New girl swayer

[Prayingpinkgirl]

Hi Attomic, so I was not successful in getting pregnant last month. More in likely bc I am not tracking ovulation correctly. My first day of my af was 12/29/17. It usually lasts 6 days. I have a 26 day cycle. I bough the advanced clear blue ovulation kit. My dh has been abstinent for about 11/12 days. I got my first blinking smiley today CD 12. For the past month I assumed I had a LP 14 but I am thinking it is 12. If I am going for that 1 attempt. What day should we BD? Thank you

[atomic sagebrush]

BD at the first solid smiley.

You can't tell what your LP will be this month based on your previous cycles because your O day can move around quite a lot especialy when swaying.

Good news is 12 day LP is totally normal!

[Prayingpinkgirl]

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Sorry, first flashing smiley face was January 8th CD 11, January 9th CD12 (9 am) -still flashing smiley than CD12 (8pm)-Just smiling face and did wondfo and it was def. positive. We bd @ 11pm last night. Husband was abstinent for about 11/12 days. This is our 1 attempt. This morning did the wondfo and it was still very positive. Is that ok, what day do you think I will ovulate? Thank you so much!

[atomic sagebrush]

The OPK do not tell you anything about ovulation. They tell you about the surge of hormones that triggers ovulation. So you can have a short surge with an OPK that is only positive for a short time, and goes negative before you ever ovulate, or you can have a long surge with OPK that stays positive even past ovulation. The thing that matters is that you will usually ovulate an average of 36 hours after the first positive (not the darkest) whether the tests go negative or stay positive.

[jillhardie]

Hi Atomic,

Back with an update - we are holding our breaths at 9 weeks pregnant! Woo-hoo!
As it turns out, the last month that I declared we were not pregnant and went to seek out clomid, I was indeed pregnant already. Very strange and worrisome start to the pregnancy! What I thought was a lighter period was some heavier implantation bleeding. The doctor did some routine blood work which revealed low hcg. The following hcg was growing, low but not doubling. I didn't feel pregnant and so over the Christmas holidays we were waiting for a miscarriage. I thought for sure by the dating ultrasound I would be told that the pregnancy wasn't successful.
Low and behold we have a baby with a beating heart and all is well!
Thank you so much for your help through this and I will be back in a while to update on the status of the gender!

[atomic sagebrush]

oh that's great news jill! Huge congrats!

I had one of my pregnancies start off with bleeding that I thought was my period too, but ended up with a happy, healthy baby at the end of it. It really is possible, even though I know it seems so strange and nervewrackign!

[PINKwish16]

Any update jillhardie? Hope everything is ok x

[atomic sagebrush]

yes we'd love to know Jill!

[PINKwish16]

Hi atomic, I have been reading a lot of the links on the timing and frequency and I have been getting a bit confused. Please could you confirm/explain which is the best effort for swaying pink when it comes to frequent release or abstaining for hubby. I was reading about frequent release, everyday 7-10 days before the first attempt would be? But then how would the every four day attempts come into it, when do you suggest the first (and hopefully only) attempt be in a cycle? I’ve got so confused trying to work it out now I realise there would more preparation need on his behalf. Do some abstain to sway pink, is that better? Hellllp xxx

[atomic sagebrush]

We don't know which is best, abstain or FR, and neither one has gotten good results. Generally, people under 35 do abstain, those over 35 (or whose hubbies will not abstain) do FR.

The every 4 day method is usually reserved for after having tried with one attempt for a few months. The only people who start off with e4d are typically those in a hurry to get pregnant due to age or work obligations. Most people would start with either abstain or FR plus one attempt usually at positive OPK or at a cutoff.

We do not know what is better between any of these options. The only thing I'm truly sold on is the one attempt.