

[xokatietatie]

How much would you listen to your kids on names?
I REALLY like the name Seth, I think it fits well with the other boys names and sounds nice when I say it along side his middle and surname.
I asked the boys today if they liked the name after DH said he liked it "and can't think of anything else" (not the enthusiasm I was after) DS1 and DS3 both said they liked it but DS2 said he didn't. He wants to name the baby Sin Cara after a wrestler. I asked if Sin Cara wasn't an option (because its not LOL) if he would like the name and he still said no.
DH says its not DS2s name, he likes his own name so thats all that matters, and we should use it if we want to. But i don't want him to feel I've excluded him or ignored his in put. Everyone who I've mentioned the name to so far has liked it.

I had said before we felt it was very important to include our children in the process of naming the baby, and I'm very glad we did. However, we didn't just have them throw out suggestions. I gave them names to pick between! It worked out well for us, and they all chose the same name (without knowing what the others had picked).

[motherofboys]

Peb over the last few weeks I asked myself that many times. Did I do something wrong, is there something in me that says I shouldn't have girls. Was I a horrible person in a past life (if they exist) does some higher force know I would be an awful girl Mum? My Mum and Nan didn't have a great relationship and my own relationship with my Mum is even worse, would that pattern continue growing worse if I had a girl?

I have decided its not something I did wrong, but something I did right. I don't have a lot of self confidence and wouldn't usually say I did a good job at anything. But you know what my boys are awesome, they are handsome, strong, healthy, happy and very smart. I did such a great job making them, and such a great job so far raising them, that I just keep being given more boys so I can keep doing a great job.

[True Blue]

Agree with you ruby, if I had never of heard of swaying I would be happy with my 7th boy.... I cried myself to sleep ast night, I can't eat my DH see me feel so bad about it. He knows I am sad but I would hate him to see how sad ;(

I'm opposite here, I'm more accepting because I did sway. I know in my heart of hearts I did my best to get my DG so I have no "could have done this or that" regrets :) I truly feel this baby chose us/was chosen for us :)
I tried to sway for my 2 children previous to this pregnancy but had not enough and mostly wrong information so had the "what ifs" this sway eliminated those.

I hope things are a bit brighter for you today x

[motherofboys]

I had said before we felt it was very important to include our children in the process of naming the baby, and I'm very glad we did. However, we didn't just have them throw out suggestions. I gave them names to pick between! It worked out well for us, and they all chose the same name (without knowing what the others had picked).

Joking around DH has suggested names to them or asked what they like.
It's the only name I have really suggested to them. I asked yesterday "do you like the name Seth for the baby?" and he said "no I want to call the baby Sin Cara"

[motherofboys]

I'm opposite here, I'm more accepting because I did sway. I know in my heart of hearts I did my best to get my DG so I have no "could have done this or that" regrets :) I truly feel this baby chose us/was chosen for us :)
I tried to sway for my 2 children previous to this pregnancy but had not enough and mostly wrong information so had the "what ifs" this sway eliminated those.

I hope things are a bit brighter for you today x

I didn't sway this time. I have considered swaying in the future for this exact reason. I want to know I gave it my absolute best shot and if its another boy then that is just what we were meant to have.
But now I worry that swaying would make me more desperate for it to work. Its good to hear that knowing you did your best has made you more accepting. If we do go for a 5th in a few years I will probably sway knowing that I'd probably get another boy but being able to be at peace with the idea that I did all I could.

[True Blue]

If we do go for a 5th in a few years I will probably sway knowing that I'd probably get another boy but being able to be at peace with the idea that I did all I could.

This is exactly what we felt/did and it has helped hugely now that another DD seems to have found us :D

[motherofboys]

My MIL is suggesting names to DH now. Urgh, its not that the names are horrible or anything but just that she thinks after the way she reacted to us having another baby and her practically gloating over the fact we'd have another boy like she thought we'd tried for a girl and it served us right having too many kids to get a girl and ending up with another boy. That she can now start trying to name him. DH told her we had thought of a name but didn't say what.

[ELP]

mob's I just lol at Sin Cara:bigsmile: is he a wrestler or something??

Just wanted to add another congratulations to everyone for their blue announcements:) peb, if I had been told as a young women that I would have 7 sons then that would have been my dream come true!! snd maybe then no 8 the pinky for a little change;)

My next scan is not til the 3rd of June, not sure whether to confirm or not? I'm happy thinking I have blue and I think I would prefer to be handed someone different than told?

[motherofboys]

Yes Sin Cara is a wrestler on WWE.
If you think you would rather be 'surprised' at the end with a girl, when you think its a boy rather than just been told then go for it.
In the end I decided to find out because I worried I'd be upset and that I'd have no adjustment time when the baby was born. But you already have a mix and are trying to keep things even so I don't think you'd be upset as such would you? So I'd say go for it. Have you had any surprises with your others?

[ELP]

Yes, they were all surprises except the last and it felt so strange knowing! But the temptation is so strong isn't it:) I think I will have a flamin good look and if I think I see a boy like what happened last time then I may get the confirmation!!:agree:

[motherofboys]

In that case I think have a good old look yourself and then go for the surprise if you don't spot anything.
I'm glad I did find out in a way so I could prepare myself, but I've been so fine with it being another boy that I think I would have been ok with a surprise in the end. I've always wanted one but found an excuse not to. Wish I'd done it with my first now when it didn't matter LOL
If I do have another I think I will have the surprise, just so I've had that experience.

[Navywife620]

Well I had to go to the ER because I was unplugging my sander and I got electrically shocked and my OB wanted me to get an ultrasound done to check on the baby. Baby is good... but tech said she thinks its a boy. But not to paint the room or anything yet. I know it's a boy now... feeling completely crappy.

[Lld2006]

Navywife for some reason I have felt all along you are going to have a girl...so I'm totally surprised! Were you able to see anything when she was guessing?

I found out on fb today that a friend from college is having a girl after two boys. Totally makes me sad. I hate being so selfish!!

[Navywife620]

I am still shocked. she she tried to show me but I couldn't really tell. then she showed again between the legs and it has 3 lines on it. I don't know. i still feel like this isn't a boy. and now since I don't even have a picture since it was the ER and I am googling and driving myself nuts. because I can't remember exactly what it looked like. :( now I have to wait until my anatomy scan. which is going to feel like forever away.

[Pangea]

Navywife I'm really thought you were having a girl too. I'm glad to hear baby is ok. I got an electric shock when unplugging my hair straighteners when I was 20 weeks with DS2. I started googling and was really worried so I went into the hospital, when I got there they kept going on about how unusual my case was, made me feel like I was crazy! They never even gave me a scan, just listened to heartbeat on a doppler.

[Pangea]

I really want to find out now. Initially I was thinking that I'd like to keep a tiny little bit of hope for as long as possible, but I'm over that now and I just want to get rid of the hope and come to terms with the reality as soon as possible.
My anatomy scan is on the 7th of June and I have an important exam on the 14th of June. I'm really worried that if I'm feeling down in the days after my scan then it's going to adversely affect my studying and I'll do badly in the exam. I just want to make sure the baby is healthy as soon as possible and get some time to accept that it's a boy before my exam.
I can't afford a private scan though as we've just bought our first house and we've had to spend so much money buying appliances and furniture, there isn't a spare penny. So I'll just have to wait.

[Navywife620]

Im sitting here bawling my eyes out. Even though the er tech didnt tell me 100% its a boy. I know its near impossible for it to turn into a girl. I keep asking God why. In my heart I truly thought this was my daughter. I think I need theraphy because I dont even want this baby anymore.

[xokatietatie]

Im sitting here bawling my eyes out. Even though the er tech didnt tell me 100% its a boy. I know its near impossible for it to turn into a girl. I keep asking God why. In my heart I truly thought this was my daughter. I think I need theraphy because I dont even want this baby anymore.

I felt that way for a while. I actually told my mother that I didn't feel anything for the baby and just didn't want him. Just like you, I honestly felt like this was my daughter. I truly believed I was finally getting my girl. It was devastating to think about having a fourth boy. I'm not going to sugar coat it and tell you that a few days from now you'll feel perfectly fine and happy. I had good days, and I'm thankful for them... but I still struggle. Just this evening I saw a baby girl and felt very down for a bit. It's not easy, but you will get through it. I promise you will get through it. My mom once said to me "It's so easy to praise God when things are going our way, but how often do we praise him when our life is not going our way or when things are bad?" It hit me like a ton of bricks hearing that, but I'm so glad that conversation happened because I constantly think back to it. You are that little prince's mommy and God gave you each other for a reason. You were meant to be his mother and he was meant to be your son. I hope it gets easier for you soon. You're not alone in this!

[motherofboys]

Navy was the tech a proper scan tech or someone from er with enough training to check the baby was unharmed?
While its best to keep in mind that its likely to be a boy, its not unheard of for even fully trained techs to get it wrong.
I agree with Katie though, I could really see my baby girl, I really felt it was a girl but convinced myself it was a boy. Even the day before the scan my head said boy but my gut said girl.
I've been OK about my baby being a boy, but even I have a few moments when I feel a bit sad that I didn't get that girl I could see.
But like Katie said, there is a reason that little man has been given to you and it may not become clear just yet but I'm sure that once you lay eyes on him you will know that he was meant for you.

[Pangea]

Navywife, I'm sorry, I hope this feeling passes soon.

It's crazy what's going on this month. Is Strawberrymom the only one of us girl swayers so far who's getting a girl? I just had a look at the front page and counted 11 boys and only 2 girls altogether so far.

[motherofboys]

Wow boy heavy! I know some people are waiting for their 20 week scans in June so perhaps by the end of June there will be a more even girl:boy ratio

[Nachelle]

Holy Crow!!!!! EEEKKKK!!! Im getting very nervous now!!!!! I think Im def. putting it in an envelope. Im just scared I think I want to hang on to the hope of pink as long as possible. I really thought this was going to be a good month for everybody. My friend is pregnant with her 2nd kid and she is 100 percent convinced that its a girl. THat makes me mad for some reason. I keep thinking I hope you have a boy because your so cocky, then I feel like im jinxing myself for even thinking that! It just makes me mad because she doesnt even take care of the one she has and she further along than me and hasnt even been to the doctors! It drives me crazy how irresponsible she is with her kids, but shell prob get a girl, right! I dont get mad when good moms get their little girls but when people like that get their DG it makes me wonder, WTF is wrong with this world. Im sorry Im ranting. Now Im getting closer to my scan Im realizing how much I really want a girl and Im scared. It was that damn sparkly disney pink paint at walmart! lol I could picture painting our small room with it and decorating it with girl stuff. But I picked out a pretty blue to keep my feelings safe. Whatever happens I know their is a bigger picture and god has a plan for me and my boys. I just cant help the feeling that I want a baby girl!

[My3SweetPeas]

Im sitting here bawling my eyes out. Even though the er tech didnt tell me 100% its a boy. I know its near impossible for it to turn into a girl. I keep asking God why. In my heart I truly thought this was my daughter. I think I need theraphy because I dont even want this baby anymore.

I am so sorry!!! I feel the same way you do. Everyday seems to get a little better though. I am still holding out hope that when I go for my anatomy scan next Friday that maybe my gender scan was wrong. I think I will be able to accept it more after next Friday!! Hoping that you start to feel better soon!!

[lime]

I'm pretty nervous for my scan as well!!! A few of my friends are due around the same time and one just found out that she is having another girl in early October. 5 more days and I will know if it is a boy or a girl. Then I can stop obsessing over it!!!

[Navywife620]

Navy was the tech a proper scan tech or someone from er with enough training to check the baby was unharmed?
While its best to keep in mind that its likely to be a boy, its not unheard of for even fully trained techs to get it wrong.
I agree with Katie though, I could really see my baby girl, I really felt it was a girl but convinced myself it was a boy. Even the day before the scan my head said boy but my gut said girl.
I've been OK about my baby being a boy, but even I have a few moments when I feel a bit sad that I didn't get that girl I could see.
But like Katie said, there is a reason that little man has been given to you and it may not become clear just yet but I'm sure that once you lay eyes on him you will know that he was meant for you.

She was from radiology. She said she was taking anatomy of the baby to make sure the baby was ok. She asked if I felt one way or the other about what the baby was. I lied and said not really. She was like I Think it may be a boy. Shes like I think this may be the head of the penis right there but I could not even see what she was pointing to. In my mind I was like no way, I know this is my girl. Then she said she was almost done and I stupidly asked could we take one more peak in between the legs. She reminded me that this was just to check the health of the baby and I told her i knew that I was just curious now. So she showed me in between the legs and I saw three bright lines but they were farer out, not close in. I honestly still didn't believe it. Again she said yeah think that is a boy, if you buy anything save the receipts though. I am still trying to picture it in my head but I can't I wish I got a picture. I was up all last night looking at boy and girls at 16 weeks. I found out with DS2 at 16 weeks and it looked nothing like I saw yesterday but I know every baby is different and may look different down there.

Now I am just going to try my hardest to wait until my anatomy scan at my doctors to get 100% confirmation. I slept none last night, I still cannot believe it. I still don't feel like it's a boy.

[Nachelle]

I really hope she was wrong for you and you have your girl!! I hope some of us have our DG! It makes me so sad when we dont. I wish we all can hear that were having our DG! :(

[lime]

Navy, I think there is a chance that the baby is a girl, so don't lose hope yet. But I can't even imagine the frustration you must feel. Not all radiologists at hospitals scan pregnant women on a daily basis.. so maybe she is just not as experienced and there is always room for error. When is your gender scan?

[xokatietatie]

DH keeps secretly hoping little one's penis will disappear before our scan with the doctor on June 3rd. :-( Most days he's quiet about it, but when he's vocal about his sadness I find it hard to be excited. I hate that he is so devastated. I feel as though I've let him down.

[Nachelle]

I hear you about feeling like your letting people down. My mil has 7 grandsons and no grand daughters and she lost her only daughter in a car accident when she was 18. SO I feel horrible every time I tell her its a boy, because I know how bad she wants a grand daughter in her life.

[Kiara]

She was from radiology. She said she was taking anatomy of the baby to make sure the baby was ok. She asked if I felt one way or the other about what the baby was. I lied and said not really. She was like I Think it may be a boy. Shes like I think this may be the head of the penis right there but I could not even see what she was pointing to. In my mind I was like no way, I know this is my girl. Then she said she was almost done and I stupidly asked could we take one more peak in between the legs. She reminded me that this was just to check the health of the baby and I told her i knew that I was just curious now. So she showed me in between the legs and I saw three bright lines but they were farer out, not close in. I honestly still didn't believe it. Again she said yeah think that is a boy, if you buy anything save the receipts though. I am still trying to picture it in my head but I can't I wish I got a picture. I was up all last night looking at boy and girls at 16 weeks. I found out with DS2 at 16 weeks and it looked nothing like I saw yesterday but I know every baby is different and may look different down there.

Now I am just going to try my hardest to wait until my anatomy scan at my doctors to get 100% confirmation. I slept none last night, I still cannot believe it. I still don't feel like it's a boy.

It sounds strange to me, at 16 weeks they should be able to see clearly and more if its boy. Dont loose hope yet!

[motherofboys]

At my scan there was a very obvious bulge between the legs and then something poking out a little further that I assume was his penis. Either way it was quite obvious and DH spotted it before the tech even said it was a boy.

[xokatietatie]

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This is the pic from my ultrasound. DH just now watched the DVD that came with the scan and he says he can't ever even see the baby clearly and that their machines must be pretty crappy. He's pretty upset! I'm sure it's a boy though.

[Kiara]

I didnt see really clear on my last ultrasound (well I saw something between the legs but the machine was not really good) The doctor was really confident though and I think if its a boy it should be pretty easy to see that week (16-17) I think its strange that the tec says like "maybe boy" but maybe if the machine is really crappy or the baby is in a difficult position is difficult to see.

[Navywife620]

Navy, I think there is a chance that the baby is a girl, so don't lose hope yet. But I can't even imagine the frustration you must feel. Not all radiologists at hospitals scan pregnant women on a daily basis.. so maybe she is just not as experienced and there is always room for error. When is your gender scan?

I am trying really hard to stay optimistic. But it is so hard when you hear those words " I think this baby may be a boy". It just has really gotten be down since then. I have been bawling and asking God why. I did have a good prayer, and I have asked God to help me stay positive and to please let me hear girl at my next ultrasound. I go for my prenatal appointment May 20th. So I believe they will schedule my scan at that one. I am telling myself not to freak out until I am told 100% and get a picture in my hands.

[motherofboys]

Another possibility (I usually hate doing this in case I give people false hope) is that they can confuse swollen girl parts for boy parts especially if they are inexperienced.

I've been feeling so positive and then today have had a few comment, sympathetic noises and people being smug, flaunting their baby girl and assuming I must be devastated. Of course you all know that I wanted a girl and was very upset at one point after my 12 week scan but I am happy with another boy. But after their comments I've started feeling like I need a girl, I'm meant to have a girl and I need to sway my butt off for another baby. And then feel that it would be hopeless anyway because I still wouldn't get a girl.

[pebmcpd7]

At my scan there was a very obvious bulge between the legs and then something poking out a little further that I assume was his penis. Either way it was quite obvious and DH spotted it before the tech even said it was a boy.

Me too, I seen it before the tech, but I am like you I am starting to clutch at straws, could the parts of been swollen?? I know not but wouldn't it be great if next time I go they say we made a mistake!!! SIGH

[Kira]

Hi. I'm due on October 24, 2013. I have happy news that my Harmony blood test came back good.. less than 1 in 10000 chance of having an issue (tests trisomies 21, 18 and 13) and this is the best result possible! I will turn 40 this August so my odds of being at risk were greater. My husband and I had a good feeling but we are so relieved. The test is 99.9% accurate. :running:

[Nachelle]

COngrats on your healthy baby! :)

[Alyssasmom789]

Another possibility (I usually hate doing this in case I give people false hope) is that they can confuse swollen girl parts for boy parts especially if they are inexperienced.

I've been feeling so positive and then today have had a few comment, sympathetic noises and people being smug, flaunting their baby girl and assuming I must be devastated. Of course you all know that I wanted a girl and was very upset at one point after my 12 week scan but I am happy with another boy. But after their comments I've started feeling like I need a girl, I'm meant to have a girl and I need to sway my butt off for another baby. And then feel that it would be hopeless anyway because I still wouldn't get a girl.

Yes! I am proof f that! With dd1 I was told boy up until 7 months!! Dh was so happy but I would always tell him it's a girl their wrong lol.....I had a gut feeling. So to end the arguments we schd a 3d at 32 weeks and it was a girl!!!! I'm kinda hoping the opposite would happen this time lol told girl at 15-16 weeks

[strawberrymom]

Hi. I'm due on October 24, 2013. I have happy news that my Harmony blood test came back good.. less than 1 in 10000 chance of having an issue (tests trisomies 21, 18 and 13) and this is the best result possible! I will turn 40 this August so my odds of being at risk were greater. My husband and I had a good feeling but we are so relieved. The test is 99.9% accurate. :running:
Congratulations! I love that these tests now exist and hope they become available to all that want them. Did you find out gender also and were you hoping for a certain gender?

[strawberrymom]

How much would you listen to your kids on names?
I REALLY like the name Seth, I think it fits well with the other boys names and sounds nice when I say it along side his middle and surname.
I asked the boys today if they liked the name after DH said he liked it "and can't think of anything else" (not the enthusiasm I was after) DS1 and DS3 both said they liked it but DS2 said he didn't. He wants to name the baby Sin Cara after a wrestler. I asked if Sin Cara wasn't an option (because its not LOL) if he would like the name and he still said no.
DH says its not DS2s name, he likes his own name so thats all that matters, and we should use it if we want to. But i don't want him to feel I've excluded him or ignored his in put. Everyone who I've mentioned the name to so far has liked it.
I like the name Seth and googled it with WWE to see if anything came up. It appears there is a wrestler named Seth Rollins who from what I can tell is a "bad guy" so that may be his resistance to the name. Although it would be nice to have all kiddos good with the name, I think it is probably something that means more to you then him if you kwim.

[strawberrymom]

Ruby and Navywife I am glad your scares ended up to be scares only and that everything is ok with your little ones. I went through one with ds2 and that waiting is the worst.

[Nachelle]

DOes anybody have a scan coming up this week and when is everybody elses? Mine is MAy 22. I cant wait to see everybodys updates and see what the stats are! Good luck ladies with your scans and good luck with the ladies that are waiting confirmations! I hope there are a coupl of surprises still out there! KEeep hope alive ladies!!!! :)

[strawberrymom]

Haha! I'm a proud ginger!!! But I'm not asian.
Me too!

[Kira]

Thank you Nachelle and Strawberry mom! I didn't find out the gender with the Harmony blood test, however it is a very advanced prenatal test that is capable of finding out the gender (much like the amnio yet it is completely noninvasive). I am curious if they have those results and simply didn't share them. The MFM nurse tried to tell me that the test CAN'T reveal gender but I had done my research and know better so I said, " Well actually it does, but I can see why your Maternal Fetal Medicine facility (MFM) wouldn't share that because the test is being done purely for diagnostic reasons." She nodded without looking me in the eyes. I see my OB/Gyn this Monday and he has the test results in writing so I will request a copy and will see if the gender is revealed. I am hoping the test is covered by my insurance due to my advanced maternal age (AMA). If think if it is paid for privately without the referral of a doctor then gender reveal can be requested in advance and is more common.

This test is nothing short of amazing and I think it may almost do away with the amnio since it is 99.9% accurate and eliminates the risk of miscarriage. It can be done any time after 10wks so if you are high risk for any reason or AMA like me, ask your OB/Gyn about it. MFM would not even hint at gender at my 13w4d nuchal (though they told me no doubt it's a boy 2 years ago with my son ~ different tech) and barely put the wand down there like they didn't even want us to get a peak though we expressed our extreme desire to know.

[Kira]

Strawberrymom~ My husband and I are dreaming of a girl. We want to continue to tell our perfect son that he is the best little boy in the world and we want to experience the differences in both genders. Due to my age, this is our last baby so it is my last chance at having a daughter; which I always imagined I would have.

I've been told by docs/surgeons that I'm infertile since early 20s (I always stayed optimistic and I never believed them so I waited until I was ready to try to become a mom). They think I got lucky twice by conceiving naturally. If I was younger and I had another boy, I know I would just keep trying for a 3rd or 4th until I got my girl.... but my husband says he is done, so if it's not a girl we will be very disappointed, unfortunately. I wish we didn't feel that way, but it is nice to have a site where gender desires can be discussed without judgment.

[motherofboys]

I like the name Seth and googled it with WWE to see if anything came up. It appears there is a wrestler named Seth Rollins who from what I can tell is a "bad guy" so that may be his resistance to the name. Although it would be nice to have all kiddos good with the name, I think it is probably something that means more to you then him if you kwim.

We've solved the issue by saying "what if we call him Seth and you can pick a nickname for him?" he was quite happy with this and by October will have probably forgotten all about giving him a nickname. Even if he hasn't as the only one using it, it wont stick for long LOL

It would be lovely if it did turn out to be swollen girl parts, BUT I just bought some really cute boys stuff and am starting to bond with him as a he so part of me thinks they better not be wrong. I'll take a girl next time thank you LOL
The more I watch the DVD of the scan the more obvious those boys bits become so I know they wasn't wrong for me. DH is such the proud Dad, he has shown EVERYONE the DVD and you know when you sit there thinking "we enjoy this but I they are bored" especially MIL in her 70s, I bet she couldn't make out half the stuff, and shes not too excited about the baby anyway. I was half expecting her to sigh when it wasn't over with in 5 minutes LOL

[strawberrymom]

Strawberrymom~ My husband and I are dreaming of a girl. We want to continue to tell our perfect son that he is the best little boy in the world and we want to experience the differences in both genders. Due to my age, this is our last baby so it is my last chance at having a daughter; which I always imagined I would have.

I've been told by docs/surgeons that I'm infertile since early 20s (I always stayed optimistic and I never believed them so I waited until I was ready to try to become a mom). They think I got lucky twice by conceiving naturally. If I was younger and I had another boy, I know I would just keep trying for a 3rd or 4th until I got my girl.... but my husband says he is done, so if it's not a girl we will be very disappointed, unfortunately. I wish we didn't feel that way, but it is nice to have a site where gender desires can be discussed without judgment.
Oh wow to be told you are infertile and then have 2 separate babies "sneak" through is pretty amazing. Whatever gender this one is, they are truly special, but I hope it is a girl for you. One of the few benefits of AMA is it sways girl! I know what you mean about the push of time. I started at 34 with DS1( I turned 35 four days before he was born), DS2 at 36, and will turn 39 seven days after this babies due date. I probably would have spaced them out more if I had started earlier. I think the Harmony test just started checking gender recently and it seems that in many other countries it won't tell you. There are 2 of us on this forum which did the MaterniT21 test which is basically the same thing. It really is wonderful to have that info although the week of waiting was torture.

[strawberrymom]

Mob- Great idea with the nickname!

[Kira]

Strawberrymom ~ I had no idea that AMA sways girl!!! I didn't do any swaying techniques at all so that's hopeful to hear. Thanks! Also, your post really makes me wonder if my OB will have gender results from my Harmony to share with me on Monday. I thought maybe finding the absence or presence of Y was extra work for the lab so thought it was not necessarily looked for. MFM certainly wouldn't share it but if that info is present on report the OB will share because I know I can request a copy of the report from him.... Excited at the thought....

[aussiettc]

Kiara, what you said about wanting to keep telling your son he's the most perfect little boy in the world is exactly why I'm so scared about having another son-my little guy is perfect in my eyes and I just can't imagine another boy being so perfect. I just can't picture another little lad and really want a girl!!!

[motherofboys]

I'm sure I've heard that some 'birth defects' are much more common in one gender over another and for that reason they may look for the gender as standard. I know a lady on another site I use had the test done because her body fights off a boy pregnancy and she loses them but can hold a girl pregnancy.

[motherofboys]

I tell each of mine that they are special because they are which ever brother they are. Like my eldest is special because his the biggest boy and my first baby who made me a Mummy, my 2nd is special because his both a big brother and a little, I've started telling DS3 that he will be both just like DS2, but before he was special because he was my baby. You can still say "You and your brother are the 2 most special little boys in the whole world"

[Kiara]

Kiara, what you said about wanting to keep telling your son he's the most perfect little boy in the world is exactly why I'm so scared about having another son-my little guy is perfect in my eyes and I just can't imagine another boy being so perfect. I just can't picture another little lad and really want a girl!!!

It was Kira :) Hihi, our usernames sounds really similar though:)

[Kiara]

I dont think gender has anything to do about how special a child is. My dd wouldnt be less special if we had an other girl:) I do agree though that its difficult to imagine how I could ever love someone as much as I love my dd, but I know I will once my second child is born :)

[Nachelle]

Kiara, what you said about wanting to keep telling your son he's the most perfect little boy in the world is exactly why I'm so scared about having another son-my little guy is perfect in my eyes and I just can't imagine another boy being so perfect. I just can't picture another little lad and really want a girl!!!

I was scared about the same thing when I was having DS2. I just kept imagining having another identical DS1. I was so wrong they are completly different in every way but I love them so much. And not one more then the other, just different. Each child holds a special bond in your heart, byy the time i had DS3 I wasnt even scared about that. If you do have another little boy, he will be different and perfect, and you will love him with everything like DS1. ANd him and DS1 will be the best of buddies!!! :) I really hope you get your little girl though. I think we all deserve to experience the best of both worlds with each genders!!! :)

[motherofboys]

Its funny I was talking to someone TTC #2 the other day and they were saying they were worried about not loving another baby as much as their DD.
It feels like your heart is so full it could burst when you look at your LO and you wonder how you could ever fit any more love in there for another child, but its like your heart doubles in size when you have a second child, and its still so full it could burst with love for both of them.

[Kiara]

Its funny I was talking to someone TTC #2 the other day and they were saying they were worried about not loving another baby as much as their DD.
It feels like your heart is so full it could burst when you look at your LO and you wonder how you could ever fit any more love in there for another child, but its like your heart doubles in size when you have a second child, and its still so full it could burst with love for both of them.

I know it will be like that, but its hard to imagine when you only have one child:) I mean I dont know the baby in my belly yet but ofcourse I will love him so much when he is born:-)

[Kira]

I agree with what you ALL said: aussiettc, MOB, Kiara, and Nachelle…. Thank you all for responding. My son is all I know right now and I love him more than I can express in words…. but if I have another son, he will also be unique and just as special and perfect… and I know after he is born I will not be able to imagine my life without him in it as well. I do think my heart will ‘burst with love’ for the two of them! Also, I have considered the,”You’re the best boys in the whole world” scenario, and honestly that’s just fine. I like what you tell your 3 boys to let them each know how special they are, MOB. I have also heard the benefit of the same gender can be that they tend to be best buds, Nachelle. That’s nice to hear.

I am certain I would not love a daughter anymore than a second son. I know everything you’ve all said is true and I will never want to replace my baby-to-be with another baby of the opposite gender once he or she is born. Still, my husband and I have high hopes for a girl and I feel a bit of guilt thinking I may be ’disappointed‘ for a little while, but this site helps me shed the guilt and prepare for another boy at the same time. The guilt comes in part from never wanting my 2nd boy (if it is indeed a boy) to know that I ever wished he was a she (since family members know we’re hoping for a girl and I would hate for that info to ever ‘sneak out' years later). I already know with certainty I will never want him to be anyone but who he is and would hate for him to hear something and feel hurt in the future (like I wanted a girl, not him). Thanks for sharing your thoughts, ladies! It helps.

[Kiara]

I understand exactly what you mean Kira. I was a bit worried that it would be more difficult for my dd to have a sister than a brother (because it would somehow feel like it would be more jealousy that way ) But then in other hand I felt a bit guilty for wanting a boy because I felt that it would problaly be better for my dd to have a sister in the future than a brother. Haha all those feelings:D I feel crazy sometimes, worrying for everything. I hope you get your girl! I think to wish for a special gender is really common and nothing wrong, it doesnt mean you would love an opposite less :)

[Thorz300]

How much would you listen to your kids on names?
I REALLY like the name Seth, I think it fits well with the other boys names and sounds nice when I say it along side his middle and surname.
I asked the boys today if they liked the name after DH said he liked it "and can't think of anything else" (not the enthusiasm I was after) DS1 and DS3 both said they liked it but DS2 said he didn't. He wants to name the baby Sin Cara after a wrestler. I asked if Sin Cara wasn't an option (because its not LOL) if he would like the name and he still said no.
DH says its not DS2s name, he likes his own name so thats all that matters, and we should use it if we want to. But i don't want him to feel I've excluded him or ignored his in put. Everyone who I've mentioned the name to so far has liked it.

I'm not part of this due date group, but I LOVE the name Seth!! The sweet little guy in my profile pic is my DS3 and his name is Seth, it's a perfect name!!

[Nachelle]

Ive been feeling down and lonely lately. I feel like no one understands me. Everybody seems to get annoyed when I talk about the baby. Espeacially when I ponder what the sex is which I do alot go back and forth between boy and girl. Even DH, he acts like he doesnt care. Always says I dont care only if its healthy and he kind of wants a delivery suprise. I want to put the gender in an envelope, find out by myself and not tell anybody for a littlle while. I know it seems selfish but everybody hates when I talk about the baby and gender and stuff now but If I knew I bet they would want to listen. I kind of want this one thing to mysellf for a bit. Maybe even DH. He was talking about how he doesnt really want a girl because of all the worries that come with it. SO I feel alone and sad and down, and I wish I had friends that understood what I was going through, mostly all of them have either one kid or one of each adn everybody already thinks Im crazy for wanting a big family. Ive been getting alot of snub comments like "if its a girl are you finally going to stop having kids?" That makes me so mad. This is my family! I dont know why it bothers people that were on our 4th child. I dont think its anyones buisness. I love having a big family, I wouldnt change it for the world. YEs its hard but worth it. Those moments when were all together are irreplaceable. Im already considering a 5th espeacially if its a boy. Im really scared though. I dont mind having more kids. I just dont know how many more chances Ill have. I only have one falliopian tube. (I had to get the other removed from an eptopic) Ive miscarried 3X, it seems to be every other pregnancy I miscarry and now Im scared I may never get a chance to experience a baby girl. I dont know Im rambling. Im sorry Im just feeling a whole lotta pregnant crazy emotional right now. Thanks for listening girls. I feel like sometimes your the only ones I have to talk to lately!

[motherofboys]

Nachelle, I rarely talk about the baby to other people. I get the odd "how are you feeling" but I always take that the same as a friendly "how are you?" rather than actual concern and answer "fine thanks"
The only one who seems genuinely interested in my pregnancy is my brother in law! He asks how I am, and if I'm in maternity trousers yet, and if I'm feeling movement. And when he makes me a drink he asks if I'm still drinking tea/coffee and if I still want sugar in it. (I only drink 1 cup of tea at MILs and one coffee at BILs when we visit each week)
On friday I decided to actually tell someone when they asked how I've been feeling. I told her still a little sick in the mornings, and still ready for bed by lunch time. She just said "so another boy huh" and I said "yeah the boys are really happy, they wanted to have another brother" and she replied "well that doesn't matter, every baby is a blessing" I know that, but to kids they only know what they want and don't want and I thought it was cute that they had been excited and cared what gender we got.
I've also had questions about whether we would try for a girl in the past, and would we stop if this one was a girl. I said to someone once "if I get a girl next, then I will not stop, I will have one more and pray its a boy just to prove to everyone I didn't keep going to get a girl" I'm already prepared so that if anyone does comment on me 'having my hands full' I'll be saying "I know great isn't it?! I'd rather they were full than empty"
I'm thinking more and more about another. I love my baby already. I'm feeling some movement though not as regular as I like but I have an anterior placenta and its still early. I worry when I don't feel him. I've bought him a few outfits, I've named him and I feel I'm bonding with him now. I'm excited to meet my little man and think about how at Christmas I'll have a 2 month old, and how this time next year I'll be weaning him onto food and he'll probably be trying to crawl and sitting up and giggling.
But I do still feel my family isn't complete, there still seems to be a space, that I'm not sure anything but a daughter could fill. I've thought long and hard and I do want to try again. Its just whether or not to sway. And its scary because 5 will have to be our limit and if we get a 5th boy, then I may always be left with that empty space. I know some people can get past it and feel complete at some point in the future but I worry I wont ever get that feeling.

Thorz, I remember your post and their being some confusion in the scan pictures section, have you had another scan since? I think we are definitely calling DS4 Seth. Nothing else seems to fit as well, its like he is Seth so no other name feels right.

Kiara, I feel crazy some times with the hormones and the ideas flitting back and forth in my head LOL I worry about so many things that are beyond my control and that may never even happen.

[Nachelle]

HAPPY MOTHERS DAY LADIES!!!!!! :) Hope everybody has a great day!

[Navywife620]

Happy Mother's Day Everyone!!!

[Kira]

Happy Mother's Day!!!:flowerz:

[My3SweetPeas]

Strawberrymom ~ I had no idea that AMA sways girl!!! I didn't do any swaying techniques at all so that's hopeful to hear. Thanks! Also, your post really makes me wonder if my OB will have gender results from my Harmony to share with me on Monday. I thought maybe finding the absence or presence of Y was extra work for the lab so thought it was not necessarily looked for. MFM certainly wouldn't share it but if that info is present on report the OB will share because I know I can request a copy of the report from him.... Excited at the thought....

What is AMA???

[nuthinbutpink]

Advanced Maternal Age! 35+ at birth

[My3SweetPeas]

DOes anybody have a scan coming up this week and when is everybody elses? Mine is MAy 22. I cant wait to see everybodys updates and see what the stats are! Good luck ladies with your scans and good luck with the ladies that are waiting confirmations! I hope there are a coupl of surprises still out there! KEeep hope alive ladies!!!! :)

I have my 20 week anatomy scan on friday the 17th!! Excited to see baby again and hoping that my 16 week scan was wrong!! If this shows a boy then I just need to accept it and move on!!

[My3SweetPeas]

Advanced Maternal Age! 35+ at birth

Thank you! DH and I are thinking of trying for pink one more time. I am going to be 33 a month after this baby is born, but not really wanting to wait until 35 to ttc again.

[Kira]

Hi Nachelle. I went to page 1 and saw Strawberry moms post with everyone's due date and even mine on there, though I'm new to this 'group'... (Thank you, Strawberry Mom!) I noticed that our due dates are one day apart! You have a right to get mad at inconsiderate comments like that... You sound like an awesome mom and however many children you and husband decide to have will always be your decision and your business – period. Also, I don’t understand why people in your life are getting annoyed about you talking about your baby-to=be… every mother ponders that big “What sex is my baby?” question… I hope your boys made you feel like the luckiest mom in the world today. When I get down, my son brings me up again…

[Kira]

Mob – the person’s response when you mentioned your boys are so excited about having a brother was not cool. Of course that matters!!!…. And it would have been nice of her to comment on your nausea or extreme fatigue and say something like, “I hope the fatigue and sickness goes away soon.” rather than use the “how are you feeling” norm question to segue into “… so, another boy, huh?” I think a lot of people who say things like that are looking for a hint of disappointment… (and feed off of it sometimes) which is why I think she may have responded negatively to your positive comment about your boys enthusiasm about having another brother. I don’t know her and I could be way off base, but I’ve come across so many people who feed off other people’s disappointments in life because it makes them feel better about their own somehow. (I know you are psyched about your boy-to-be so I am not intimating you are disappointed.). And I’d rather my hands be full than empty too… I think you’re right to be prepared… the best way to diffuse negativity is to be armed with positive thoughts/comments. It’s nice to hear you are bonding with your baby-to-be!

[Nachelle]

Thanks MOB and Kira!!! :) YOur post made me feel so much better! It shouldnt matter what other people think, I love my family the way it is and I know if we decide to have more kids it will only get better! And I find out the gender of our new baby next week so poo on them! lol Thanks again ladies! :)

[motherofboys]

Good luck for your next scan Nachelle.

[aussiettc]

Argh! Am I the last one to be having my scan? Guess I'm one of the last due dates at 29th Oct. My scan isn't until 12th June-an eternity away! I can't believe DS1 was a surprise until the birth-how did I ever manage to 'not know' for 9 long months? This wait is killing me!

[motherofboys]

I know the person who was a bit short about my boys being happy with a brother has said in the past that she would like a boy. She has 2 girls atm and wont be having another for a good few years yet as shes at college and thats if she decides to go ahead as shes already in her mid 30s and her girls are 6 and 3. She looked after her nephew the other day and was like "ah I'm used to big kids who can go to the toilet and play by themselves. Don't know if I can do that again" So maybe a touch of jealousy in there. Or maybe embarrassment as she apparently "had a vision" of me with a baby girl. Maybe hoping I didn't remember that conversation LMAO

My niece whos 19 said the other weekend, just a few days before I found out, that she hopes she has all boys. Apparently she wouldn't want to deal with as a mother, watching her daughter go through what shes been through. I was a little annoyed because I have been through much worse than her. All shes done is have boys be very hurt and angry with her because she's 'over lapped' boyfriends. If I let my past dictate my future I'd probably have never had kids, its one of the reasons I was happy with boys at first but now I'm just as paranoid about the same thing happening to my boys and still want a girl.

[aussiettc]

You now that moment when you hear that news that a really good friend has just given birth to a little girl and you want to be nothing but thrilled and excited for her but there's a part of you screaming with jealousy? Just had that feeling. She already has a gorgeous DS so now has the pigeon pair. Please, please, please let that be me too!!!!

[motherofboys]

I hope you get that too aussiettc.
I'm having a rough day, feeling a bit sad but I think it will just be a little dip, hope I'm back to normal tomorrow. I couldn't wait till tonight to discuss it the feeling was too strong so I text DH asking if there was a way to increase the chances of a girl could we go back to the original plan and have just one more. He text back saying "but how can I make a girl" so I said I don't know exactly yet but theres lots of things you can do that will increase the odds either way. His not replied :(

[My3SweetPeas]

Motherofboys- I hope that your DH comes around and agrees to sway!!

I think I have talked my DH into trying really good sway next summer or next winter. I feel if after trying everything I can to get a little girl and I still get a boy then I was not meant to have another DD and we will leave it at that, but I feel that I really need to try hard before being happy with my family the way it is!!
I also noticed that I never posted the picture I got of the boy bits at my elective scan almost 3 weeks ago. Do any of you think this could turn into a little girl?? I am grasping at straws here, hoping that maybe she is just really swollen although I know deep down it is a boy!!
You can make the picture larger by clicking on it
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[motherofboys]

OK so today hasn't ended well. I had a little bit of a melt down. I've been feel more and more down over the course of the day and ended up trying to peel potatoes while crying my eyes out! Then the middle of the top of the pie didn't go right and was still like dough when the rest was fully cooked and I was telling myself "see I can't even do that right, its no wonder I can't conceive girls!" I bet DH doesn't even realise thats what its about. He asked if it was because DS3 has been whingy lately! If he thinks I'm acting like that because of a child whinging then I doubt he will agree to another :(

My3sweetpeas its like you say I just need to feel like I've given it a really good try, I feel awful for getting upset especially when I've been doing so well and I know this one is a boy so its not like thats going to change. Its hard thinking it may never happen, or if it does it could be years before we can try, then how ever long it takes to conceive. And if we do have another thats our absolute last shot. Its the uncertainity.

Then we saw the bad side of brothers. DS2 and DS3 had an argument about a wrestling toy, so DS2 who is usually brilliant with smaller children, smacked him in the face with a wrestler figure! His got a big cut right along the line of his socket and its sort of scraped down his cheek. Its kind of like a graze but it was so red I thought blood was pouring down his face at first but DH got me a wet cloth and after holding it on there there was a tiny bit of blood on the cloth and his face still looked like it had blood on it so its just under the service. His going to have a black eye by morning and was lucky it wasn't a little higher. DS2 was sobbing just as much as DS3 and saying sorry :(
I had to tell the pre-school teacher this morning that DS3 has a huge lump and bruise on his forehead from tripping and banging into the door frame yesterday and tomorrow I'm going to go in saying he had a fight with his brother! God job all 3 boys have gone there and they have known me 4 years now or they might think I was doing it!

[strawberrymom]

Thank you! DH and I are thinking of trying for pink one more time. I am going to be 33 a month after this baby is born, but not really wanting to wait until 35 to ttc again.
Oh yeah, I defintely wouldn't reccomend waiting as a swaying tactic lol. It is only a small increase in girls vs. boys until you reach 40 anyways. And then it is probably related to decreased fertility and declining mat. condition. Plus you get the bonus of increased chance of birth defects (still small but any increase there is still not fun to think of).

[strawberrymom]

OK so today hasn't ended well. I had a little bit of a melt down. I've been feel more and more down over the course of the day and ended up trying to peel potatoes while crying my eyes out! Then the middle of the top of the pie didn't go right and was still like dough when the rest was fully cooked and I was telling myself "see I can't even do that right, its no wonder I can't conceive girls!" I bet DH doesn't even realise thats what its about. He asked if it was because DS3 has been whingy lately! If he thinks I'm acting like that because of a child whinging then I doubt he will agree to another :(

My3sweetpeas its like you say I just need to feel like I've given it a really good try, I feel awful for getting upset especially when I've been doing so well and I know this one is a boy so its not like thats going to change. Its hard thinking it may never happen, or if it does it could be years before we can try, then how ever long it takes to conceive. And if we do have another thats our absolute last shot. Its the uncertainity.

Then we saw the bad side of brothers. DS2 and DS3 had an argument about a wrestling toy, so DS2 who is usually brilliant with smaller children, smacked him in the face with a wrestler figure! His got a big cut right along the line of his socket and its sort of scraped down his cheek. Its kind of like a graze but it was so red I thought blood was pouring down his face at first but DH got me a wet cloth and after holding it on there there was a tiny bit of blood on the cloth and his face still looked like it had blood on it so its just under the service. His going to have a black eye by morning and was lucky it wasn't a little higher. DS2 was sobbing just as much as DS3 and saying sorry :(
I had to tell the pre-school teacher this morning that DS3 has a huge lump and bruise on his forehead from tripping and banging into the door frame yesterday and tomorrow I'm going to go in saying he had a fight with his brother! God job all 3 boys have gone there and they have known me 4 years now or they might think I was doing it!
:bighug: I hate those days! Both my guys have been sick and grumpy recently and of course I caught it too. And then DS1 wrapped a slinky around DS2 throat today (slinky is now gone). Not fun. Sometimes you just want a breather to think your thoughts, but there is never a break for mom...

[aussiettc]

MOB, be kind to yourself. This is such a roller coaster and there are days for everyone when we wish we could turn off the desire for a specific gender and just accept what is. But thats so much easier said than done. I hope you're feeling better soon-the hormones of pregnancy have a lot to answer for!!

[motherofboys]

I do feel better today, I also still feel my family isn't complete and chances are it never will be but I feel more positive. I had some baby clothes I ordered arrive today. They are really cute.
I don't think its helped that I have a cold, and have had a headache since 3pm yesterday.

[motherofboys]

Oh and DS2 was trying to be really nice to DS3 this morning following him round reading Cat in the Hat to him LOL

[Navywife620]

I am just wanting to just find out what this baby is 100%. I am having such crazy dreams trying to find out what it is. I have find SO many things online that exactly 16 weeks there has been so many opposites. I am so hopeful right now. I want to get another scan but I just know I should just wait until I am farther along to know 100%.

[aussiettc]

I hear you navywife. Since my friend had her little girl yesterday I am driving myself crazy wondering what this little baby will be. Still so long until June 12! I did contemplate ringing a private clinic and booking a scan but then realised that would be a waste of money really-whatever this baby is can't be changed so I should just sit tight and wait until my 20 week scan when I can find out for sure.

I also got really distressed last night by the heartbreaking story of the mum in September's birth group who just lost her baby. I was flicking back through the gut gender instinct guesses forum (trying to remember what I'd posted when I'd added mine as right now-I have no gut feeling either way!) and saw her signature about the change of events and cried my eyes out reading her story. Made me realise its not just the gender I'm holding out to hear-I really want to know that this little bubba is healthy and well. Bring on June 12...hurry up already!

[xokatietatie]

Hi ladies, just stopping by to say hello and catch up on everyone's posts.

Good days outnumber the bad now, but I still have my moments. Still shopping like crazy! I have rather large box stuffed full with baby boy clothes now. It's kind of exciting. Duncan is becoming more and more real to me, and I enjoy picturing him in the little outfits I've purchased.

DS1 only has 2 1/2 weeks of school left and then we're on summer break. I've decided to just enjoy the month of June and then really start getting ready for DS4 once July comes. I'd like to have all the rooms rearranged and ready to go by August. DS2 will be starting school in the fall and he and DS1 will be sharing a bedroom now, so I definitely want to have them situated and well adjusted before they start school. By the time September gets here I just want to be able to kick back and relax, and wait for baby's arrival!

DS3 and DS4 are going to share a room so DH and I asked DS3 to help us pick out bedding for him and his brother to have. He picked a really cute Snoopy set, and I really like it. I think I'm going to order it after my next ultrasound.

DS1 and DS2 would like a Harry Potter room, specifically Gryffindor! I'm a huge HP fan, so I think I'm going to really enjoy creating their space for them. I'm picturing lots of maroon and gold, and some broomsticks on the wall. I just need to find a nice bedding to work with it all.

That's about it! How are you all doing?

[motherofboys]

I can't believe how long your kids get for summer in the US. I remember last year chatting to someone on a TTC forum and she said her kids were breaking up for summer. Mine have another 2 weeks, then will have a week off for half term, then they go back for 7 weeks and break up near the end of July. They only get 6 weeks here so are back in September. And people moan its too long and that its should be cut!

Glad your good days are out numbering your bad and it all sounds really exciting what your doing with their rooms. It makes October feel very close when you break it down into jobs you have to do. I've been trying to break it down for DS3, as DS1 and 2 know that the baby is due a few days after DS2s birthday and they know when October is.

[Navywife620]

11235 my bed is painted and distressed! Now to finish our room and keep me busy over the next few weeks.

[Navywife620]

Who has their scans this week??

[My Three Sons]

I have my scan on Thursday. I am getting so anxious and nervous. I have been hoping and praying for a girl, but then I feel guilty and worried that something may be wrong. I have been so distracted lately and short tempered. I hope everything is OK on the US...

[Nachelle]

Good luck on your scan on thursday!!! And good luck to lime for tom!!!! FIngers crossed hoping to hear some good news from you ladies!

Im sorry everybody has been feeling lows lately. I too have. Ive been so exhausted lately and really snippy on everybody. Im just so anxious for next week. I keep seeing little baby girl stuff EVERYWHERE and it gets me excited then I quickly get sad. I need to know what this baby is its driving me nuts. But then I have this friend who cant even get pregnant and I feel bad for even wanting a certain gender! I have beeen blessed with 3 amazing boys (prob 4 lol) I know things like this shouldnt matter but I cant help when these feelings take over Espeacially with these damn HORMONES!!! lol I am very grateful for my boys and if I have another I will be grateful for him too, but this not knowing is killing me. But I hope everybody starts feeling better!!! My thoughts and prayers are with everybody!!:)

[motherofboys]

The not knowing is horrible isn't it. At least once you know, even if its not the gender you hope for, you can stop torturing yourself over whether it could be, and stop going round in the circles or its a girl, its a boy.
I feel better about another boy again and knowing doesn't magically make it ok, but it does help.

I look forward to seeing how we all feel in September/October when we have had a few months to process it all and are just waiting to meet our babies.

Good luck to everyone with scans coming up.

[My3SweetPeas]

Who has their scans this week??

I have my anatomy scan on Friday!! Can't wait to see baby again. Hoping that maybe the 16 week u/s was wrong, but I doubt it. At least then I will know for sure and can move on!!

[Navywife620]

Woo hoo good luck everyone who has their scans tomorrow and friday. And good luck lime on your scan today!

I go for my prenatal appointment May 20th.. so I know they will schedule my scan at that appointment.

[Nachelle]

OOOOOOOHHHHH GOOD lUCK!!!! How exciting Ill be stalking! lol

[Pangea]

Good luck Lime!

[lime]

Thank you!

[ELP]

Best of luck Lime!! I'll be checking back in later on!!!

[pebmcpd7]

Good luck lime and 3sons!!

[ELP]

Is 3sons in for a scan aswell soon! Best of luck aswell:luck:

[My3SweetPeas]

Good luck Lime!!

[motherofboys]

Good Luck Lime

[aussiettc]

Lime...waiting for your news. Fingers crossed for you!!!!

[aussiettc]

Oh, just realised I'm 6 hours (in the UK) ahead of many ladies on here so might have to wait til later tonight my time...maybe you're having your scan right now! Eek!!!!

[lime]

The tech said she thinks girl. I can't believe it!

[xokatietatie]

Happy for you, Lime. :hug2:

[Nachelle]

YAY!!!! I hope it is Girl!!!! You should have gotten up walked and jumped around then tried! lol

[motherofboys]

OH wow Lime I really hope she was right! I was just starting to wonder when someone would finally get their GD.

[aussiettc]

Wow Lime...congrats!!! Finally someone with their DG! Happy for you!!!

[Navywife620]

YAY Finally another girl!!!!!! YAY!!! SO happy for you Lime!!!

[lime]

Good luck to everyone (3sons, my3sweetpeas) who have their scans this week!!!!

[My Three Sons]

That's great Lime!

I am getting so nervous! I keep feeling like tearing up. I just want to go on and find out, I can hardly stand it. Everyone knows I am going in tomorrow and everyone is rooting for girl, even without knowing that I keep praying for girl also. I keep saying that a boy will be OK too as he and my youngest will be best buds. I just can't imagine them saying girl since I've never heard those words before. Oh, I wish it were this time tomorrow...

[Kiara]

congratulations lime!! Im so happy for you!

[pebmcpd7]

Best of luck 3sons, hope you hear girl!!!

[Pangea]

Woohoo! Congratulations Lime! Hopefully this is the start of a run of girls!

Good luck My Three Sons and My3sweetpeas!

[LolaInLove]

Hi everyone, just popped in to say hi. Been working a ton and so busy i barely have time to get online. Congrats to all with healthy babies and thinking about you ladies dealing with some gd right now. Pain is hard no matter what form it takes. For a few years I dealt with miscarriage and thought I'd never even have a real live baby. Take time to get through it and ask for compassion from your DH, and don't be hard on yourself. I think it's very natural and it will indeed pass, it always does.

Good luck to those having scans soon!

I'm huge already too- was same size as 1st time mom at 31 weeks I met yesterday, fun. Hope you all are well!!!

[Nachelle]

Good luck today!!!! FINGERS CROSSED!!!! :)

[ELP]

Congratulations Lime!!!! Best of luck ladies, keep the pink rolling:fx:

[ELP]

Glad you are well Lola xxxx

[Navywife620]

3sons and sweetpeas what time are your scans today. Good luck!!

[Nachelle]

Any updates????

[Navywife620]

I know!! We are waiting!

[Kira]

Congratulations, Lime! I am happy to hear have a healthy baby girl on the way!!!

[pebmcpd7]

Stalking to hear your news girls!!

[Nachelle]

Well I hope theyre celebrating!!!!

[My Three Sons]

I was crying on the way to the US, just out of nervousness and feeling anxious. The tech was awesome, but she said that she doesn't tell the gender until the end of the scan after she gets all of her measurements. I am actually glad she did it that way since I was able to look at the pictures more. At the end, she said, "uh oh". Yep, it's a boy. I started crying of course. DH didn't come with me this time, which I was glad. I didn't feel like I had to hold back for him being there, ya know? I asked her to check again, and she did and pointed it out, but of course I can't tell anything on those things anyway. She assured me it's a boy. I had my doctor's appt next and while I was with the nurse doing the blood pressure and stuff I started crying again. She didn't see me until the doctor walked by and got this funny look on her face. When I told her it was boy #4, she was relieved because at first she thought the tech must've saw something wrong. Overall the baby is very healthy looking, no soft markers, which is great as my last two had soft markers for downs. I am measuring 18w3d instead of the 17w 6d that I am. No biggie there. She said he is around 8 ounces and looks great.

I know I will love him dearly and would never trade him for another, but it hurts so bad. I am glad I have you ladies here as you get it. You understand how I am feeling and it's not that I don't want him, it is that I want what I don't have. I will never brush my daughter's hair, put a bow in her hair, buy a pretty little dress for her to wear. None of that will happen for me.

I had to go do a little retail therapy and bought some cute boy clothes on my way home. The sales clerk asked me how I was doing and if I needed anything. I said no, just shopping for boy clothes...again. Then started to tear up. I told her I just found out I was having my fourth boy and I was a bit sad and was hoping buying some cute baby clothes would make me feel better. She understood and was very sweet.

I feel so deflated now. I keep wanting to cry. I know it'll get better, it did with each of my boys before. But this is really it. No more babies. Period. I have to accept it and more on. In time.

[Nachelle]

Congrats on your beautiful boy! Im sorry you didnt hear girl ! It seems most of us 3 boy moms are headed for a forth. I really get sad and have tears in my eyes when I hear you ladies not getting your DG! I hope you feel better soon and know that baby boy is waiting for a wonderful mommy and awesome 3 older brothers!!!

[My3SweetPeas]

3sons and sweetpeas what time are your scans today. Good luck!!

My scan is on friday morning at 9 am est. I will update as soon as I can. I know that the baby is more than likely a boy since we got a good penis shot at 16 weeks, but I have a little hope that maybe it was wrong. Once I get the scan done tomorrow I can accept it and move on. For now though I can hold out for a slight bit of hope!!

[Navywife620]

Oh now my three sons! I am so sorry you are going through this. Let yourself be sad and take time to let the news set in and heal. I know over time it will get better its just the initial shock that really hurts. I hope you will find peace!!

[motherofboys]

Congratulations on a healthy baby boy. Its hard hearing boy for a 4th time, when it isn't your last chance theres always that 'maybe next time' I think thats helped me a bit because its not 100% our last. Theres a chance it is, but there is the possibility that in a few years we could have 1 more.
I'm sorry that you are having to go through this, give yourself time.
There certainly does seem to be a lot of 4th boys on the way.

[My Three Sons]

Yeah, I know eventually I'll feel better but even then I know that I'll always feel a void. I went to bed crying then woke up crying this morning. I don't even want to go to work because everyone will be asking.

[motherofboys]

I know, I've started bonding with my baby as a boy now and getting excited but I still feel that there is something missing that can only be filled by a daughter. Its hard when people want to know and you haven't dealt with your feelings yourself yet.

[My Three Sons]

Well, DS #2 woke up throwing up this morning, so I am staying home from work. I feel bad that he is sick today (tomorrow is his birthday), but I am glad to not have to face people today. We are going back home to visit family this summer and my mom said maybe they will throw me a baby boy shower with just close family. That will help me feel a little excited.

[My Three Sons]

Oh and Motherofboys, I know exactly what you mean. You have to absorb it yourself first and at least get to a point where you won't burst into tears when you tell people that it's a boy.

[Pangea]

My Three sons, congratulations on your healthy baby boy. I hope you're feeling better about it soon.

[motherofboys]

A baby boy shower sounds really good. And yes I don't want anyone to know that I am anything other than thrilled to be having another boy. I wouldn't have told anyone yet but DH went and told all his family our scan was to find out the gender so had to tell them and I knew they would post on facebook about it so I ended up having to announce it to the world. Luckily I was prepared and it wasn't until a week after that I really felt the loss.
Glad you don't have to work and face people but I hope your little man is better in time for his birthday tomorrow!

[xokatietatie]

My Three Sons -- Congrats on your little man. I know in time you'll grow to be happy and excited for him.

[True Blue]

Sweetpeas Good Luck at your US :luck:

[My3SweetPeas]

Ultrasound went well. Baby looks healthy!!! Baby is also still a boy! I was holding out a slight bit of hope that maybe the 1st ultrasound was wring, but he is definitely all boy!! I have to let go of the hope for a girl this time and start to look forward to meeting my new little man!!! I know that he will be loved and we are blessed to have him as our son!!
I will post pictures of him soon!!

[Navywife620]

Congrats on your healthy baby boy!!

[Kiara]

congratulations on your boys! <3

I havent felt my baby move so much yesterday and today. I feel him but usually i feel him more. Is it something to be worried about or is it possible that he just changed position?

[aussiettc]

Huge congratulations My Three Sons and Sweet Peas! Two more beautiful baby boys in the world...thats really wonderful. Hope you both feel happy and excited in the months to come but in the meantime, know that whatever you feel is completely okay-just give it some time. Big hugs to all the lovely mummys!

[Kira]

:LotsofLove:
Huge congratulations My Three Sons and Sweet Peas! Two more beautiful baby boys in the world...thats really wonderful. Hope you both feel happy and excited in the months to come but in the meantime, know that whatever you feel is completely okay-just give it some time. Big hugs to all the lovely mummys!

This is exactly what I wanted to say.... :flowerz::LotsofLove:

[Navywife620]

congratulations on your boys! <3

I havent felt my baby move so much yesterday and today. I feel him but usually i feel him more. Is it something to be worried about or is it possible that he just changed position?

I think earlier on the movements aren't as regular as when you are farther along in your pregnancy. They are still so small they can move and hide!

[Kiara]

yes Maybe he is just hiding:) I felt him a moment ago but i feel its less than before. But yesterday I was more active than usual so maybe its for that too.

[Nachelle]

Congrats Sweet Peas!!!

[motherofboys]

Congratulations on your baby boy.
Kiara I think my little one hides. According to my ticker on another forum at 18 weeks his the size of a sweet potato LOL I also have an anterior placenta so I know I'm lucky to have been feeling him as early as I did. Yesterday I only felt a few small taps when putting DS2 to bed, and I do worry so much. But this morning he seemed to be going mad when I was in the bath. He was laying transverse at my scan and I'm guessing he still is because it was like he was kicking on both sides of my bump LOL

[My Three Sons]

I don't feel mine a whole ton, but do so sporatically. The US showed the placenta is on top kinda wrapped around to the front, so that's why I am not feeling too much right now.

[Navywife620]

I have had some really bad round ligament pain last night. I am starting to feel the baby more too. It is definitely not consistent yet. I go monday for my OB appointment and I think they will be scheduling my ultrasound! I am nervous and excited.

[Nachelle]

Im realllly scared too my sono is on Wed!!!! Im really nerve wrecked! I dont know if I want to find out! EEEKKKK!

[xokatietatie]

Duncan is moving all the time for me now!!! I'm 19 weeks today. For a while I would feel tiny flutters, but they weren't consistent. Then a couple days ago he just started kicking away!!! It's nice to feel him move around. :-)

[motherofboys]

Baby has been going mad tonight and I started feeling him on the out side. I'm sat here with a glass of cold water and a chocolate bar beside me waiting for DH to come in so I can get him moving again and try to see if DH can feel him.
I'm really looking forward to that stage where you get a little bump stick out and if you try to hold it it moves away or if you push it in it kicks back out at you harder LOL

[My Three Sons]

I know, I love the stage when they are moving all over. Except for my second. He was sideways toward the end and would do this wicked stretch which pushed out on both sides at once and hurt!

[*ruby*]

I'm 18 weeks tomorrow and still not feeling movements. Hope everything's okay in there.

[Navywife620]

I'm 18 weeks tomorrow and still not feeling movements. Hope everything's okay in there.


With DS2 the placenta was in the front and I didn't really feel him until I was closer to 20 weeks. My doctor told me it was like him kicking a pillow so I didn't feel anything.

[*ruby*]

Yeah I'm thinking maybe I have an anterior placenta as well, I'll have to ask at the next scan. I guess I just assumed that being baby number 3 I'd feel movements a bit earlier.

[motherofboys]

I'm hoping this one doesn't stay transverse, that big stretch doesn't sound like fun! Plus that puts an end to my home birth plans LOL

[My Three Sons]

I'm hoping this one doesn't stay transverse, that big stretch doesn't sound like fun! Plus that puts an end to my home birth plans LOL

It's still a long way away and bub will be moving around a lot, but if the baby is still transverse, you can go see a chiropractor late in pregnancy to do the "Webster Technique". With DS2, they were talking about having to do a c section if he didn't turn. I was going to the chiro anyway for my back and mentioned it to them and they did the Webster and he moved! It does something where it loosens the ligaments up or something so the baby get get out of that stuck position and move on where they should be.

[motherofboys]

DS1 was beach until right up to the last week that he could turn so hopefully this one decides to move before it gets to that point.

[motherofboys]

He may have already, I just don't think he has because of the movements but who knows.

[Nachelle]

I havent been really feeling the baby wither and I will be 18 weeks on wed. Its making me nervous. I always had allot of activity with all my other pregnancies by now. Hope everything is fine on wed.

WHo else has scans this week?

[pebmcpd7]

WHo else has scans this week?

I have my anomaly scan on Tuesday, GL Nachelle...

[Kiara]

I'm 18 weeks tomorrow and still not feeling movements. Hope everything's okay in there.


With my dd i felt movement like week 20. With this one a few weeks earlier. Dont worry, its normal to not feel anything so early. Im sure everything is fine:)

[Nachelle]

Thanks peb!! How many weeks will you be for your scan and how many weeks were u when u got your gender scan?

[*ruby*]

I had my midwife booking in appointment yesterday and heart rate was normal so I'm sure it's only a matter of time until I start feeling bubs. I know it is normal not to be feeling movements yet but just slightly annoying as I love having that regular reassurance and I've been feeling a lot more anxious with this pregnancy.

Still 2 weeks till my big scan, DH doesn't want to find out but we'll get a DVD so I've decided I'll just study that and see if I can work it out.

[pebmcpd7]

Thanks peb!! How many weeks will you be for your scan and how many weeks were u when u got your gender scan?

Had my gender scan when I was 16+6, my anomaly scan I will be 18+5,
My DH and I were talking tonight, and I just said to him, I still think it is a girl even though we were told boy, HE said he thought that too!!! Maybe we are hoping too much.... :sigh:

[Navywife620]

Can everyone please Pray for the families in Moore,OK. Its a city about 15 minutes from me and was hit will a EF5 tornado. So far 51 are dead and a school with at least 30 students are still missing and it doesn't look good. We had to go in our shelter today and I thank God we are ok. If the storm didn't turn it would of been headed our way.

[Nachelle]

Thank god you and your family are safe! I will def. be keeping everyone that was affected in my prayers!!!

Peb- I was thinking that too! I hope it turns out to be a girl for you!!!!! :)

[xokatietatie]

Can everyone please Pray for the families in Moore,OK. Its a city about 15 minutes from me and was hit will a EF5 tornado. So far 51 are dead and a school with at least 30 students are still missing and it doesn't look good. We had to go in our shelter today and I thank God we are ok. If the storm didn't turn it would of been headed our way.

I've been watching on the news about it all!!! So sad and scary. I'll be praying for everyone out there.

[aussiettc]

Thoughts and prayers to everyone in Moore, OK xx

[motherofboys]

Thinking of those in Moore.

Ruby I'm much more anxious this time.

Peb I hope that they were wrong in your case and if they were right you are able to make peace with it.

[lime]

Congratulations My3sons and SweetPeas on your healthy baby boys!!!

Thinking of those in Moore. It's so sad.

Good luck tomorrow, Nachelle!!!

[aussiettc]

So its peb and nachelle for scans this week? Anyone else? Good luck ladies!

My anomaly scan is STILL 22 days away-not that I'm counting or anything :wink:

[LolaInLove]

Navywife, so glad your family is ok. What happened and is going on is absolutely heartbreaking. I could barely get it together this morning to get to work with watching all of the horrible events on tv. Hopefully Americans will pull together and bring a lot of help and relief as we so often do. I've already seen a ton of people posting on FB where to donate money and supplies.

On the baby positioning, I had a sunny side up baby with #1 so had to have a c-section, but my doula recommended this site for #2 to work on positioning, and she got in the right way very early on and stayed there so I could have a vbac. It's called spinningbabies.com, about good ways to sit and lie so your baby rotates around the right way and stays that way.

[Navywife620]

Yes a lot of people are coming together to help this community out. 1,000s have lost everything including family members. It is truly heartbreaking watching the the news here.

[Navywife620]

Nachelle what time is your scan today!!! So excited for you! I still have 2 weeks until mine!

[ELP]

Thats so sad about Moore :( I hope they find a mini miracle in the school.

[ELP]

Congrats to the new blue announcements! I hope everyone is getting used to their own news and are looking forward to that beautiful new little person:) My next scan is the 3rd of June, very excited, I've decided to have a look but not ask, only thing is I have told everyone irl that its likely a boy!! I'm gonna look a bit foolish with a pink bundle now:nails::bigsmile:

[xokatietatie]

Congrats to the new blue announcements! I hope everyone is getting used to their own news and are looking forward to that beautiful new little person:) My next scan is the 3rd of June, very excited, I've decided to have a look but not ask, only thing is I have told everyone irl that its likely a boy!! I'm gonna look a bit foolish with a pink bundle now:nails::bigsmile:

I have one that same day!! 9:00 in the morning :-)

[ELP]

I think? mine is about 11am, I'm uk so we'll have to figure out the time difference! Are you asking or waiting for a suprise???

[Nachelle]

My scan is at 10:30 but I wont be home till 4ish. Im really scared. Im still undecided whether Im going to put it in an envelope or find out!!!! I dont know!!! My stomach is tossing and turning Im so nerve wrecked.

[xokatietatie]

I think? mine is about 11am, I'm uk so we'll have to figure out the time difference! Are you asking or waiting for a suprise???

I was already told boy! I went and paid to have an early scan somewhere, this next one is with my doctor.

[Navywife620]

Stalking Nachelle!!!! Hope to hear some good news!

[My Three Sons]

Stalking... for the US updates and prayers for OK. I can't imagine...


For me, today was a good day. It's the first day I didn't cry about it although I did have some sad moments. I even held it together when a lady at work said, "So, four boys, huh?" I hope to get over this daily sadness soon. I've been shopping for cute baby boy things but unfortunately the cute baby girl things are right there laughing at me and tormenting me too.

[*ruby*]

Good luck today Nachelle!!

I've also been thinking about what has happened in Moore. From what I've seen on the news here in Aus it's just devastating.

[*ruby*]

My 3 Sons I think the comments from people would be the worst so good on you for keeping it together. we won't tell people if we end up finding out we're having a boy for that exact reason. I just don't think I could handle the comments.

[pebmcpd7]

Thank god you and your family are safe! I will def. be keeping everyone that was affected in my prayers!!!

Peb- I was thinking that too! I hope it turns out to be a girl for you!!!!! :)

It's still a BOY!!! I'm OK about it now. No crying, I am looking forward to meeting him now!!

[My Three Sons]

My 3 Sons I think the comments from people would be the worst so good on you for keeping it together. we won't tell people if we end up finding out we're having a boy for that exact reason. I just don't think I could handle the comments.

Actually, when I got to work yesterday, one person that has 4 boys herself asked. I burst into tears. Another one that knew already and her were very nice and supportive. I told them I couldn't handle everyone asking me, especially given that most of them don't really care anyway and it's just feeding the rumor mill. They carefully planted a few "seeds" of gossip through the department so everyone would know and no one would be asking. So far, so good. Each day it's a little better though.

[*ruby*]

I'm so glad you have some supportive friends at work, it's always especially nice to have a friend with the same family make up too.

Congrats on your little boy peb!

[motherofboys]

Glad to hear your feeling better and even excited now peb.

I've had people telling me how lucky I am now. :rolleyes: Someone with one of each telling me she had hoped her daughter was a second boy and how lovely it must be to have all boys.
Its weird how everyone seems to have what everyone else wants.
My next scan isn't until the 13th of June at 22 weeks. So glad I know already or I think I'd have gone mad by then LOL I think it would have been much harder for me if I had carried on the way I was flicking back and forth between thinking girl then boy all the way to 22 weeks.

[ELP]

I was already told boy! I went and paid to have an early scan somewhere, this next one is with my doctor.

Forgive me:) I lose track of people!! Its just going to be so nice seeing him again won't it:) I can't wait to see LO, scans are just so exciting arent they! I hope all the Octobers stay H&H til the end:FX: and are alll born nice and fat!! Whats everyones biggest?? ANyone think they may be due a real juicy little pudding??